I never hated my dad, but I'm starting to dislike him more and more. My mom and dad divorced when I was a kid, mainly because my dad treated my mom like crap. He is an old school Korean, so he treats women like they are lesser then him, and I hate it. He treats my mom like crap, and shows an immense amount of favortism for me over my sister. I hate how he does this, and I keep telling him to treat my mom and sister better. He never changes, and he's dead rich and doesn't spend his money for anyone else but for me and my sister (mainly me). Because of this I always reject anything he offers me, ever since I was a kid I had this mentality. In my mom's side of the family, my aunt is dying and their family is really poor. My cousin can't go to college because she has no car, and my younger cousin gets 4.0's and probably won't have enough money for a good college. My dad will not give them any money whatsoever. What can I do to change his views, I'm starting to hate him more and more.
2007-08-26 17:11:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I pray for change everyday, and I pray everyday that he may be a Christian one day. But now I'm starting to hate him, and praying for him is become more difficult. I will always pray for him, and I will always try to show God to him. I want him to become a Christian, but its become very difficult with the way he treats my family.
2007-08-26 17:13:30 · update #1
Your sister needs a good male role model and lucky for her she has you. If you hate him it might be best to stay away from him for now. Show your sister what a real man is like and that he doesnt abuse.
2007-08-26 17:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to change your father's attitudes or behaviors... you can possibly take advantage of it, though.
You can take whatever money your dad gives you and secretly pass it on to your sister or cousins. See how far you can push his "generosity".
Other than that, about all you can do is whatever you can do to get yourself through college and out into the work world so you can look after your mother and sister yourself. You can be the family's avatar.
Try not to waste your emotional energy on hating your dad... it only makes you miserable.
The old boy won't live forever. It is a shame that he has to make everyone else miserable in the meantime.
2007-08-27 00:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you that you realize that this is wrong. many would not stand up to those who mistreat others. stop worring about what your father does. you are better than him and should focus on how you can end the cycle of this family history starting with you. everyone will see that you are the better person. as far as for your father just don't let him get the best of you just distance yourself from him as well as have your family do the same when he realizes that he is alone and drive everyone away he hopefully will change his ways. if not than he will be alone. than he won't beable to hurt those who are dare to your heart.
2007-08-27 00:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best that you do not hate your father. Satan can't cast out Satan. All you can do is forgive him and pray for him.
If he offers to do something nice for you, take it and give it to the less fortunate. If he offers you cash, help out your family. Think of yourself as "Robin Hood".
-Good luck and God Bless!
2007-08-30 23:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋