My step daughters mother is having a baby?

Question

My step daughter has lived with us for the past 3years. Her mother just one day kind decided to leave and that she has other things to do. Her mom comes and sees her every great once in a while and recently told her that she is going to have another baby. My step daughter is upset and I am not for sure what to do. She has another brother that lives with her mother already but she is hurt, she is feeling like her mother wants this new baby and her brother but didn't want her. I am trying to explain to her that is not the case but its hard. She is seven by the way. Any advice would be great thanks.

Answer 1

Just keep reminding her that she has two parents who love her very much (you and your husband) and how important she is to you. Her mother sounds like a cold b#tch; it's a good thing she's not with her mother.

Answer 2

Just tell here that here mother is an idiot and she is better off without here. Her mother needs some serious help. She wants to bring a child into this world so she can have a baby to make her feel good, but when it comes time for the real parenting then she dumps them off somewhere else. Tell your step daughter that her mother has problems and that she is not to blame. Make her feel wanted and loved and she should be OK. Counseling for her would not hurt either.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Reasure Her That Her Mother Will Always Love Her Juat As Much As Her Brother And The New Baby. And Comfort Her So That If She Feels She Is Not Being Loved By Her Mum Then Atleast She Will No That You Still Love Her.

Answer 4

She has every right to feel this way because it sounds like it's the TRUTH! This poor child is much wiser than the average 7 year old. Best advice here is to just love her as much as you can and talk with her mom about this. The MOM needs to know what she's doing to her daughter. Does this child realize that this baby is going to be her brother/sister? I get so angry when parents act like this toward their own children. It's not fair to the kids at all. However you must drill in her head that she is loved. Her mom needs a good kick in the rear for making her daughter feel this way. G'luck with this.

Answer 5

Hi..

you seem like a great step mother, being so concerned.

divorce and separation from parents is very hard on a child. your step daughter probably feels it's all her fault and that she isn't 'good enough' or did something to cause this.

you and i both know this isn't true, but kids don't understand sometimes. i can see how difficult this would be for a child.

you could consider talking with her father about some therapy for the girl... she deserves to realize and accept the fact that her mother has been selfish, and neglectful, and that it's her mother's choice and doing -- and not your step daughter's fault at all.

i really think kids deserve good help. lots of emotional pain involved with absent parents at times, and when there was a divorce in their pasts.

my son was in counseling from age 7 -9 because of his issues with my divorce from his dad. it really helped him to realize a lot about his father, and life in general.

i hope it works out.

Answer 6

my mom left me with my dad when i was four, then started going out with a woman when i was five. he married her when i was eight. during this time my mom came and seen me about twice a year, she did this until i was about fourteen then we got into a fight and i haven't seen her in two years. She has another child, that i have only met once. she is four. i, in a way, am glad that my mother didn't want me, b/c i know that my stepmom does. she makes up for the love that i dont feel from my biological mother. I am sixteen now, and though i know that my stepmom is not biologically mine, she is physically abd emotionally mine and older sister (who my mom left as well.) my mom still sees my older sister like once a year, but doesn't want to see me after the fight we had. I think that i can honestly say that i do not care anymore, and that is bc my stepmom is there for me everyday, through every fight, every time that i am sick she is the one that takes care of me, if i get in trouble(which happens often) she grounds me... she has been there through every big and small thing in my life, and that is what matters. I dont know if i answered ur question the way that u wanted it answered, but i do hope that it helped. I know that a lot of kids dont love their stepmoms, but mine is wonderful. and in the end that is all that matters.