Mother and Sister Problems?

Question

So recently, my older sister (who is 25, married, and has 2 young kids) moved in with my mother and I in order to save money. I was never really thrilled with the idea of her moving in. Not in a bad way, but I knew exactly what would happen. She has over dominated the house. My mother moved downstairs with my grandmother. Ever since my sister moved in, my mother has been incredibly mean towards me. I get treated like dirt. Nobody even cares for me anymore. I am like the dust on somebody's shoulder. All the rules have suddenly changed due to suit my sisters needs. For example, I used to come home from school, and drop my books on the couch. Now when I do that, I get yelled at. I can't take naps in the living room, I can't do this, and I can't do that. This whole situation has me really frustrated and upset. I feel like I have been shoved into a box (my room is small) and they don't care much. I tell them how I feel and they could care less. All that they are worried about are themselves

So what should I do? Should I take them to a family counselor? Should I just talk to them myself? I can't stand this whole situation. My sister has become the most important part to this family and I am like nothing. Nobody really cares about me. I am severy upset, depressed, and angry. I just want her to leave. There is no reason why she should have moved in in the first place. I want her out but every time I tell her or my mother they say "ha ha guess what I am not leaving". Its not fair that she has dominated MY HOME AND MY MOTHERS HOME and made it hers. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Answer 1

You should try to talk to your mother without yelling. However don't expect her to do too much. Sounds like you are low woman on the totem pole. I honestly think you are probably just going to have to ride it out and know that someday you will be on your own, in your own home, making your own rules and at that point don't take in any relatives! Good luck, I hope things get better for you. Sometimes families truly suck but your family is your family.

Answer 2

Thr prodigal daughter, huh?

About all you can do is try to keep to yourself and remove yourself from conflict as much as possible. Get into as many extracurricular activities as you can handle or get a job after school, study at the library or at a friend's house... anything for a legitimate excuse to be out of there.

I would also suggest putting a keyed lock on your bedroom door to keep the little rats out of there.