What's up with her?

Question

I have a sister in-law, she brings her own problem from her side of her family and work to our home and its not healthy for her child. She even gives my brother a hard time like ignore him and not letting him know what's on her mind. She works and comes home and don't do nothing but nap sometimes while my mother and I take care of the baby. My nephew is 1 yr. old and he sleeps with my mom and dad which are his grandparents but the thing is doesn't she care or even miss him. She tells my parents that you sleep with the baby cause she cannot get enough rest at night. we asked her if we can adopt the baby but she refuse. I have a child and even sometimes I work late I miss her.

Answer 1

She might be depressed. It is good that her baby has a loving extended family to make up for what his mother is not able to give him right now. Please keep on helping to take care of him. He deserves it.

Answer 2

Well, Maybe the stuff isn't little maybe it's really serious. bout what's going on with the other side of the family. Try to have her see a councilor or something like that. But i know when people are really stressed out and stuff they just want to be left alone and just time to relax. only cause she doesn't say she misses her child doesn't mean she doesn't miss the child. And if you brother is her husband, she should be able to tell him anything and talk to him about anything. That's the hole point of being married.

Answer 3

Your parents have to draw the line on what they are willing to put up with. That means they can require everyone to do their fair share of the chores, and they can put the baby out in a playpen in the den if they want some sleep. They really should issue a firm move-out date for your brother and his wife to get their own place and move out.
Your brother needs to draw the line on what he will and will not tolerate.
Other than bringing this up to the parents and the brother separately and privately, you really need to back off and stay out of it.

Answer 4

*Maybe you need to cut your sister-in-law some slack; right now it sounds like she is not your very favorite person.One wonders: Have you ever liked her?Your brother seems to be able to cohabit with her.
*You are right to say that she is abdicating her motherly duties but it would also appear that her kid's grand parents(your parents) do not seem to find the baby-care function a burden, at least you do not talk of them complaining about it.
*Your offer of adopting your brother's child for the reasons given does not sound well intentioned, it's more like a By-product of your discontent with your sister-in-law.
I would suggest you have a Heart to Heart discussion with your brother first and determine what his feelings and intentions are in this matter, before you involve your self any further in your brother's marital affairs.Be sure that you have his interests at heart at all times.

Answer 5

Such problems exist in most of the joint families. You should advice your brother to talk to his wife and make her understand the way all of you need to share the responsibility and live happily in the house. Else he can even move out and start a home exclusively for his family.

Answer 6

Let your brother solve the problem. Do not get involved and so advise your parents.

Until as an ultimatium arises keep away.

Answer 7

my s-i-l was like that, only she didin't work(doesn't). Turns out shes just a lazy ***** caught up in drama. But yours sounds like postpartum depression.

Answer 8

beat that ***** ***, nah but try telling her straight up what the deal is.