Where I live has 4 apartments & all that live here are family.... I have one relative that drives me crazy although I know it is not intentional it seems like every time I turn around she is there outside playing with my kids, talking to my hubby if he is outside or just plan around period.
How can I tell her to leave us alone without hurting her feelings... any ideas?
It really bothers me that I feel this way about her (that she is a pest & drives me crazy) cuz if I need someone to get my son on the bus in the morning when I am running late or if I need someone to pick up my 1 yr old from daycare in the afternoon because my husband got stuck at work.... she is there and does these things for me.... if I need to run to the store for a min to just grab some milk & bread and don't feel like dragging the kids with me for a 5 min run to the store I will call and ask her if she can come downstairs and sit with the kids while I run out for a min and she has NEVER said NO.
Am I a meanie?
2007-08-24 18:57:19 · 15 answers · asked by creative0989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You've pretty much opened the door to this by making her so useful in your life. The facts are that you can't have it both ways. This is why family shouldn't live in such close proximity to each other. I wouldn't tell her anything because it's a mixed message. You call her when you need her and don't want her when she's served her purpose in your life. You should move and handle your business on your own. Sorry to sound harsh, it isn't my intent. I am trying to be honest. She is probably lonely and you fill that void by letting her into your life this way.
2007-08-24 19:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by CUrias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can understand not liking the fact that she talks to your hubby but why is it bad if she plays with the kids? Honestly to me I feel like your using her, I mean you don't want to hurt her feelings but why, because she might STOP helping out. If you feel like she is around too much, maybe you should explain that its family time and that you your hubby and kids are gonna hang out. If she still insist on sticking around, maybe you need to quit depending on her for so much, I think she sounds like a good person, and you are damn lucky to have someone willing to do the things she does for you, either get over it, or start dragging your kids to the store, and taking your son to the bus, and hope to God you or your husband can make it in time to pick em' up after school is out!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-24 19:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by donnakygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a tad bit jealous? Try spending time with her and getting to know her better just the two of you. You might be surprized. Or maybe send her on a nice long vacation for Christmas. Hold a car wash or save money to pay for the ticket.
2007-08-24 19:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you must weight out the + and -, if she helps more than hurts, than maybe it is worth putting up with her. There are ways to perhaps nip it in the bud. Have you thought that maybe she just wants to belong, do something, or be apart of your family? Maybe you could set aside some time to play cards, or something and that way she has something to look forward to.
2007-08-24 19:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by TX2AR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she bugs you cause shes there all the time. well you know what you can think this way what if you wern't hear family all the time and when you lef thad to take them all the time where you went and couldn't run here and there for a minute. shes fine juts get over it and quit complaining.
2007-08-27 17:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds really important to making your day-to-day life work. I personally wouldn't say anything, but if you feel like you need to, try to be very gentle about it. She sounds lonely. Still you're justified in wanting your space sometimes.
2007-08-24 19:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by wonderer152 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take the bad with the good. You can't be selective on whether you can use her but she can't come unless called.
You rely on her for so many things... she's a gold-mine! She's your extra set of hands!
Change your attitude and give thanks! She won't be around forever.
2007-08-24 19:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does favors for you, enjoys playing with your kids and spending time with you and your husband, and you dont like it?
You are a meanie.
2007-08-24 19:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Goodkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun my advice is grin and bear it even-though she may get on your nerves she is there for you... Talk to her let her know that she is annoying you the more honest with her you are the better she will respect you for it...
2007-08-24 19:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by ruby_bearz page 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think you are. YOU are the problem here.
You are the one who is pestering her.
Sorry. But I need to be straightforward here.
2007-08-24 19:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋