My brother is constantly lying and never gets yelled at but its constantly me that gets slapped in my face. My brother does alot of things but lie about them. It's crazy,how all the time i try to make my mother happy i fail i just give up! it's bad enough she thinks i'm crazy but now its worse cause she slaps me for what reason?
My two oldest brothers dropped out of high school and was never around in the first place and she really thinks i'm going to be like them. It hurts me alot i've tried so hard and she thinks i'm like my abusive, drug addictive...daddy. I've never hit anyone or taken drugs.
I think i'm just going to leave.
2007-10-15 16:22:58 · 11 answers · asked by nicole_sweetie2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yea i'm 17 getting ready to graduate from high school.
2007-10-15 16:30:30 · update #1
Your mom is taking her frustrations out on you. She is not please with her family, and she gears her angry at you, especially since you are good person, and its wrong to do that to you. You know the terrible things your brothers has gotten themselves involve in. Make a promise to yourself that no matters what happens in your life you'll won't lie or drop out of school.
Your mother had made a false accusation toward you. You know that you're not addictive to drugs, and you never will be either. I am sure you already know that you will never treat you kids the way she does you. Promise that to yourself.
I know it is hard for you to live in your parents home. If it becomes really unbearable, make sure that you have a nice safe place go to. Maybe you can stay with your grandparents or cousin. Please don't get out there into the streets, because it is dangerous. I know your mother is going to regret it once you leave.
In all don't hate your mother. It's not healthy.I will keep you in my prayers. I will also pray for your family. God bless
2007-10-15 16:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run that doesn't solve anything! Sit down with your mom and let her know how you really feel it can't hurt .Mom I would like to have a serious talk there are a few things getting to me and vent out what the issues are but 1st prepare some kind of list and talk it out in you mind first or with someone you trust.go from there , you know how you mom is better than anyone so keep that in mind when you create your list, don't place blame also we all do things good or bad but you could say mom it bothers me that you compare me to my dad or my brothers for example.Also keep that in mind too you do not want to place blame or make your stresses turn into an argument/fight you just want things to be different or to stop.
That it affects you and gets you angry/upset . Hope this helps Good luck!!
2007-10-15 16:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Graduate.
If you are not working, then get a job and start banking your money. The Christmas shopping season is coming, so get on somewhere and prove your worth!
You will need money for deposits and such. The other good thing is that it provides you with a legitimate excuse to be away from the house.
Get a bank account and have your statements hit a PO Box.
You can probably get a couple of roomies and share a multi-bedroom apartment pretty cheaply... each gets their own room.
Good luck.
2007-10-15 18:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away is never the answer. If you haven't already, let your mother know how you feel. Show her how much you love her. Just the words "I Love You, Mom" really mean alot to a mother, maybe then she might slow down and see that your really are different. Be patient, but refuse to be abused. Abuse can last a lifetime on the soul. Good luck and keep your chin up!
2007-10-15 16:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by girl_luvs_guitars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't...running won't solve your problems, but it will create more problems... I, too have felt just like you. I was the only girl amongst three brothers. My father is prison right now for drug abuse. It's hard...there were times I wanted to run away from not only my family, but myself. But that's not the answer...Trust me...you need to have a sit down with your mother. Tell her what you've told us. And speak by action. Stay in school, do the right thing and DON'T be a product of your environment. I will keep you in my prayers. God loves you man...
2007-10-15 16:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write your mom a letter. When I was young I had a hard time talking to my dad, and he picked on me more than any of the other kids, so I wrote him letters, But I did not talk disrespectful in them, I just told him how I felt, and I always told him that I loved him at the end of my letters, and things did change,it took awhile. Maybe she doesnt see what she is doing to you, and deep down inside she might be fearful and she doesnt want you to turn out like the others.
2007-10-15 16:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by tanat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea to leave if your under age. Try having a talk with your mom about the affect this is having on you. And if this doesn't work talk to a responsible family member about your situation and ask if they can have you over until you finish school. Good luck.
2007-10-15 16:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an emancipation. I don't suggest it, but if you really want to get away, don't just run.
Perhaps you could keep yourself happy by realizing that it wasn't just your brothers that screwed up, it was also your mom. She wasn't the best mom she could be to them, and they finally just dropped out. Don't let the same happen to her. Show her up by succeeding, and when she comes to apologize, then you can decide whether you want to forgive her or not.
2007-10-15 16:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont...it makes things worse... your mom is picking on you because shes hurt and theres pain inside her.. she lashes it out on you.. dont let her... stand up to yourself.. tell her that your arent like any of your other family members and threaten to leave home if she keeps treating you like this... its wrong your mom slaps you... stay at a friends house if it gets worse... you need to make a goal for your life and stick to it... tell her that if she doesnt want you to become like your other family ppls... she needs to leave so you can live your life and become something.... running away doesnt solve anything.. hang on there and stick up for yourself...talk to someone for emotional support , talk to someone for guidance so you can make a positive decision... you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-15 16:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you are under 18 years old. Talk to a relative (aunt/uncle) teacher, clergy. Maybe they can help you.
2007-10-15 16:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋