Should I go live with my sister?

Question

She's 21. I've lived with my mom and stepdad most of my life, and they are really bad parents. I'm not just saying that like any other rebellious teenager would..they really are unfit. My stepdad never wanted children and my mother just wasn't ready. She isn't responsible. Our house is always a mess, she never has a job, and she lays in bed all day. My stepdad gets more and more violent everyday. He broke my mom's wrist this week. We always argue and he wants to kick me out. I have a 13 year old brother. How do I go about getting out of here and going to live with my sister? And how long do I have to wait for my brother to be old enough? My home is veryy unstable. Sometimes we go without water. We have no phone, cable, internet, etc.

Answer 1

NO!!!! DON'T DO IT!!!!!

Answer 2

First of all, if there is a clear danger for you or your brother, you really do need to call the police. It's that simple. They all have resource information and can best direct you based on what is available in your area. Do that. Do that right now ...

OK. If you're still reading, you *didn't* do that. So here's the deal: if the only one that you can confide in is a Yahoo! bulletin board, there are bigger problems here.

You need to find an adult you can trust, like a favorite teacher, or, ideally, a school counselor, who can help you sort out your situation. Really. Do that. Find someone, and if you can't, then call for the police and they'll help you find a resource. If the social services get involved and you and your brother need a more fit environment, in all likelihood, that better environment may be with your sister. Who knows? Until you ask, you won't know.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

You don't say how old you are, but it sounds like you do need to leave. You mother sounds depressed and your stepfather sounds like a tyrant. If you step father broke your mother's wrist, the police should have been called and they should have charged him with battery. You may be best off with your mother, without your step father. She may not know how to get rid of him, or feel too insecure to do so. She is being abused, and you are also being abused by not being taken care of.

Also, talk to a teacher, a priest, a counselor in your school, or even a telephone hotline (usually there is a "Crisis center" or something similar in the front of a phone book). Go to the library and look it up, and borrow a cell phone if you need to.

You mother needs help, and she needs someone to help her out of her situation. You did not say if drugs were involved, but that may be part of the issue as well.

I am sorry. You are growing up too fast and have a lot to deal with. Do what you can to help, clean up the house, look for ways to earn money yourself. Talk to your big sister about moving in with her and tell her how you can contribute. At 21, she probably is not financially ready to care for someone completely dependent. If you are responsible, and you have an older sibling you can live with, you can be "emancipated" at 16 and be responsible for yourself. However, you will have to show a judge that you are mature and the ability to function as an adult.

Answer 4

you dont say what age you are but if you are old enought o make your own choices then i would suggest you go and stay with your sister as soon as possible, as for your brother, there is no reason why he cant stay at your sisters as a 'visitor' and you could talk to your local social work office about the state of the house and your mum and stepdads relationship. if your sister is employed and can be considered a responsible adult then she should be able to have your brother stay with her as well.
failing that, let me know where to find your stepdad and ill make sure he isnt violent any more.

Answer 5

If your 18, you can move out anytime. If your younger then 18 you need a court order to be able to move out, or for someone else to be your guardian. If your under 18 you can also have your parents sign a letter stating it's okay for you to go live with your sister due to you feeling unsafe at the house.

I would have called the cops when he hurt your mom. That's ridicilious. Do it, so he will go to jail where he belongs..im sorry but that is not good. What if he touches you?

Without water?????????????

CALL THE COPS AND MAKE A POLICE REPORT..

You could also try to do it when your parents wouldn't know turn them into the child protective services...

Cable and internet is not a need but water is.

Answer 6

You can't just go live with your sister if she's not willing to take on the responsibility. Her being 21 she may not be ready to parent you and your brother. Perhaps you need to talk to your sister and see how she feels about becoming a parent to you and your brother before making plans to just move in on her. However you need to understand that in the eyes of the law having cable, internet and some other worldly items are not necessary to live therefore your parents don't have to provide them. They are only responsible to provide you with what you need to live not wants and desires. Talk to your sister and see if she or perhaps another relative will be willing to step in and care for you and your brother until you turn of legal age to get out on your own.

Answer 7

If you are in school, please tell the counselor or a teacher about what is going on. If your sister can take you guys and is willing then she is old enough to do so and can probably get financial assistance to help feed you guys etc. She could probably also take both of you (assuming she is deemed "fit" herself). I know from experience that when one sibling leaves it is worse for those who are left. I would not recommend leaving your brother by himself (unless you have no choice or he does not face these problems (doubtful)).

If you go to a teach or social worker or police, doctor etc, they are required by law to look into your situation and help you. If your sister is willing you might have her go with you so she can take you guys right away because I don't know how the foster system works.

Good luck and know that things will get better god willing.

Answer 8

Tell a couselor or teacher at school about your living situation. They'll make it easier for you to get out of the house. Otherwise, your parents could by law, make you stay until you are of age.

Maybe living with a young adult wouldn't be the best thing for you, but it does beat living with abusive and neglectful parents. If you have anyone else, I would talk to them. If not, go with your sister.

I understand that you would feel like you are betraying your family by telling someone else about their faults, but you would be saving yourself and your brother a lot of pain and suffering. No one should have to live the way you are living, and just imagine what your little brother is learning by watching his parents.

Answer 9

Call your sister and tell her these things. IF you already have then call SOCIAL SERVICES - at least you will have a hot meal and clean place to sleep! Sick parents you have BUT that's NOT your fault or your brothers. YOU and your brother deserve better. GET some help for your MOM! Report your step dad before he really goes off the deep end - he sounds like he's there already. Pleaseeeeeeeee get some help before one of you kids get hurt. Call your sister now! Maybe she can help with your mom also. Your mom sounds like she's depressed. My prayers are with you and yours.

Answer 10

Why not seek the help of other people? Your closest relatives and friends ? Maybe they could give you some advice your troubled mind couldn't figure out. If you're planning to live with your sister be sure she's capable of supporting you and your brother of all your needs and protection , otherwise, go and report what's happening to your family to the proper government authority.

Answer 11

It doesn't seem like they would care or fight too hard if you left, so leave. I do not think that moving in with your sister will be a lot better, but maybe it will to you. Your brother will have to fend for himself until he can get out. If it is bad enough that you fear for his or your life then you need to talk to your guidance counselor at school. That is what they are there for.