Why Do I Feel This Way?

Question

Ever since I can remember, my parents were separated,and my dad lived away from us. After I went to uni, I saw my dad less and less. Over a year ago,my dad passed away. I hadn't seen him in about a year, but he would call me. But now, I sometimes (quite a lot) sit waiting on his call, and don't feel like he's not here anymore. I can't accept it, I can't move on. Has anyone any idea why I feel this way, and how I can change feeling this way. I don't have anyone I can talk to about it.

Thanks

MK...my dad was cremated, so I'm not sure it would have the same affect? And as for my mum...she's a bit of an alcoholic...so I avoid talking to her about my life when I can.

Answer 1

Since you rarely saw him I think his death isnt real to you. If you are still in uni I suggest seeing about counseling, it is usually free to students.

Answer 2

I am sorry about that. I think it would be best for you to go to the gravesite and actually sit there and let all those feelings out. (when you are ready) I sure your father loves you very much, and he is very proud of you. And you should continue to head on the right path and make your father even more prouder. This should make you cherish everyone you truly love. Talk to your mom, she probably can comfort you. Even through they were seperated at one time she did have feelings for him. Build a much stronger and better relationship with your mother.

Answer 3

Are any of your father's immediate family still around? If so, is it possible for you to talk to one of them? They loved him, and will certainly understand your feelings. I'm assuming you have no siblings that are in your same situation? You're feeling unresolved, and you do need to talk it out with someone. If there are absolutely no relatives that are possible, you might consider your minister if you attend a church, or look for support groups on the Internet - there are people in similar situations out there, and some have tried to help not only themselves but others by starting support groups.

Answer 4

well if hes got ashes it must be somewhere . there is time to just meditate and talk to him he can still listen where he is there is no pain and stuff but he can hear you and i am sure hes looking over you all the time. the soul never dies and tends to be around the loving of the families. go to a church during the week by yourself and sit and talk to him its a good place to communicate.

Answer 5

i know exactly what your going through girl. my grandpa just passed away, and i can't really find out what my emotions are. i have kept all of this in for so so so long, and my mom is sending me to a therapist person. before anything like that happens to you i suggest you find someone to talk to. if you don't have any one since your mom and all just type or wrtie anything your feeling. or if your moms not home just say stuff out loud. i just know the one thing that really helps me is screaming in a pillow or just out loud. if you wanna talk any more just email me.
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:( good luck