My mom thinks that I can't go to my best friends house just because her mom won't let her come over to my house. The reason she can't come over is that her mom thinks my dad is a creep, which he isn't, so now I can't see my best friend. Does that seem unfair or is that unfair? My mom thinks that just cause my friends mom can't find time to chat, that i can't socialize with her daughter. Some one explain why mothers are such a pain in the ***.
2007-08-24 17:06:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's always unfair to punish children for their parents personality.
I understand you not being allowed there, but your mom should be open to her coming to your home, if she is a nice young lady.
2007-08-24 17:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is an unfortunate side effect of growing up that you cannot see the problem until you are too old to be living it!
Their are always many layers to what adults do.
Both your mothers are trying to protect you and gauging the matter from their own life experiences.
It is a body blow, but if you are both intelligent young ladies. I am sure that you can engineer a way to get you mothers to 'bump' into each other socially at some place - like a shopping mall. You will be better able to see what is really going on in their minds in a neutral situation.
For the record, my mother stopped me hanging out with someone whose family she didn't like. I knew they were no good , but that person was cut from a different cloth. That was all of 40 years ago and I still resent that she couldn't see that I had the wit and resources to deal with the situation. But now as a mother myself I do at least understand her thinking.
2007-08-25 01:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mum was a bit hurt and thinks if the other parent doesn't want to speak to her then they must be a bad crowd its acutally rather a childish behaivour to take i see no reason why she can't let you go over there its not like you are associating with drug users or anything. The other mother was just being protective about her child.
2007-08-25 00:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, it's cause they can. U'll understand when ur older. IT's a case of family honor too. Like, y would u want to chill at a place if the owners wouldn't want to chill at ur place because they don't like a family member? That's like her mom saying she doesn't like u, because ur dad had a hand in creating u. I know this probably isn't true, but I'm just making an example.
2007-08-25 00:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe her mother is just being protective of your friend there is nothing that you or your friend can do if she doesnt trust your dad she never will, the thing to ask is what is it that she thinks she has seen that you or your mum havent seen. Give up the friendship because it will not happen because the mums have a pride, control and a protection issue, its one that cant be won sorry
2007-08-25 07:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think she is just being protective. i mean c'mon, ur moms friend thinks ur dads a creep, ur friend isn't aallowed to come over, don't u think moms can be a little protective of their children these days? i mean she brought u into this world, and i'm pretty sure she doesn't want u taken out.
2007-08-25 00:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by CourtCourt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of parents are control freaks.Because they can dictate, they will, even when not really knowing the situation for what it is.
The good news is they love you & want the best for you, I assume. Also, nothing stays the same for long. So it will be a thing of the past before you know it.
2007-08-25 03:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
evry mom does that and if the dont they are setting u up for failure. be glad tht ur mom is such a beeootccchhhh
2007-08-25 01:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by gymnastbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to go to the home of someone who thinks your Dad is a creep ? - I would have to get that sorted out first.
2007-08-25 09:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents rule the world.. i sucks a lot... maybe show ur friend's mom that ur dad is a nice person =)
2007-08-25 00:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋