Family - October 2007

First, let me say that I am about as close as and ex-mother and law and ex-wife can be.I have lived with her both with my ex-husband and without. Also, my ex-husband is a drug addict and a looser.I say this with no malice, its just the truth. Here is the issue:my ex was working and paying child support for the first time ever (our son is 12).About a week ago he got black out drunk and broke his arm.This makes him unable to work and therefore unable to pay any support. I found out last night that she went ahead and paid his rent, bought him groceries, etc., since he has no money.What this means to me is that I am the only 1 suffering for his bad decision to get that drunk.He has a place to live and food. Now all he has to do is hang out with his GF, get high, play video games and watch TV. I am now without means to pay my bills. I feel she shouldnt have rewarded him for his bad decision. should I say something, or just leave it be? I am really, really angry about this.

2007-10-16 04:53:31 · 7 answers · asked by pepper_0713 2

when ur child gets suspended is that a break for the teachers, punshment for the parents and how does it benefit the child? if anything i think the child is more then happy to be at home.

2007-10-16 04:51:02 · 7 answers · asked by Zest 3

my 18 year old sis just got back from fl she was with a guy she been with since 8th grade and now he doesn't care bout her he hangs out till 2 in the morning and hides his phone so she cant c it ... she might want to go back but he used to hit her .. i need a way 2 get her to stay what do i tell her?

2007-10-16 04:41:42 · 3 answers · asked by BЯIGHT 2

when his younger daughter of 4 yrs of age is watching tv he tells his older daughter of 10yrs of age time for her bath and he gives her the bath not the mother. Is that normal?

2007-10-16 04:25:28 · 29 answers · asked by mustangs5875 1

I have been trying to walk away from a seriously abusive mother for many years. I don't want to get into it, or sound insensitive, but how do I just walk away? I know it is going to hurt...but I need to keep myself safe.

2007-10-16 04:06:22 · 9 answers · asked by Little Miss Jake 3

2007-10-16 03:16:24 · 11 answers · asked by tenji 1

I just dropped one of this Beautiful Chinese Crockery Plate, My mother got last week...The plate just slipped from my hand..And Ughhhh...I feel terrible now....I know I should be telling mother...But, how I wish I could rewind the whole thing.......Have u ppl ever been in a situation like this one??

And...Yeah... They are only five of them now... :- ((((((((((

2007-10-16 02:57:52 · 7 answers · asked by ~Shaz~ 2

Definatley my mum, my dad was like Robert De Niro from 'This boy's life'. Not nice.

2007-10-16 02:56:47 · 25 answers · asked by Smoochy Poochy 6

My step daughter has lived with us for the past 3years. Her mother just one day kind decided to leave and that she has other things to do. Her mom comes and sees her every great once in a while and recently told her that she is going to have another baby. My step daughter is upset and I am not for sure what to do. She has another brother that lives with her mother already but she is hurt, she is feeling like her mother wants this new baby and her brother but didn't want her. I am trying to explain to her that is not the case but its hard. She is seven by the way. Any advice would be great thanks.

2007-10-16 02:51:16 · 6 answers · asked by sara y 1

She's 21. I've lived with my mom and stepdad most of my life, and they are really bad parents. I'm not just saying that like any other rebellious teenager would..they really are unfit. My stepdad never wanted children and my mother just wasn't ready. She isn't responsible. Our house is always a mess, she never has a job, and she lays in bed all day. My stepdad gets more and more violent everyday. He broke my mom's wrist this week. We always argue and he wants to kick me out. I have a 13 year old brother. How do I go about getting out of here and going to live with my sister? And how long do I have to wait for my brother to be old enough? My home is veryy unstable. Sometimes we go without water. We have no phone, cable, internet, etc.

2007-10-16 02:39:13 · 31 answers · asked by }).Jessi.({ 2

I've got a family meal coming up at my mother-in-laws house and I can't stand her. My sister-in-law will also be there and she's just a younger version of her bag of a mother so I've got to put up with them for about 6 hours. My husband just ignores all of the rude comments that are for my benefit from dragon and daughter of dragon so I can't rely on him for support. Do I just ignore them while they make remarks about my job, my appearance, the way my son is being brought up etc, or do I walk out?

2007-10-16 02:35:30 · 44 answers · asked by christine s 4

I'am now married and have 3 daughters.My parents Never call to see how i'am doing.I always have to call them.They never spend time with my children but they always take in my sisters children.I have always gave them money and such but not once got a thank you.They never talked to me as a child whenever i needed someone.They slept with other people (swingers)but felt it was none of my business and it did not have anything to do with me but it did it affected the way i love and trust someone.I was also made fun of because of their ways and was also judged over it.When i was about 9 yrs old a so called friend of the family's tried to molest me.He never got to because my sister woke up and protected me.My parents knew what had happened but did not try and protect me they continued allowing this person to come around.They still let him come to their house after all these years.Anyways i wrote all this in their letter and let them know how hurt i'am over all this.should i feel guilty??

2007-10-16 02:28:47 · 11 answers · asked by jessica b 1

I have a boyfriend that I love, and I have a family that I love. For some reason, my family just hates my boyfriend. I live in Georgia by the way. I told my family that I want to go back to New York City to settle down where my boyfriend lives. That doesn't mean that I want to go to ny because of my boyfriend. When I stay home, I feel like I'm getting lazy because I feel too comfortable. I told my family that I got a job in ny and I have to go back to ny on next tuesday. My family just tried to come up with any excuse to not letting me go to ny. I know they worry about me, but I'm already 22, and I'm an adult. I have a airplane ticket, and I'm planning to go to airport whether they will let me go or not. Am I doing the right thing?

2007-10-16 02:26:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

It wasn't much lower, but there's more to the story. A couple of years ago we were in the final stages of buying the house when I had to get a new car. We didn't want to be financially strapped, so we held off on buying the house. During that time, the housing boom took off, and my parents came up with a new price for us... $125,000 MORE than what they originally offered us. You can imagine how we felt. My sister bought a house from them also and did not have to pay anything near that. Anyways, I finally had it. I e-mailed them stating that we paid for all repairs on this house and were never re-imbursed, though we gave them our receipts which they wrote off on their taxes!!! We finally stopped giving them receipts when we weren't getting reimbursed, though my mom continued to ask for receipts!!! I think they finally saw my point and came up with an offer for us.. we'd pay about $7,000 more than what they paid, but they would pay our closing costs.

2007-10-16 02:01:55 · 14 answers · asked by 2Beagles 6

i dont have nothing against my mother in -law but thare were a few things that bother me alittle to much but everytime that i told my wife she would get mad or upset . for example i would plan like lets go to the gymm and from there i was ganna take her to eat at a restaurant and then like 10 to 15 minutes later her mom calls and ask her to go with her some where and she cancells our plan and im like what the hell i didnt even knew about it until she told after what i told what i wanted to do cause i worked in the graveyard and i would only see her during the weekends and she still would go to her moms all the time and i would plan things and she would cancell them like for a whole week until i told her how i flt about it and she stoped for a fe days and then she would start again and i just got tire cause i thought we were married and not my wife and her mom , was i wrong or right?

2007-10-16 00:01:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

well my friends mom just got back together with this guy
and like he always comes over and is always with her mom and
she doesnt like it and she told her mom that but she wont listen so she is very depressed and sad that she cant spent enough time with her mom. as her friend i tried telling her its gonna be okay and stuff like that. but its been a while and i dont know what else to say. help?!?!?!?!

2007-10-15 18:35:03 · 2 answers · asked by lalala123 1

I have a sister in-law, she brings her own problem from her side of her family and work to our home and its not healthy for her child. She even gives my brother a hard time like ignore him and not letting him know what's on her mind. She works and comes home and don't do nothing but nap sometimes while my mother and I take care of the baby. My nephew is 1 yr. old and he sleeps with my mom and dad which are his grandparents but the thing is doesn't she care or even miss him. She tells my parents that you sleep with the baby cause she cannot get enough rest at night. we asked her if we can adopt the baby but she refuse. I have a child and even sometimes I work late I miss her.

2007-10-15 18:30:24 · 8 answers · asked by koi 1

We aren't married but have been together for 14yrs, he has 3 kids living with EX 23,18,16, I have 2- 26,23 both now living on their own. During the past year I've had some rather not so subtle hints at how they really feel about me and how I'm not part of the "family". I've been to every family event, holidays, birthdays, etc. My grandson, born 04/06 invited all to shower.. non showed .2 sent gifts 2 no RSVP,no gift ,no card. Christmas.. same 2.. no card no gift! Then last weekend mother passed.( called baby greatgrandson) Pastor asked family(I was asked) to give poem or say something about her. I found a really nice poem Ito read.. Brother did nice power point presentation, asked me for pictures. I gave them a web address for my "photo albums" told them some I thought would be nice. Told at service he couldn't pull any from the site but "put in pictures of everyone they had not to worry". Not only did my poem NOT get read, NO pictures included. I'm really hurt by this. Tell or Not?

2007-10-15 18:11:08 · 12 answers · asked by Ramoth41 3

So recently, my older sister (who is 25, married, and has 2 young kids) moved in with my mother and I in order to save money. I was never really thrilled with the idea of her moving in. Not in a bad way, but I knew exactly what would happen. She has over dominated the house. My mother moved downstairs with my grandmother. Ever since my sister moved in, my mother has been incredibly mean towards me. I get treated like dirt. Nobody even cares for me anymore. I am like the dust on somebody's shoulder. All the rules have suddenly changed due to suit my sisters needs. For example, I used to come home from school, and drop my books on the couch. Now when I do that, I get yelled at. I can't take naps in the living room, I can't do this, and I can't do that. This whole situation has me really frustrated and upset. I feel like I have been shoved into a box (my room is small) and they don't care much. I tell them how I feel and they could care less. All that they are worried about are themselves

2007-10-15 18:02:54 · 2 answers · asked by thats what you get <3 3

ok, so my little borhter (11) and im 13 1/2. Im 2 years older, and were matched in strength. He doesnt respect me or anyone esle in my house, especially me since i tell him to stop being a dick. He doesnt listen to, to turns, reasoning, and even minor threats and violence. I begin with reasoning and end with violence to where we fight till no one wins, and i dont go full on him. if i do, he will go crying to his mom, lie, and get me grounded. Hes a tattle tell, *****, who doesnt reepect me. HOW DO I GTE THE LITTLE FREAK TO RESPECT ME?? DO I BEAT HIM Up?? im not one for violence either, if thats the onlt way, so be it, ill beat him snesneless for a week till he gtes it, but itf theres another way then thats good. whenever i tell my parents he calss me a sissy, and when i dont he gest away with it so parents are a no. HE ALWAYS TALKS DOWN TO ME TOO!! he also punches me and kicks me in the balls, and i call him names for it of course, but he initiates it! HELP!!

2007-10-15 18:00:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brothers children from his second marriage are becoming the same as his children from his first marriage. So sad, to see children, sexually active, so young, my niece is 12, and has had many boys, my nephew is 17 and has been with several girls, I just don't know what they need, what is it they are needing. The obvious one is affection and love from their parents, why do, they need to "start" so young with this side of their life.
Young people out there, please share. Why, is it so attractive to you all, what is it that you need, that you feel you are getting from casual sex.

2007-10-15 17:43:06 · 19 answers · asked by Astro 5

My gma hates me & my siblings and treats us sub-par in comparison to our cousins within the family. There is no real reason for this, she is just a hateful, snobby person. The funny thing is, the ones she treats better are inconsiderate and unappreciative.
Nevertheless, she will purposely give us crap gifts, hand-me-downs...that never bothered me too much but now she is spreading the hate to our children, her great grandchildren.
Ex: Buying one child a playstation and then my child a $5 wal-mart toy.
I would hate for my children to feel the pain this woman purposely inflicts on us
What can I do?

2007-10-15 17:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by Offending Party 6

Some one Please help me with this...... it is soooooo stressing me out...
i have two daughters ok. My oldest 16. lives with her daddy (i agreed to this she wannted too) and my 8 year old lives with me..
ok.. She (8 year old) goes to her daddys on weekends.. Well she was melosted by her fathers girlfriends son(13) and before that happend he ejackulated off in front of my other daughter as well...
iam trying to get full custody of my 16 year old.(she still dont want to live with me..) dont want to leave daddy alone...(big deal) but.. her father wouldnt even remove that boy from his home aftere what he did... So iam tryin to get custody of my oldest daughter against her will.. also tryin to prove her dad unfit over all this .. Yes he was home when this took place..Quess what he even watched it happend for a hour before he went in the liveing room and told boy get off my daughter... His excuse was........ the boy had his back faceing him and couldnt really see what he was doing to her..

2007-10-15 17:08:24 · 4 answers · asked by mary c 1

He is so rebelious and talks down at me.. I cant stand it! HELP!

2007-10-15 16:59:11 · 11 answers · asked by lostnlove 2

My sister is 34, I'm 31. She is a chronic drug user, and shes lost custody of her 2 yr old son. My poor parents now have custody of him, they're in their 60's and i worry about how they're coping with all of this. She abuses them, and child safety dept is NO help at all, telling her that she can have supervised visits with them in charge. My father cries all the time, and is also gets so angry with my mum. Mum is trying to be strong but she gets so tired, too. I have 3 small kids of my own, so any help i can offer them is limited. I have lost my parents, they no longer have time for me or my kids, and if we do get together all we do is discuss HER and her problems. She blames everyone else for her life, she is currently not speaking to me, calls me every name under the sun, basically shes a complete mess. I worry that my dad will have a heart attack and my mother a stroke. Then I'll be left to deal with her. Is there anyone out there in similar circumstances? I feel so sad.

2007-10-15 16:57:23 · 6 answers · asked by bahl 3

ok so my parents say im being rude for going to my room when i get home and not talking to them about my day and stuff like that but i always do they just ignore me or interrupt me and change the subject. And my mom asks me for money to pay bills and i always give it to her but she hides it form my dad. She doesnt want him to find out about them. but after i loan them so much i just want to save it for a house and college cuz they have already spent my college money that i had in a savings account. i think enough is enough. wat should i do????

2007-10-15 16:47:48 · 3 answers · asked by huskerdude55 1

My brother is constantly lying and never gets yelled at but its constantly me that gets slapped in my face. My brother does alot of things but lie about them. It's crazy,how all the time i try to make my mother happy i fail i just give up! it's bad enough she thinks i'm crazy but now its worse cause she slaps me for what reason?

My two oldest brothers dropped out of high school and was never around in the first place and she really thinks i'm going to be like them. It hurts me alot i've tried so hard and she thinks i'm like my abusive, drug addictive...daddy. I've never hit anyone or taken drugs.

I think i'm just going to leave.

2007-10-15 16:22:58 · 11 answers · asked by nicole_sweetie2000 1

i never met my granfather & my uncle [his son ]asked me if i love him i ddnt say anything....he felt bad but wat can i do

2007-10-15 16:21:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a new model ,I am the youngest model in our company

I like this job,I can wear many fashion clothes to show me everyday and I can make money to support myself and my father. My father and mother divorced 15 years ago,I always live with him.

Do you think I look nice ?

http://www.in-brands.com/Simplified/ProductList.asp?SortID=3&SortPath=0,3,

But now I meet a big problem,my boss asked me to make love with him,of course I can't ,what should I do?

2007-10-15 16:02:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was at balet dancing and having fun and dancing around with my team and everybodys parents were watching exept mine because i said go away your too embarrising and im crying because I wish i never said that and right now shes watching tv with my dad having fun what can i do to feel better?

2007-10-15 16:01:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous