I want to know if I'm being unreasonable, do I have a right to be UPSET? WHAT Should I do the next time? The Story: Yesterday by b/f and I were @ his mom's house. She is elderly and needed some assistance with cleaning and such. I voluteered to assist her a few days prior (with the cleaning) NOT NECESSARILY THE MOVING OF FURNITURE (but i did not mind) anyway- we show up & my b/f leaves and goes to talk to a neighbor- (which is fine) however He does walk back in & his mother (who still cares for him (cooks,cleans etc. @ HIS AGE OF 34) Until I met him- she still DID ALL this stuff for him... He's NEVER BEEN MARRIED! he walks in & his mother ask him to prepare a mop bucket, so he does! & brings it to us- WE NEED HELP MOVING HEAVY FURNITURE- and notice another (1) of the neighbors/friends pull up-he walks out to speak 2 him and I say (as he was leaving) WE Will need you in 5 minutes. 1hr and 38 minutes later AFTER I do EVERYTHING MYSELF & READY 2 go Home- HE DON"T KNOW WHY I"M MAD!!!!
2007-11-19 01:05:55 · 7 answers · asked by offroad25177sbabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What's reasonable and what "is" is two different things usually, and your story is a perfect example. You acknowledge that he's a 34 year old bachelor who's Mom treats him like a prince, and he's never had to do anything for himself. So in a big way his behavior shouldn't be a surprise but it did make you mad. He's oblivious, because he's never been accountable before since Momma caters to him like a little boy. I think he needs to be taught (by you) that as an adult in an equal relationship, that you need him to pull his weight. He should already know this, but Momma set the stage, so he doesn't. If you want this relationship to work, you'll need to spell out your expectations clearly, and hopefully he's a fast learner.
2007-11-19 01:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all. How previous are the two one among you? If he's 21+ then you cant assume him to no longer drink. you may assume him to no longer get below the impression of alcohol, yet to no longer in basic terms drink socially. If he's youthful than 21, you have got a sprint extra say, yet i would not assume plenty. in case you do no longer prefer him eating, tell him. it is in basic terms that easy. Secondly, any female pal that informed me to no longer flow everywhere, for the uncomplicated reason that a single (promptly) lady would be there, would not be around for long. it is declared as have faith. the two you have it or you do no longer. And it makes relationships very puzzling (to no longer point out plenty shorter) once you do no longer have faith your better half. in step with, "Out of all of this the single difficulty that somewhat bothers me the main is the alcohol and the different 2 promptly ladies which would be there," leads me to have faith which you dont have faith him. and that's the only unreasonable section. Now in case you knew those ladies and you knew what they have been like, and it troubled you that he would be on my own with them, this could be a distinctive case.
2016-10-17 06:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was you who volunteered to help his mom to help for cleaning the house.You know well that household chores are such that work may increase.In fact you should have departed cheerfully with a satisfaction of having done a good job. If you could not enjoy helping his mom, take a lesson for future.
2007-11-19 01:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset too. I would just tell him the truth, something like "I am irritated with you because you didn't help very much at your mom's house." and take it from there. Some people are genuinely not perceptive and need to be told because they'll never get it, but some are just selfish...
2007-11-19 01:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lacey's mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk! Even if you volunteered he should have not left you like that!
Time for you to wake up and smell the coffee. Obviously, he is a lazy scumbag and for sure he will treat you like a dishrag! Look for somebody else and dump the asshole!
2007-11-19 01:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously a loser! Don't waste anymore of your time with him!
2007-11-19 01:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's lazy and worthless.....just worthless.
2007-11-19 01:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋