I hate my moms boyfriend what do I do?

Question

I hate him soooooooo much !!! My parents got divorced less then a year ago and my Mom already has a boyfriend...they've been together for 3 or 4 months and my Mom acts like he's the only thing in her world ! She totally forgot about me(15) and my brother(13), she never talks to me anymore, we never do anything as a family, and their always having sex...Ewwwwww...and I hate him he is such a jerk and he's always looking at me and my friends like a pervert !!! I heard them talking about moving in together last night and I don't know what to do since my Dad lives really far away and travels alot :(


How can I get rid of him ?


Thanks so much for your help :)

I told my Mom about the weird looks he gives me and she said I was just being weird !!!

Answer 1

you can't just get rid of him all you can do is except it or tell your mom how you feel...like tell her it doesn't seem right that she's dating already..and that you really don't like her b/f and why...

Answer 2

I have the same problem a little bit, i hate my moms boyfriend too he thinks he knows everything, i really miss my dad who lives in all the way across the world from where i am, my dads great but he barely calls. I have a brother and sister who hate my moms boyfriend as well but there both away with there own lifes, im 13 and an idividual now cause my mom thinks im so independent,and have money to buy my own things but im only 13.I don't talk to her that much she works and gose to whereever with her boyfriend. I change so much since my dad left, im matured so much and still am.I wish i could divorce my mom but i need alot a moeny. But everyone has a voice and choose to use it, You should use it, tell your mom how you feel,tell someone how you feel.Do whatever it takes to let her know,stand up for yourself. Maybe i should take my own advice as well.

Answer 3

Your parents outgrew each other, but they still love you... they also deserve to be happy.
Your mom is on the rebound. Allow her to process through all this... things will calm down. Give her some space to explore her new-found freedom. Your dad is probably in the same mode.
If your mom's boyfriend tries anything with you or your brother, you will have to take some kind of action. I would suggest locking your bedroom door to begin with.

Actually, it may be a good idea to talk to your dad about what you are feeling.

What you can do is focus on your school work and other activities... while your mom's boyfriend keeps her out of your hair. The great thing is that you are old enough to make yourself scarce as long as you hold up your end of things... whatever chores you have to do and maintain your grades.
Take up some sports activities. Come up with some simple ways to make some money there in the neighborhood... babysitting, dog-walking, scooping dog poo out of yards (don't laugh at that one... you get several houses that pay you a flat fee to come in twice a week and pick up the doody and bag it up).

You can study at your friends' houses. Actually, your mom would probably welcome that as long as she knew where you were and you stayed out of trouble.

Answer 4

Let me start by asking that maybe you are reading into this to much. rather than destroying your mothers relationship and have her get mad at you. because when it comes to love you tend to over look some things. you need to expect this relationship even if you don't like it. unless he does something to hurt you than you should try to bond with him with your mother. he will never take the place of your father. but before you judge him you should try to do things with your mother, her boyfriend, and your brother. you have to remember after you and your brother grow up and our in your own places with your own lives your mother will have no one. the idea of your parents being together is great but talking from experience sometimes it's better to have your parents separated than have a dysfunctional household. talk to your mother tell her that you feel left out. but just ask your self this would you give up a date with someone you really like to hang out with your mother. soon you will have a special someone and not want to hang out with mom it happens to everyone. when this happens your mother will be put on the back burner. before doing anything hasty just look at it from your mother's point of view.

Answer 5

You can't get RID of him, but you should talk to your mom about your concerns. Is it possible that you wouldn't like ANYONE else that your mom is with because they aren't your Dad? Your problem actually seems to be more of a problem with your mom than with the guy she's with, although you seem to be blaming him, it's actually your anger at your mom that is displaced. She's choosing to spend time with him over you. Talk to her, make her talk to you.

Answer 6

I would video tape the things he does. Try to get your mom to listen and yell if you have to. No mother should ignore her own kids.

Answer 7

you need to sit down and talk to her and if that dosent work is there any other relatives that you and your brother could go stay with

Answer 8

If he EVER does anything 'physical' toward you or one of
your friends, you MUST tell someone,..everyone!
Dad, teacher, principal, police......

Answer 9

wat u can do now ?? juz ignore them... concentrate on Studyz.. try to contact ur Dad... U can move to stay with ur Grandparents or Hostel... Be positive, think wide... Dun be sad or angry..

GoD Bless.. Take Care.