Family - August 2007

My parents aren't together anymore but when they were still they named me after a Native American Apache woman who was a warrior named Lozen.

2007-08-27 03:40:01 · 17 answers · asked by Amy 1

My fiance and i have not been on vacation (not even a little 2 day one!) in three years (the last time we were is when we got engaged!).

We did not plan on taking any vacations either (only $2,500 worth of debt to go Horray!) But his mom offered to invite us to Canada. At first we declined because we are looking to save our money, then she offered an all expense paid vacation because she said 'she knows how hard we've been working and just wanted to get away with us'

The trip was 10 days long. All we had to pay for was gas to and from the US, and we stayed at the moms boyfriends house so we did not need a hotel. We brought $250 with us, in case of an emergency (car breaking down, illness, etc)

Ahead of time, we were told that tickets to an amusement park, the CN tower, Zoo & other attractions were paid for, which was part of the aggreement. Going out to eat was also going to be covered. (Yes, her boyfriend has a very good job lol)

All in all, it was a disaster. Heres why

2007-08-27 03:26:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister and I have always had problems. We bickered constantly growing up, but as we got older, it got much better. I'm 25, my sister is 27. Back in June, this started because we had family visiting and she wanted us to change dinner plans so her husband could come. (she called late in the day and we wouldn't have made it in time; she had known about dinner for a week and waited until 3 hrs prior to call). She didn't speak to me for a month. We started speaking again on her bday in July. We went out and my Mom and BF were teasing her about her bachelorette party, because it took place in the same bar. She cursed me out because she thought I brought it up - I didn't. Her friends came up to me to console me and I vented to them about how rude she was. I've tried reaching out to her and she won't respond. I admitted to her I shouldn't have vented to her friends, but said that if she wants an apology, I deserve one too.

I don't know what else I can do. Its been a month. Anyone?

2007-08-27 03:24:40 · 8 answers · asked by Coleen429 2

I'm getting a little better with verbal confrontation however I still feel more comfortable saying what I need to in written form. My Mom and I live in different provinces and a couple nights ago we had some words over the phone. There's so much I need to get out that I'm afraid if I try and talk to her over the phone again I will not say everything or she will interupt. I really need her to hear my side.

I have thought about snail mail but I would really like this resolved as soon as possible and a letter could take up to a week for her to receive. Is e-mail okay or should I just suck it up and call her?

2007-08-27 03:10:45 · 10 answers · asked by Ersabette 5

My parents are political asylees - the came to the United States when I was ten - I'm a US citizen... Seven years after we have been in the US I went back to see my family back home in the middle east (I was 17)... well... lets just say that I was not what they expected and they were not what I expected...

I was more of a guest - a temporary inconvenience that they had to deal with till I left (I was hurt when I heard this - I overheard them talking) - but now... another 3 years later I don't feel that they are my family anymore...

It has been 10 years... is it right of me to just let them go and forget about them?

2007-08-27 03:07:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or are you totally unique.?

2007-08-27 03:03:29 · 23 answers · asked by Old Man of Coniston!. 5

My parents have been talking about celebrating Christmas in the mountains since I was little (we've never seen snow on Christmas; we live in Georgia) and they're finally going to do it this year because my younger brother no longer believes in Santa. The only thing about that is, I'm now grown and live with my boyfriend who wouldn't be able to join us because he's going to be working on Christmas Eve and Day (something he can't, and doesn't want, to get out of because of the EXTRA pay he'll be getting). My parents will be paying for everything (except gas) as a gift to us and I REALLY want to go. However, if I go I won't be able to spend the holiday with my boyfriend who I love very, very much. But if I don't, it'll be the first time I didn't spend Christmas with my family and I don't want to have to cross that inevitable bridge until I get there if you know what I mean. Obviously, I'm in a HUGE pickle and have no idea how to get out of it.
What would you do in my situation?

2007-08-27 02:57:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a huge fight yesterday with my dad because I feel that he's being ridiculously overprotective of my 17 year old sister. She's interested in a 19 year old guy who my dad says is too old for her, and because I didn't tell her not to even think about seeing this guy (instead I encouraged it because to me two years is no big deal), my dad's decided I'm a bad influence on my sister. My dad refuses to even consider any point of view other than his own, and I'm afraid that instead of keeping my sister emotionally and physically safe, his overprotectiveness will leave her vulnerable when she goes to college next year. He also said that he doesn't want my sister to end up like me because when I was 19, I married the wrong man, and my dad didn't speak to me for two years. I've since fixed my life and it's really good now. I don't want to make up with him because then he'll think he can make all the decisions forever, and I have other younger sisters, too. Am I being unreasonable?

2007-08-27 02:47:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex girlfriend & I had a child together, and we currently have shared custody. She has primary placement now.
As an unmarried, not divorced parent, the courts very much seem to favor the mother. What are my rights?

My ex wants to take my child out-of-state, and I am 100% against this as she does not show a commitment to our visitation agreement while in-state.
My daughter is the most important thing in my life.
Her mother has not shown this same order of priorities.
My daughter is with her grandmother the majority of the time. Her mother doesn't even live in the city where our daughter goes to school, she goes in her grandmother's school district because it is more convenient for Mom.

All in all, however, this is not about what is convenient for me, or the mother. It is about what's best for my child.
If she were to be deprived of her relationship with her father, I know she would suffer immensely on many levels.
How do I prevent this from happening?
Is there hope?

2007-08-27 02:46:20 · 3 answers · asked by AngiSchy 3

Im in my in my mid 20's with two little kids. My sister is begining her 30's with an 8yr old and 14yr old. Now that my kids are growing and learning I try to avoid my sisters kids. Is this bad of me? My sister and I lived a few yrs in different state so now that we are living near each other again its great but I dont like the way her kids are. Her younger one says bad words - not cursing but bad for my older kid (4) to say. Just negitive mean words. So I spend time yelling at my kid for repeating. Her son gets introuble but of course they dont stick to it and he doesnt listen. Her 14yr old, she just rude and unpleasant to be around....And yet again my sister knows this but seems to take the easy way out and not pay attention to it...She has tried grounding and talking to her but it does nothing. Id like to hang out with family more but not at the cost of my kids learning bad behavior. Im sure they will pick it up at school also but Ill have to adress that when that happens.

2007-08-27 02:45:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, so on my previous profile, I mentioned a question about what to do about my mom's drinking. I told someone she knows, he told her about my concern and told her I said she was drunk driving. I think she was drunk driving a couple of times. I snitched on her right before we were going on vacation, but she was so angry at me she isn't talking to me ( we did a few times over the phone though, all leading into fights ) and she didn't let me go on vacation with her, my sister, and her friend. My mom claims she wasn't drunk driving, and says she deserves an apology. Does she? Before my parents got a divorce, she drank a lot, and it got so bad she almost stabbed my dad. And she's more of the angry drunk. After the divorce, she was sober but I discovered in May she was drinking again. There have been a lot of fights before I snitched. Should I have told on her? Should she drink? Was she fair not to bring me on vacation? Thanks!

2007-08-27 02:43:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

after she has clearly been disrespectfull and you have confiscated it from her? She has a text from her boyfriend saying he want her to have his baby! she is only going to be 16. So is it wrong or do the parents have the right to see what is on their cell phones?

2007-08-27 02:23:38 · 23 answers · asked by Leslie 1

my sisters boyfriend throws little sexual hints to me and i might of blown it off before but now it seems he throws hints and he sounds really serious. i am married and he knows that

2007-08-27 01:57:59 · 10 answers · asked by kris 1

I Have this problem with my mom. She and i havent been talking for months now for a little problem she made a big deal of. She said im not considerd family and that im a stranger in her home i pay 350 for rent and she tells me that i dont need to tell her anything about where im going to go and when im going. Im Practically living my own life under her roof. anywho. Last Friday after work my friend picked me up so we could go to the mall and we were going to go have dinner. she was going to drop off her little sister at the movies but she had to go and pick up some her things so she could spend the night at her friends house. But their mother doesnt like me because of this problem i had with my Mother last year. She kicked me out of the house days after i graduated i had nowhere to go so i went to my friends house. their mother didnt always have a problem with me untill she tried to settle things her own way. She went to my house and spoke to my mom. She came home to throw me out.

2007-08-27 01:45:53 · 6 answers · asked by ? 4

My housekeeper/babysitter lives with me and I absolutely HATE her. I need to do some stuff to her to make her want to leave. She has been with my family for a few years and I can't take it anymore!

2007-08-27 01:43:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 27, still living at home! I moved out against my Mother's wishes at 21, moved back a few years ago when I had less money!! Anyway, it's getting to the point of driving me to tears again. My mother used to hit me LOADS when I was a kid and put me down A LOT. I don't have much confidence beacuse of this so find it hard to make friends and go out. I am proud of myself though, with GP help I have halved my antidepressants and done a skydive!! Now I want to move out again. I have a savings account my Mum looks after for me, I don't mind this as she is a good accountant. But, feel she OWNS me beacuse of this. I have an account she doesn't know about, and am going to save up money to move out with. I used to have an eating disorder and she is always calling me fat, then if I lose a tiny bit of weight I am too thin. I think she is doing this to control me. I have signed up to a yoga class to be independant. I just need some support and encouragement!!! And more GOOD friends.

2007-08-27 00:57:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

this week alone, my boyfriend's parents took away repayment of his $18,000 in student loans and absolutely prohibited him from going a job interview he was salivating over. after an ugly fight between them he conceded to them and did not go.

he lives at home and is miserable every day. he works at a public company where his dad is his boss. he says he is moving out of their house by the end of october and knows i am leaving him if it does not happen.

he told them in advance about this interview and plans on telling them in advance that he is moving out.

i attend 12 step meetings for co-dependence and am a single mom. we are both 24. he is kind, honorable and decent to my family. am i doing the right thing? is this hopeless?

2007-08-27 00:55:23 · 10 answers · asked by blahblahblah 1

http://hmtus.multiply.com/journal/item/1/What_would_you_do_How_would_you_feel

Please post all answers here. For voting reasons.

All information should be included on Multiply page above.

Thank you for your help in this matter.

2007-08-26 19:09:19 · 8 answers · asked by Dwayne 4

2007-08-26 18:47:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have not spoken to my mother in a year for many different reasons. She drinks alot, has an alcoholic family, is very argumentive and opinionated. She has tried to contact me but I am so fed up with her lies, etc. that I feel like I just can't take it any more. Any advise???

2007-08-26 18:43:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i don't like my brothers wife. I knew her in high school and she's liked my brother for a long time and i always said they should of dated in h.s well she was engaged to a diff guy when my brother asked her to marry him they didn't really date just got engaged cause they messed around in high school. so she said yes n dumped the other guy. Well me and my brother use to have a great brother sister relationship and talk all the time. Then he moved with her and our relationship went down the drain he married her dec.06 in a chapel with her mom and my other sis there cause my mom and i moved to oklahoma he didn't even want to tell me he got married. He doesn't talk to me anymore besides hi when i call him every couple of months. she's always gotta be around him and never lets him have space when we hung out before the got married. She ruined our brother sis relationship and tells my brother lies. Friends tell me she was jealous of our bro sis relationship.

How can i get it back?

2007-08-26 18:21:28 · 17 answers · asked by Rayray 5

I have 5 sisters
Ella-my twin sister-19 years old
Hannah-14 years old
Mabelle-18 years old
Racquel-17 years old
Gabriella-20 years old
I have 5 brothers
Michael-21 years old
Johnny-15 years old
Brad-13 years old
Kyle-22 years old
James-16 years old
3 step sisters
lana,Lani,Lanelle -19 years old -triplets
two step brothers
John 20 years old
Aaron-22 years old

2007-08-26 18:05:14 · 14 answers · asked by Erika 3

my parents were sort of arranged to marry each other. any ways long story short they got divorced he has a new family in my home country hes very rich and basically never calls. my mom and i are doing fine just as rich as him probably more and i pretend he doesnt exist. he has hurt me though because every time i go back to see my other family he comes to meet me at the airport buys me lots of expensive stuff tells me he loves me and if there was anything he could do to be with me more he could and gives me empty promises. i trick myself into thinking i can have a dad for once in my life but he always dissapoints me. my mom hates him for just abandoning me and never talks about except to insult. well tonight my mom is away on buisness and he called my cell. he left a voicemail and un til the end i realized that i was sobbing. i was so emotional. that one phone call in a year made me think he loved me even though he had a buisness tone. i need to get out of this and forget him. HELP???

2007-08-26 17:52:36 · 9 answers · asked by LittleBunny 2

i am 17 and i dont want to live with my mom & dad anymore

2007-08-26 17:50:39 · 7 answers · asked by David M 1

I hate him soooooooo much !!! My parents got divorced less then a year ago and my Mom already has a boyfriend...they've been together for 3 or 4 months and my Mom acts like he's the only thing in her world ! She totally forgot about me(15) and my brother(13), she never talks to me anymore, we never do anything as a family, and their always having sex...Ewwwwww...and I hate him he is such a jerk and he's always looking at me and my friends like a pervert !!! I heard them talking about moving in together last night and I don't know what to do since my Dad lives really far away and travels alot :(


How can I get rid of him ?


Thanks so much for your help :)

2007-08-26 17:32:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mother got injured at work and when they were sopose to put her on light duty they didn;'t and she got reinjured worse and than was out of work for months due to this even though she had a doctors note they still fired her. She appealed it and losed. She worker for the government sio it's a lost case. She can't seem to find a job. I'm sure her age is something to do with it she's 50 with 15 years of nursing Assisant experience but not certified. She can't do that type of eork anymore because of the demand and is unable to do that kind of work because of what iis expected and her back is now not strong enough for it. But all interviewers believe that she is going to go back to nursing and will soon quit any job they give her. She lost her house and now she lives with me and my boyfriend and has o income her uneployment ran out and her car insurence will soon be canceled. I can't support her for ever. I love her but would like her to get back on her feet. Any suggestions?

2007-08-26 17:20:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I never hated my dad, but I'm starting to dislike him more and more. My mom and dad divorced when I was a kid, mainly because my dad treated my mom like crap. He is an old school Korean, so he treats women like they are lesser then him, and I hate it. He treats my mom like crap, and shows an immense amount of favortism for me over my sister. I hate how he does this, and I keep telling him to treat my mom and sister better. He never changes, and he's dead rich and doesn't spend his money for anyone else but for me and my sister (mainly me). Because of this I always reject anything he offers me, ever since I was a kid I had this mentality. In my mom's side of the family, my aunt is dying and their family is really poor. My cousin can't go to college because she has no car, and my younger cousin gets 4.0's and probably won't have enough money for a good college. My dad will not give them any money whatsoever. What can I do to change his views, I'm starting to hate him more and more.

2007-08-26 17:11:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am indian and we all know how indian parents react to our wishes (well some of us). i have asked my parents for a cell phone, mp3 player, bike, and a psp etc. they always say NO for everything i ask. its really making my anger go up each day.
PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!!!!

2007-08-26 16:48:15 · 17 answers · asked by immaboss 1

I feel that my mom is always on my brothers side no matter what. He gets bad grades so my dad yells at him and makes him do chores then my mom argues with my dad and says my older brother should have to do those chores cuz i do nothing but thats not true i have daily chores that i do. I have better grades then my older brother, im nice to my mom and i do everything she says, but yet she seems to always choosse my brother over me. My brother is out ever night, he is 16, has a girlfriend(who lies to me, and my mom and dad) he got a car, didnt even earn it, my brother has no job gets 20 dollars or more a day, gets to do fun stuff all the time, and i hate him for all of that! I hate my mom for choosing him over me and then my dad always gives my brother attention, either yelling or being nice. I dont know what to do. My parents seem to think that i dont need them, which i probaly dont but i would like some credit for the things i do. Please just give me advice! Sorry its so long!

2007-08-26 16:30:43 · 15 answers · asked by cass. 2

lately. She's a very manipulative person. I don't trust her at all.Once, I told her that if I have to move out of the place my husband and I shared, since he's gone, I'll drop off all his stuff at her home. I never told her when. I really don't want to talk to her, or the rest of his family. I don't have anything against to them, but I don't really think I have to be in contact with them anymore. Today, I receive a phone call from my sister in law asking me if I needed help to move my soon to be ex husband's things to their mother's place today. I never mentioned when I'll do it. I still have to get money, find a place, etc. I feel like my mother in law is tryng to control me, or at least monitor my movements. I don't think I really need to talk to them anymore. The only tie that I have to them was my husband and with him gone, I don't want anything to do with them. I have a child, not my husband's that my mother in law says that she loves. My child doesn't care about. Any suggestion?

2007-08-26 16:14:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous