Okay I am 14 and my parents are divorced so in my house it's just me and my mom. It's been just me and her for the past 12 years and since I'm an only child I'm used to getting a lot. I get pretty much everything I ask for (not tryna sound snobbish, but it's true) and me and my mom are VERY close. But there is this girl that goes to the school where my mom works and over the past year we have really formed a bond wit her. Now she is supposed to be moving back to her home town, but she's really not at a stable point in her life and my mom feels she needs guidance and that maybe moving in with us would give her that. I am all for helping her and I love her like fam, but I dnt want her to move in because I don't wanna change my lifestyle.
2007-08-24 17:36:29 · 9 answers · asked by noella. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well mayde just a littlle selfish. it wouldnt hurt trying to help sombody that you treat as a fam. what if you and your mom were unstable and you needed a place to stay and get back on your feet. and this person treated you like a fam. and she didint want to change her lifestiyle. and she said no. how would you feel??? but it depends you want her/him in
i kinda know what you feel right know my parents are also divorce. and i get anything i ask for. and i also hate when my dad talks to other women. and i dont like them coming in my house. but i let them in anyway because devorce sucks bab so i am happy when sombody comes in. because i dont see my mom alot so ya. i am also 14 and it sucks not able to see my mom for 1 year
2007-08-24 17:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by derick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be a selfish aspect to your feelings. I really don't know whether having her move in with you is a good idea, though. Think about why you are skeptical about this idea. There might be some good reasons for not having her move in with you and your mom. You have to think about a lot of things besides whether you want to change your lifestyle.
2007-08-25 01:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you were selfish, since it's not like you're doing anything to stop her from moving in or to make her feel unwelcome.
I would say you are only nervous about the change and this girl must be nervous too, if you think about it.
I would also say you're being a little close-minded. Give it a chance. This girl needs it. Good luck.
2007-08-25 00:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by LimboChamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, you're not being selfish. It would be very hard to have someone new move into your house all of the sudden, this is perfectly natural behavior, especially at your age. (which coincidentally is the same as mine)
2007-08-25 00:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by DeltaKilo3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont say you love her like family in one sentence and then in the next that you dont want her moving in. Family lives together and since you dont want her there you do not love her like family. I understand how you feel though and I probably wouldnt like it either but if you say no to this you will lose her friendship forever. Why not give it a chance and see how it goes?
2007-08-25 00:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are being a little selfish. If your mom feels you could help this girl then you should do it. You never know you could be saving her life.
2007-08-25 00:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jus a lil selfish
2007-08-25 00:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Eduardo P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you're being selfish at all. change is hard. maybe if you gradually work into it and see how everyone adjusts to it.
2007-08-25 00:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by ilovefashion09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen i know how u feel but hey just think bout the good times then tell your mom or just have adittude with the girl gooooooood luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-25 00:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋