i am indian and we all know how indian parents react to our wishes (well some of us). i have asked my parents for a cell phone, mp3 player, bike, and a psp etc. they always say NO for everything i ask. its really making my anger go up each day.
PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!!!!
2007-08-26 16:48:15 · 17 answers · asked by immaboss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i m thirteen
2007-08-26 17:42:53 · update #1
two words: anger management
also: find out why ur parents say no (maybe financial issues or something) maybe if there's a good reason it'll help ur anger
2007-08-26 16:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by ...... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age. I realize that these are all the rage, but they are not necessary to your life. Your parents do not owe you anything other than a roof over your head and 3 square meals a day.
Actually, your age doesn't matter... there are dozens of ways to make money if you are creative. I saw a news article on the TV the other day... a man saw an opportunity in picking up after dogs in their owners' yards... he swings through 2 times a week, picks up all the doody and puts it all in a plastic bag and then into the trash. The homeowners get a doody-free yard, and he collects a flat weekly rate per yard. How about supplementing that with walking dogs?
What about helping local businesses by doing inventory or bookkeeping (can you work a spreadsheet?) How about weeding flower beds? Raking up leaves? Stocking shelves at a local grocery store?
The cool thing is you can buy whatever you want with your own money... and you will build a sense of pride as you build a business and a savings account. If you save your money, you stand to be able to buy a nice little car or motorcycle in a couple of years.
A basic cell phone plan runs about $45 a month and they will throw in a basic phone... they even have pay-as-you-go plans.
2007-08-27 00:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, use your own money to buy what you want. They may not be able to afford it or perhaps they don't want you to have these things for a reason. IF you get a job and earn your own money and work toward getting the things you want, your parents may be impressed by this. If you are too young to get a part-time job- then you're too young to have a cell phone, mp3 player and psp. The bike is weird though, unless you have a bike and are trying to upgrade it or are you talking about a "bike" like a motorcycle? You shouldn't get so angry just because you want stuff doesn't mean you deserve it. Respect your parents decision to spend their money on what they want to get for you.
2007-08-26 23:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I take a nap, or take a walk. Sometimes I go to a friwnds house, or find a quiet place in or outside the house where no one will bother me. I just sit there and read or draw until I'm not so angry anmore. Also writing why you're mad and coming up with solutions helps. If I were you I'd save up the money to buy those items. My parents almost would never buy those unless it was my birthday, I have to save up for that stuff. Help around the house and around the neighborhood or get a job; earn some money. If you take responisbilty over the finacial part of the item, they might take you more seriously.
2007-08-26 23:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to calm down and start asking questions, ask why you cant have a PSP, MP3, ect... ask!!!! if it is because you are acting bad , change, if it is because of your grades, bring them up. there has to be a reason. If there is no money for that kind of stuff then see if you cant work for it. maybe do extra things around the house. I dont know how indian people react to your wishes but I think you should be respected too. good luck!!!
2007-08-27 00:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't have an anger problem, you have a controlling parent problem. Your parents are who they are. If you are old enough, go and get a job, then buy the things you want with the money you earn. That will not only teach you financial responsibility, but also how to value what you have.
2007-08-26 23:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a part-time job to show your parents that you are willing to work for these things that you want. Maybe once they can see that you are prepared to help yourself, they will help you out a little more. By saying no to you, they are not just being 'tight', they are trying to make you understand the value of money.
2007-08-26 23:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly count to 10 backwards....when you get down to one, put an add in the local paper that you are ready for a job, make some money and buy these items for yourself. You may not always get what you want, but I'm sure they are taking care of your needs!
2007-08-26 23:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by weatheredmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you seriously need to sit down & try talking w/ your parents. Most of what your asking for are not items you actually "Need" for survival.. The bike can be used for transportation to a job however & you could buy all of these items you desire.
2007-08-26 23:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by wesley_1971 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i asked if icould beg the neighbor lady for 3 grapes when starving as a baby mom said no, then at age 7 for a sandwich they told me no, when i tried to give a nice friend of mine for feeding me when i was hungry because she was hungry they said no, when i wanted a doll they said no ,something for christmas ...any thing --no etc. so you have room to complain?hmmmm
2007-08-26 23:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋