Family - August 2007

Imagine the following:

Your father leaves your mother. He moves into an apartment 4 blocks away so that your younger sister, age 15, can stay with him some of the time. Your mother becomes severely mentally ill (clinically depressed) and loses a ton of weight. Your father ends up spending little time at his apartment and sneaking around to be with the woman with whom he cheated.

Your sister, overwhelmed by trying to live with your ill mother at her house, goes to his apartment even though he's with his adulteress. She hangs out there and uses his computer, where she finds an instant message between her father and this woman, describing vindictively the places in your ill mother's house where they had sex, even including your mother's car, while she was in the hospital.

Your father is now engaged to this woman.

Do you make the decision to sever contact with them?

2007-08-25 08:05:07 · 5 answers · asked by Buying is Voting 7

i've never really known my dad. he hasnt been around since i was in the 5th grade. [im an up comming senior in highschool]
i see him once in awhile but he is NOT the type of man i like to be around. he so selfish, at least when it comes to me and my mom. but hes good to everyone else.
in order to finish my last year of highshool i have to live with him [my mom moved for a better job to the other side of the state, and my other family live far away , and non of my friends have xtra room]

basically, a few days ago my father and i got into a HUGE fight and it got semi violent in the middle of the streets at 11 oclock at night [he didnt hurt me or anything]

how i feel right now? i strongly dislike him. i DONT want to live with him.

my whole life is where i live, hes the only option i have [unless i live on the STREETS lol jk]

the next day he called me. i didnt answer. and i have yet to listen to his voice mail.

my question:

should i listen to his voicemail? confused!

2007-08-25 07:31:57 · 6 answers · asked by Sprinkles24 1

My father makes comments about how I am "too quiet" I am divorced and he says that he can see how my "In-laws found fault with me because I never offered them tea or food."

I feel bad and then brood about these comments. He does not know because he never lived with me and my In-laws.

These comments do tend to hurt me and I know that his intent is good. He wants to see me change. I don't like his nosey, controlling nature, but can' t say anything to him.

How do I not let his comments get to me?

2007-08-25 07:31:30 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

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2007-08-25 07:08:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

In my case, it seems I have a handful of relatives who seem to be determined to wreck me and my kids emotionally, financially, educationally. Anyone else have this problem? What did you do to end it? It will 9 months before I can move again and sever any contact....just like my domestic violence safety plan suggested i do in the first place.....

2007-08-25 06:56:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad is in the army so every five years we have to move to a new house. I've moved around already 8 times. I'm getting so tired of it, and pus my dad is signing up to be in the army another 10 years before he'll retire. My question is why do we have to move every five years or so?

2007-08-25 06:55:17 · 12 answers · asked by Babe Gurl 1

My older brother Buffalo keeps coming in my bedroom stealing my videos and porn posters and when I always feth them back they are ruined. Can't have locks on the doors beacuse they are all fire door beacuse mum runs a brothel. How can I keep buffalo out?

2007-08-25 06:32:48 · 3 answers · asked by bLue 1

2007-08-25 04:49:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was 8 and my brother was 12yrs old and he had molested me for almost a year, this wasn't curiosity, it was sick, disgusting things. I kept it a secret until I was 22yrs old and then I confronted him with what he did, I also told my parents and my grandmother, they seemed to blow it off and it doesn't seem to have bothered them one bit. My other brother that wasn't involved with it told my husband and parents that I was asking for it and that I instigated it all, well I have no recolection of instigating it, only memories of hating it and crying when he wouldn't stop, along with many other details, my two brothers are really close, I am f@#&ing mad and I don't see how an 8 yr old child could be the one that started it all and now my brother thinks he is in the clear and didn't do anything wrong, What do you think?

2007-08-25 04:27:42 · 36 answers · asked by elizabeth 4

reconcile with the fact that you feel guilty. I don't know why I feel so guilty a person within my immediate family a friend of the family has just died however this person and I did not connect..why I don't know she made hard for me to connect with her..now that she has died I feel guilty and like everyone is thinking I'm happy at this tradegy, I'm not happy I don't wish bad on even my enemies. I know what it is like to lose a parent in life, it's the worst feeling.

2007-08-25 04:15:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-25 03:53:32 · 6 answers · asked by Ali t 1

Hi, i m 32 now..It is a love marriage.I was a hindu and he is a catholic.I m too now.
we got married 5 yrs ago. till now i cant have a baby.so i went for many treatments in India ,but in vain,we lost a lot of money and so we stopped that .now we are in US .Infertility treatments are costly here.now my hub has decided not to have child.He advices me to think of our future alone.He says any way children wont support us in future,.i can agree..but...I feel guilty of not giving a baby to him. He loves me a lot. so i cant go away from him ,,to give him a good life.He hates adoption too.
He is a very very caring and loving husband.He makes me happy always. but my guilty consciousness kills me.Our relatives and friends in India have stared hating me just because of my infertility.
What shall i do ?
How can i overcome my depression.
calls to India drives me mad.we cant stop calling them.please advice me how to get rid of my guilty feeling

2007-08-25 03:46:02 · 21 answers · asked by ice 2

2007-08-25 03:32:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

my younger bro ..15y/o has been naughty but the apple pf my eye. Off late he has been troublesome and i was just keeping quiet and being patient. this afternoon i LOST IT..and i even hit him on hand. my mom has a fractured foot and emotinally to she is unwell... i dunno how to handle my younger bro ?
im a mom/ wife .. yes but he was being too bad!

2007-08-25 03:26:11 · 9 answers · asked by barley 2

today my sister posted a really embarrasing pictue of me on the web and I want to get her back. Any ideas? I dont want to get her extremely bad, just enough to get even. Aso, something when she is slepping would be helpful :)

2007-08-24 20:13:37 · 5 answers · asked by Ali :) 2

Well i'm 19 and live in wichita kansas and i jus found out that my dad got a better job there. He said they probley be moving there soon. He said that i could stay in the states if i wanted it too and move in with my grandparents that live in chicago. But i'm not sure if i really want to, because i have my own family here who have been thur everything with me more then my real family has. I'm also have more things here for me also i got school and work. I lived on my own for about over a year now because my parents kicked me out and made it quite okay by myself. But thinkin about my parents leavin the states scares me should i rather move wit my grandparent that i only met like 5 times in my life or stay with people that have been thur everything with me for over 3 years? I'm so confused. I'm also be a godmother soon n that is really importan to me and the mother because she says that baby will make us more of a family . I dont know, i'm really scared.

2007-08-24 19:48:36 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

my prents devorced so i see my dad every other weekend. but i didi not see him the last weekend i was with him and i doun't want to go this weekend. but should i go?

2007-08-24 19:40:50 · 8 answers · asked by taely and kellie 1

THIS IS LONG SO PLEASE BARE WITH ME..THANKS..ok so first of all my boyfriend is going to buy my boyfriends trailer..but lately me and my brothers g/f been getting into it and now her family is against me.so im afraid there will be problems with us living at that trailer.im afraid there will be vanelism or more that may happen.im so confused right now because my brother is in debt and he wants us to buy the trailer to get out of debt.i really dont want to move into the trailer anymore but i know that my family will give me s h it and be mad at me for us not living there.IM SO CONFUSED.what i really want is to move out of town where we cant be bothered.my boyfriend says "why put up with their sh it.we dont need that.and he dont want to move there" he does want to yet he dont..and i dont..my boyfriend will choose my decision of course..but i would easily say we WONT move there but its the family..i know how mad and upset they will be at me..help can someone give me advice...

thank you.

2007-08-24 19:21:22 · 3 answers · asked by Alyssa D 2

I'm asking this here because I'm hoping to get some adult opinions on this...
My father died two years ago. My mom fairly recently met a guy she thinks she might start dating. After she met him, she had a talk with me and asked if there was anything she could do or needed to do to make her dating easier on me. I asked her to tell me when she was going out with this guy, at least while I was in her house, not because I need to approve of it or anything but just because I want to know whats going on. I told her I didn't need to know what they were doing or even necessarily where they were going, I just wanted to know that they were going somewhere.
Tonight I was going to ride along while she went to do something she had to do. She went to check her email before she left, came up like half an hour later and was like "ok, see ya". I asked her to wait so I could find my glasses before she left, and she told me that she'd forgotten I was going to go with her and she was planning to meet

2007-08-24 19:15:36 · 11 answers · asked by wonderer152 2

2007-08-24 19:02:11 · 6 answers · asked by Daisy 1

Where I live has 4 apartments & all that live here are family.... I have one relative that drives me crazy although I know it is not intentional it seems like every time I turn around she is there outside playing with my kids, talking to my hubby if he is outside or just plan around period.
How can I tell her to leave us alone without hurting her feelings... any ideas?
It really bothers me that I feel this way about her (that she is a pest & drives me crazy) cuz if I need someone to get my son on the bus in the morning when I am running late or if I need someone to pick up my 1 yr old from daycare in the afternoon because my husband got stuck at work.... she is there and does these things for me.... if I need to run to the store for a min to just grab some milk & bread and don't feel like dragging the kids with me for a 5 min run to the store I will call and ask her if she can come downstairs and sit with the kids while I run out for a min and she has NEVER said NO.
Am I a meanie?

2007-08-24 18:57:19 · 15 answers · asked by creative0989 1

My sister is older than me. I have always had a hard time speaking my mind. She calls me more than 5 times a day. She yells at me all the time. Not to mention comes over uninvited all the time. Which would not be that bad if she did not have five kids too. Don't get me wrong I love my nieces but with my two and her five that's alot of kids at one time all the time. HELP!!!!!!!!

2007-08-24 18:45:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-24 18:45:47 · 2 answers · asked by rony 1

My sister in law has it in her head that we don't like her or my brother. Not true, we love my brother. She is cruel to my mom and was to my dad before he passed on June 12, 2007. She didn't help, support or agreed with our care plan for him. An example of her meaness is when I phoned for my brother the night my dad died, I told her he stopped breathing and she said "good". I can provide cruel examples for the past 25 years, however I won't, I will just give your a couple more that she did in the last 3 months. She planned my dad's funeral before he died. The first time we all though he was going she secured the church times and started on gathering food. This hurts my mom, since she is frail and misses my dad, her hubby of 59 years. I would like to get my brother back in speaking terms and not have him so mad at us for telling his wife, it stops now. Behave and play nice or don't play at all. What do you all think, offer, any words of productive realistice wisdom?

2007-08-24 18:33:30 · 10 answers · asked by TX2AR 1

i'm my mother's lonely child, i'm 22, my father is pretty much busy all the time and not prepared to accept her crap in the remaining time of his day. So basically, all of his problems with her is directed on me EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE.I don't have anger management problems, in fact i rarely get angry. But she wants me to spend ALL OF MY TIME WITH HER when i'm not working. I'm tired of this any advice

2007-08-24 18:31:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I told him to clear off the table, brush his teeth and goto bed...BUT he is sitting behind me and reading this and NOT in bed. He has a big baseball game tomorrow and needs his sleep!

2007-08-24 18:28:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

serious question.

I personally didn't lose my virginity until really late, like 22, and felt really miserable/depressed through my teen years for being so sexless, while all my friends were getting it regularly.

Now my only son is 15, he knows about sex, and I'm sure he wants it as much as I did at his age. Would it be wrong for me to try to give him suggestions on how to pick up women. I'm not religous so I don't do the whole "save it till' marriage" crap.

I mean teach him practical things. How to suggest drinking to girls, how to mix drinks so they will get chicks drunk, which women to go after, safe sex practices, leting him have women alone in the house, supplying him with porn to study, lying to women ("I love you", etc.). Just you know, the basic strategy he'll need. I also have some books on picking up women I can read him as bedtime stories.....you get the point.

Would this make me a bad father? Or simply be something he'll thank me for when he is older?

Thanks

2007-08-24 18:20:21 · 12 answers · asked by Go Leafs Go 2

like whenever i hang out with my friends we do different things then what she did when she was a kid. and then she is always lecturing me on how me and my friends are weird because what we do when we hang out. like how is it weird to walk around with my friends??? shes always saying how she would always go swimming when she was a kid, and me and my friends dont go swimming so she thinks we are weird?? i dont understand this. why does she always have to talk about what she did when she was a kid?? like times are different now...

2007-08-24 18:18:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a married man. In my dream, one beautiful teenage girl comes often and hug me very tightly.

2007-08-24 18:17:29 · 12 answers · asked by thuppakki 3

When I was in high school, I got into an incredibly stupid situation and ended up being raped (no, I don't think I deserved it, but I also realize that I made a lot of stupid choices that put me in a very dangerous situation). There's part of me that wants to use this as an example with my daughter when she starts dating and going to parties and such of what can happen if you stop using your head, but on the other hand, I don't know... it just seems like it might somehow be weird for her to hear it.

(She's almost 10, so obviously, I'm thinking ahead here!)

I'm just curious on others' opinions, especially if by chance you had a family member talk about something like this with you - did it resonate, or did it just make you feel uncomfortable? Or would you just blow it off like only your mother would be that stupid and surely you know better?

2007-08-24 18:09:18 · 17 answers · asked by Heather W 5