I have not spoken to my mother in a year for many different reasons. She drinks alot, has an alcoholic family, is very argumentive and opinionated. She has tried to contact me but I am so fed up with her lies, etc. that I feel like I just can't take it any more. Any advise???
2007-08-26 18:43:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not obligated to have to continually deal with her crap. You are entitled to some peace in your life and like you many people have cut ties with family members who are abusive. Just dont answer her calls or any other forms of communication. You dont even have to say why. She is old enough to know her behaviour is destructive.
2007-08-26 19:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her occasionally on your terms. Be on your way out so you can keep the call short. It's hard to remember sometimes but parents can only do the best they can. Some have more to give and some have less, but it's all they have. Be the bigger person and keep in touch. If you know she's a liar, then you know what to expect but you are the good daughter. You will be the one who can sleep peacefully at night. Do the right thing-like you wish she had done.
2007-08-27 02:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have not been to Ur situation before and may not understand how you feel solely. But what i know that we expect a lot from our mums and we want them to be role models.However we should bear in mined that they are human beings and they make mistakes. I think Ur mum needs ur help and why not give it a try. I'm not trying to advise you, but if i were in your case , i would love to her those tough words. Good luck.
2007-08-27 02:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every addict is a manipulator... their whole reason for existence is to feed their addiction... that means lying, cheating and stealing to get their next fix.
You can answer the phone. You can talk to her.
You don't have to fall for any of her manipulation.
You don't have to put up with any guff or abuse.
When she starts being nasty, you simply say, "Okay Mom, since you are not gonna be nice, I gotta go. I have things to do."
2007-08-27 01:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you have to do...but keep in mind that YOU are genetically disposed to be addicted to something in your lifetime as well...maybe not alcohol but something else. I haven't spoken to my mother in over 10 years, don't even know if she is alive still. It came down to my having to live my own life without her approval.
2007-08-27 02:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, she is your mother. She may have something important to tell you. Call her now and then just to say hi and check in; be respectful and nice to her. We all need to feel we are loved. She loves you unconditionally...give her a little of the same, k?
2007-08-27 01:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Continue to do nothing and hope that she will get her s*** together sometime
2007-08-27 02:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Teja babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move and change your phone number.
2007-08-27 02:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋