My father makes comments about how I am "too quiet" I am divorced and he says that he can see how my "In-laws found fault with me because I never offered them tea or food."
I feel bad and then brood about these comments. He does not know because he never lived with me and my In-laws.
These comments do tend to hurt me and I know that his intent is good. He wants to see me change. I don't like his nosey, controlling nature, but can' t say anything to him.
How do I not let his comments get to me?
2007-08-25 07:31:30 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To not let his comments get to you, 'overide' it with words you want in your life, words that will help you.
Just keep repeating it over each time you feel affected. That would trigger your brain to remember these words rather than the ones your dad spills on you. That would do a BIG change in your mentality and attitude!
2007-08-25 07:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dan_da_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to remember that your Father has your best interests at heart. He sees you are quiet and is really trying to get you to be less quiet, because in his heart he thinks you will be happier that way. Because we love our children, parents often nag and complain about things in a misguided sense of duty as a parent. Also, many parents feel secure knowing their children are married and are "safe". Now that you are divorced maybe your sees you as more vulnerable and his comments are an expression of that worry. The best thing is just to say to him" Dad I know you love me and you're just trying to help, but it hurts my feelings when you say things like that".
2007-08-25 10:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by aja5505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what he doesn't know is that your ex inlaws made the same comment about you and you threw tea in their faces. Then ask him is there anything else he wants to gripe about because you have lots of tea.
2007-08-25 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them precisely what you wrote here. enable them to understand the type you're feeling. tell them you wanna stay your existence your own way and that they are suffocating you. communicate over with them and ask them to grant you some area for the reason which you're sufficiently previous to make your own judgements. or you should in basic terms overlook approximately them.
2016-10-09 05:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell hi mhe doesn't know what hes tlaking about. If you were too quiet you never would have been married. right?
2007-08-25 07:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would talk to him about it If you dont want to do that then just do what i would do and tell him to shut the f*** up
2007-08-25 07:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by I_LOVE_MY_BOYFRIEND!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋