okay so im 13 and i love my mom soooooo much i mean we dnt get into those huge fights or anything but when she gets mad at me she tends to higher her voice alot and im really stuborn and so i talk back or i always make it so that she gets way more mad my sister says i jst need to learn how to shut up or talk calmly and i ask her y shes yelling or y she has to yell in a calm vice and i do she just gets more mad i can tell she kinda realizes that i dnt like her yelling but i want to be able to have a good bond with my mom like be able to tell her anything or how i feel how can i do that
2007-08-24 15:55:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Number one thing, stop talking back. I know it's hard, I remember... but it only creates a bigger problem... she gets madder, right? You need to be quiet and hear what she has to say. Parents yell be cause they feel that they aren't being listened to... is it possible that she isn't getting her point across to you, unless she gets your attention by yelling? Think about that one...
Also, remember that just because she becomes upset, and there is a conflict between you... when there is anger, doesn't mean that it replaces the love you both have for each other. anger happens in every relationship, and it's okay to feel both anger and love for the same person. You don't have to distance yourself from her, and she will also still love you the same even if she becomes angry with you at times. I promise....
She is doing her job, and I admit that she doesn't have to yell, unless, like i said, it's the only way to grab your attention. And you could talk to her and say that it really hurts you when she yells, and if you'll promise to listen if she tries to stop yelling.
If she says she's going to stop, then give her time to change, it's hard when you are in the habit of doing something. K?
I hope this helps...
2007-08-24 16:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by jezuzgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to school and tell a counselor you need to talk ,...tell them how you feel,.in a very adult way,make your mom sound like the child and ask the counselor if she could explain to your mom how you feel and you want to be close,and how the yelling disturbs you,even have her ask if she hates you (now you know she does`nt ) but it helps get to the root of the problem,,,parents hate hearing that,,,,,,On the other hand you need to listen to your sis she is right,and I`d bet money you know that,Mom runs the show not you so let her raise you ,meet her 1/2 way with all the things that are happening,remember what you said ,,,your 13 and you love your mom soooooo much!!..act 13 and give respect and you`ll get respect,,,...Mr,Goodnight..
2007-08-24 23:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Goodnight. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your at the age where fighting with parents is the most common. Talk to your mom about how you feel. Tell her nicely that you feel as if she yells at you too much and raises her voice too much and it makes you uncomfortable. Tell her you want to have a great relationship with her and be able to talk to her about anything. This will make her realize it.
2007-08-24 23:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is all ways like that when you are that age I was the same way when I that age. Yeah when your mom starts going off all you need to do is let her say what she has to say, and you say nothing. A day or two after that when things are going good sit down with her and talk to her about the yelling and how that makes you feel, she will understand and she will still love you the same.
2007-08-24 23:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by missjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you are able to tell your mom even at your younger age. But I suggest that you are still under the guidance and care with your mom and so please respect her even if her voice frequently gets higher. That is her way and manner especially when she corrects. There are really persons like that because of their excitement or lack of control. On your part you only have to be considerate and understanding and allow excuses because one day you also will grow older or you will also advance in age. If your mom lacks control, it is you yourself who should control and keep silent. Try and good luck!
2007-08-24 23:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by lui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take time out, leave your mom a brief letter asking can the two of you meet some where after school for a soda or something, chat calmly and softly to her saying this is how i feel inside mom.im not angry mom.i just need mom and daughter time, that you need her. but give her a cuddle and she too will return it, dont 4get 2 say i love you so much mom. take it from there, a moms a girl best friend. goodluck
2007-08-24 23:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmkay... well, you could try asking her reallllly nicely not to raise her voice. That may be hard, but you just have to make sure your voice doesn't sound sarcastic. Or you could talk to her when she's not yelling (like when she's in a good mood) and ask her about it then. Good luck! :3
2007-08-24 23:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi;* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you really can't change. It will get worse. You are 13 its normal to flip out on your parents. I yelled at my dad today at Kohls because he made some stupid joke in the check out line.
2007-08-24 22:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by omfg_its_googles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish your mom really know how bless she is to have a wonderful and loyal daughter she has. Gather some change and take your mother out for lunch. Let her know how much you love and care about her...God bless
2007-08-24 23:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the question?
2007-08-24 23:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋