My fiance is in Bangalore and my future mother in law lives in KGF. I am an American and I am not very familiar on any great ways to make the relationship between mother in law and myself easy? I will be meeting her in October and am slightly nervous. My fiance worships her and I don't want any misunderstandings to build between her and I. Anyone have any ideas on how to connect to her since we are from different cultures? Thanks!
2007-08-24 15:16:29 · 12 answers · asked by laluna7580 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
JUST TREAT HER LIKE YOUR MOTHER.
2007-08-25 22:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-31 05:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a traditional Indian, wear a sari or salwar kameez so that gives your mother and law the idea that even though you're american, you're still in touch with your roots. Be very friendly and kind, answer all questions in a mild friendly tone. Offer to do things around the house, for instance make tea. Im sure your a really nice girl as it is, so i think you're gonna do fine.
2007-08-27 03:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by aman k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a small but appropriate gift. Some cultures value that custom. Learn a few words and phrases in her language. Otherwise, don't fret. She may be concerned about her first impression, too. As the other answerer said, it's wise to dress conservatively. A nice dress that covers what many expose, a cool pant suit or a modest skirt suit.
2007-08-24 15:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already on the way to success since you are asking how to do this. The bridge across cultures is a long one whichh takes understanding and tolerance and I feel certain you can do it. I am sure if you tell her ( or have someone translate) that you want to do your best to make her happy that all will be well. Congratulations on your courageous journey.
2007-08-24 15:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smiles are universal, and praise her for the upbringing she did for your fiance. Offer her praise as well, for her clothing, her hair. These are universal. She does not expect you to be Indian, but may imagine you to be casual with ragged jean shorts, so dress conservatively. Possibly bring her a flower or a small arrangement, this is also universal.
2007-08-28 13:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be polite & your body should be well covered with cloths this is enough. Indians are very free to accept any thing around them those are traditional too.
Do not worry dear just take everything easy and follow above rest will happen automatically in your way.
2007-08-25 01:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sachin Belokar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allways be poilet and answer whatever sutiation is. Respect all elders. If any visitors coming. Don't sit infront of them, Sure you inlaw will ask you to sit and then sit. It is one way of giving respect to your inlaws and their friends. Help her in cooking. If she allows you to cook, you do it. If you feel uncomfortable in cooking, say to her.
Never rise your voice while talking or laughing. Wear chididhar or salwar or saree if comfortable with you. If your inlaws is okay with your jeans and pants. it's okay. But in front of their friends,(eventhough to they say to wear jeans) better wear salwar or chididhar or saree. So when people think you are like that of indian, respectable and when they say to your inlaws, they will be happy with your stay there. Learn some slogas or how to do pooja and do it when you have time in america. I wish there is nothing to say more than this. Wish you the best and keep smiling and be frank with them too. I wish i helped you. All the best again.Enjoy your stay.
2007-08-27 14:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mayandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to talk about her family, mainly her children. Let this be a way for you to find out if she has control over them as adults and tells them what to do and if they allow this.
2007-08-24 16:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the matter is very simple to resolve. Please try to give her the love,regards,and attention u give to ur own mother. Try to impress upon her that she is as imprtant to u as ur own mother. I think this shoud take care of the matter.
with u all the best .
have a nice trip
2007-08-24 16:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn a bit of that language or get a dictionary if she doesn't speak english. dress conservative don't they cover up!! Research
2007-08-24 15:24:33 · answer #11 · answered by MaRaNdA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋