Family - August 2007

Before my mom died, she was in a nursing home and did not know who we were. She could not talk, eat or even know that we were there. I am the oldest and I was very close to my mother, she was strong,kind and loving; everything a mother should be. But I could not bring myself to see her like that. When I would go see her, I would just sit there and want to run screaming from the room because my mother was "gone" My sister on the other hand could not get along that well with my mom, they had big differences of opinion. Yet, she could go nearly every day and talk to her like nothing was wrong! My mom has died and I go visit her grave & I feel happy to know she is at peace, yet my sister has not gone once since she died! Why?? I do not understand.

2007-08-24 17:58:01 · 8 answers · asked by Beatrice C 6

I have divorced her abusive father. Life with him was terrible. It seems that she still favors him and now he has a new gf who calls and likes to talk with her. My daughter is now angry with me and copping an attitude because I have expressed concern about her getting too close to this woman (his new gf) that we barely know! She has actually cried. I told her my reasons. My daughter and I have always been good friends, it just seems that, even though her dad was abusive, she always favors him, and now this other woman complicates things. I don't know what to do.

2007-08-24 17:53:00 · 7 answers · asked by A G 2

Okay I am 14 and my parents are divorced so in my house it's just me and my mom. It's been just me and her for the past 12 years and since I'm an only child I'm used to getting a lot. I get pretty much everything I ask for (not tryna sound snobbish, but it's true) and me and my mom are VERY close. But there is this girl that goes to the school where my mom works and over the past year we have really formed a bond wit her. Now she is supposed to be moving back to her home town, but she's really not at a stable point in her life and my mom feels she needs guidance and that maybe moving in with us would give her that. I am all for helping her and I love her like fam, but I dnt want her to move in because I don't wanna change my lifestyle.

2007-08-24 17:36:29 · 9 answers · asked by noella. 2

2007-08-24 17:12:45 · 21 answers · asked by Tumbles 1

My mom thinks that I can't go to my best friends house just because her mom won't let her come over to my house. The reason she can't come over is that her mom thinks my dad is a creep, which he isn't, so now I can't see my best friend. Does that seem unfair or is that unfair? My mom thinks that just cause my friends mom can't find time to chat, that i can't socialize with her daughter. Some one explain why mothers are such a pain in the ***.

2007-08-24 17:06:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

The last thing I thought I would miss at boarding school are my parents. I mean I never feel homesick! But honestly right now I WANT MY MOMMY!!!!! I'm about to start crying even though I love the school! I wasn't expecting to feel this way! I can go home on the weekends but not this or the next weekend and I just want to be home right now! Seriously! Really Badly! And my roomate doesn't really speak english and we haven't said a word to each other in the past hour and I really can't start crying even though I'm biting my lip to stop from crying but I don't want to have to explain to her why I'm crying so someone please say something to comfort me!!!! Just something to make me feel better!? I'm so sad.

2007-08-24 16:56:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-24 16:48:35 · 16 answers · asked by sandy 1

He isn't really helping us much financially, he owes me $800 (stupid me), he's in a lot of debt, and he NEVER cleans!!! It's terrible! It's starting to affect our relationship and we want him out. He's lazy and has to be nagged to even do his own dishes! Meanwhile, he always has money for cigarettes, beer and going out. He has a job, but it's low paying and he's not willing to get another one to help pay off his debts or give us what we asked for rent. How do we get him to move out without any hard feelings? He's basically using us and we're facilitating his poor spending habits.

2007-08-24 16:06:09 · 9 answers · asked by Isabelle 1

a couple years ago my mom got sick so we had to move in with my aunt and uncle cuz we had to sell the house to pay for the treatments and she is a *****.she has hit me without my parents permmision and i was wondering if i can take some legal action.we are related my marriage not blood.i have had to hold myself from hitting her even though i can beat the **** out of her.thank you for your time.

2007-08-24 16:02:58 · 27 answers · asked by ferny 1

okay so im 13 and i love my mom soooooo much i mean we dnt get into those huge fights or anything but when she gets mad at me she tends to higher her voice alot and im really stuborn and so i talk back or i always make it so that she gets way more mad my sister says i jst need to learn how to shut up or talk calmly and i ask her y shes yelling or y she has to yell in a calm vice and i do she just gets more mad i can tell she kinda realizes that i dnt like her yelling but i want to be able to have a good bond with my mom like be able to tell her anything or how i feel how can i do that

2007-08-24 15:55:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so, my mom and dad are divorced, and now i live with my mom and stepdad in Wisconsin. my real dad moved to Florida, and i wold love to go live with him for a while. I'm 13, and i would LOVE to know what age i legally have a choice of who i live with... thanks much for your help :)



AND::: I was also wondering.. how would i break it to my mom that I want to live with my dad. Ive lived with my mom my entire life and she would be heartbroken if i left. but im getting so bored up here and want a change. so any tips on how i would tell my mom???

2007-08-24 15:45:25 · 4 answers · asked by Pilot28 4

In my family, I'm the last one to know anything. I just knew my great-grandmother was sick, and found out from talking to my cousin that she's dying of lung cancer. No one was going to tell me till she was on her death bed. I didn't know my brother dropped out of school or had a drug problem until after my cousins who live hundreds of miles away. I also didn't know my brother, whom I'm very close to, joined the marines until I overheard my mom talking to my grandmother on the phone TWO WEEKS LATER!!! I also found out my mom was engaged through my grandma, who assumed I already knew about a month later, and my mom still has never officially "told" me. It just makes me mad that I have to hear things from other people even when it concerns me, which it has on occasion. How can I tell my parents I feel left out without making it seem I blame them for not telling me anything, though I do, I just don't want to make them feel guilty. I know they are probably just trying to protect me.

2007-08-24 15:38:41 · 3 answers · asked by The Broken Doll 4

I need the perfect song to honor my wonderful Dad. He died just 4 years ago. I was 12.

2007-08-24 15:36:42 · 4 answers · asked by Kim 2

My fiance is in Bangalore and my future mother in law lives in KGF. I am an American and I am not very familiar on any great ways to make the relationship between mother in law and myself easy? I will be meeting her in October and am slightly nervous. My fiance worships her and I don't want any misunderstandings to build between her and I. Anyone have any ideas on how to connect to her since we are from different cultures? Thanks!

2007-08-24 15:16:29 · 12 answers · asked by laluna7580 1

My sister is moving for college tomorrow and everyone in my family is very upset and I when we are going to unpack her stuff for her dorm i wanna make it upbeat and fun not emotional and discouraging. If there is any things I can do to make this happen, please list them

THANKS!!

2007-08-24 14:35:02 · 4 answers · asked by Samantha D 1

I am 17. I want to get out of here, yes i have thought it through. No I am not sure where i would go, but i know that i feel that anywhere is better than here. My question is, should i wait for my mom to leave and take me with her, which she has been talking about for YEARS. or i should i leave without her because she isnt going anywhere.

i would take the car, its not my car. could i be put in jail for theft? should i just walk? catch a bus?

how long would it take for the police to find me? Five months is too long to wait to be 18. I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE. I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE. 17 years has been far too long to live with the both of them.

perhaps i am over-reacting but i really have no outlet for the way that i am feeling. my mother would never listen to me and my father sure as hell wouldnt. i love them, i do. but i cannot live with them.

i really need help.

2007-08-24 14:33:08 · 7 answers · asked by tiliashot 1

Up until the age of 12 I had a good childhood. It wasn't until I moved in with my dad and his new wife I had problems. I was pretty much a carefree kid until I was molested by my older-step brother. I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me, but I really do hate this person, and I want to know if I should take revenge on him. I'm 25 and pretty much had low-self esteem since 12, do you think it would be terrible for me to take revenge? Everyday I feel like crap, and all my relationships have been affected while this person doesn't acknowledge anything wrong. I just can't forgive myself until I make his life misearable too. btw, in middle school and high school this person spread rumours behind my back, and stole all my friends. I know revenge is petty but this person deserves much worse. And I don't believe in God, so pretty much what is done is done. Thanks for the help!

2007-08-24 14:26:54 · 8 answers · asked by crazy legz 2

My 8 sister has selective mutism, meaning she has trouble talking to other people. She keeps her head down at school, wont talk to any of her "friends". She gets physically sick if she is forced to talk. She barely talks to anyone in our family, not including her own brother. She keeps her head bowed and just barely whispers in my ear and I have to relay her messages. It also causes her to have extreme anger issues because she wants to talk to people, but she just can't. I feel bad for her and understand why she gets so angry, but she hits me, throws things at me, and has stabbed me with pencils and tried to smother me with a pillow. I am 14, and know I am much stronger than her, and feel bad even laying a finger on her because I understand why she has the outburts. I just get so frustrated because I feel like I get forgotten about sometimes. Both her and my brother have had counseling, both for different reasons, and always have something going on with them.

2007-08-24 14:07:44 · 4 answers · asked by The Broken Doll 4

im 15 & i see grandma once a week. she takes me out to dinner & to the store. when were at the store, she puts her arm around me & holds my hand. what does that mean? she calls me honey & sweets. she buys me things & wipes the food off my face with her spit. haha does she really like me that much?

2007-08-24 13:38:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

we all have boys age 4. the problem is that all 3 boys never play together. i am all for them playing together. i have tried taking turns inviting the boys over. i have called their moms to get together so our sons can play, but they don't want too and keep making up excuses and they keep to themselves. its odd cuz my son never sees them and i wonder what goes thru my son's mind. i do find this kinda frustrating and it does **** me off. all 3 boys start school first time this year and one of moms lied to me about which morning or afternoon she was putting her son in. what do you all think?

2007-08-24 13:18:52 · 4 answers · asked by havingfun 4

Hey everyone I'm the kid who felt stupid for trying to keep in touch with my cousins and they didn't show no appreciation. So what if they come to my home state for vacation or to visit my family? Should I less generous to them? I know how they are and act. I got my sources from my dad because he went over to them and he always speaks to their parents on the phone since they are his siblings. I also got some info from the cousin who came over, he told me about the other cousins he visited. Most of them are arrogant snobs. Some are liars and fake like those I speak to on aim, pretending to listen to my messages by saying "lol" and nothing else. Some see people as recycle trash, they use you, throw you away and then when they need you they reuse you. My dad knows them since he has visited all of them before and has seen how they behaved. I feel as tho I don't wanna treat them well when they get here but that probably wouldn't be the right thing to do...

2007-08-24 12:51:48 · 5 answers · asked by Closed 5

Don't get me wrong, i realise that many teenage mums ARE all those things. But not all. Infact i know of many older mums who are all those things and worse. Who's to say that a teenage mum can't be a better parent than someone, say, well educated, with money and a nice home? I myself had my son at 17. Myself and my partner (and we're still together) went from living in a council flat earning under £100 per week to having a morgage, a car each, me a degree and him a good job and i can honestly say our son is wonderful. Many parents who have children at a later age are just as bad as the teenage mums

2007-08-24 12:42:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom won't let me have a AIM adress because she thinks i would get addicted to it and i would always be on it but i wouldn't stay on that long becasue after a while u have nothing to talk about and almost all of my friends have one a knowbody really will answer emails anymore because they can AIM what should i do??????

2007-08-24 12:36:20 · 5 answers · asked by Abby F 1

i am 13 my sister started doing drugs about 6 years ago
i found out about 2 years ago and tlked to my parents about it 1 year ago, since then we moved to a small town in missouri and put her in a cstar program, an outpatient support group however she moved back with her granparents but she was skipping schooll so my mother picked her up during school and took her to another all girls inpatient rehab type thing called teen challenge however when we visited last she threatened to run away so my mother took her home after 4 months of the 15 included in the program i thoought she would be better with me when she came back however since then she has only been abusive to me, she has stopped doing drugs i think but she is very irritable and untolerable and all she does is borrow things from me and take alot of things and not give anything not, 5 minutes but i have been diagnosed with odd and add bipolar disorder and my parents just dont take me seriously and side with her, what can i do?

2007-08-24 12:32:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ever since I can remember, my parents were separated,and my dad lived away from us. After I went to uni, I saw my dad less and less. Over a year ago,my dad passed away. I hadn't seen him in about a year, but he would call me. But now, I sometimes (quite a lot) sit waiting on his call, and don't feel like he's not here anymore. I can't accept it, I can't move on. Has anyone any idea why I feel this way, and how I can change feeling this way. I don't have anyone I can talk to about it.

2007-08-24 12:17:13 · 5 answers · asked by x_pandafi_x 1

I'm leaving for school in a few days and my dad completely freaked out when I told him I'm not going to sing in a choir/singing group thing, citing reasons such as "Your ear is so good and "You're so talented, etc. etc."
Now I liked choir in high school and sang in another all-guys group because I had to, but I hated it. (I prefer mixed choirs to all-guys groups) They think I'm just being stubborn and just doing the opposite to irritate them.
They just don't quite get that the music crowd just isn't my crowd, you know. (My crowd tends to be a mixture.)

2007-08-24 11:43:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my boyfriend and i have the same problem every night. "what u wanna do?" "i don't know, what u wanna do?"
what can we do on a friday or sat. other than movies or mall? my boyfriend doesn't drink btw.

2007-08-24 11:33:48 · 12 answers · asked by cd_leo22 1

I saw this old lady on tv the other night. She was 114 and she was the oldest person at that time. She kept falling asleep when people were talking to her. What do you think it's like to be really old?

How do people cope with the prospect of imminent death? Does it make you feel different about death if you're old or are you still scared of it? Any personal stories about this?

2007-08-24 11:11:44 · 21 answers · asked by Loralei 2

There are tons of grandparents that are taking on new roles these days. Some of them are raising their grandkids, or their not even involved at all. So what rights should they have? And how 'involved' should they be in the childs life?

2007-08-24 10:49:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER IF YOU ARE GOING TO SAY SOMETHING LIKE "That's not nice", or "you'll be sorry". I want good ways to annoy them or sass them. (im a teenager)

2007-08-24 10:49:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous