My sister and I have always had problems. We bickered constantly growing up, but as we got older, it got much better. I'm 25, my sister is 27. Back in June, this started because we had family visiting and she wanted us to change dinner plans so her husband could come. (she called late in the day and we wouldn't have made it in time; she had known about dinner for a week and waited until 3 hrs prior to call). She didn't speak to me for a month. We started speaking again on her bday in July. We went out and my Mom and BF were teasing her about her bachelorette party, because it took place in the same bar. She cursed me out because she thought I brought it up - I didn't. Her friends came up to me to console me and I vented to them about how rude she was. I've tried reaching out to her and she won't respond. I admitted to her I shouldn't have vented to her friends, but said that if she wants an apology, I deserve one too.
I don't know what else I can do. Its been a month. Anyone?
2007-08-27 03:24:40 · 8 answers · asked by Coleen429 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds to me like a typical family situation. First of all, perhaps she didn't change the dinner plans until the last minute because her husband didn't know he wouldn't be able to make it until then. I can't imagine why she didnt' speak to you for a month because of it though. She is the one that changed things, not you. Secondly, even if your sister thought you brought up the bachelor party, she shouldn't have cursed you out (especially in front of other people). It sounds to me like your sister has other things going on in her life and she is displacing her anger on you. As far as venting to her friends, she cursed you out in front of them, they came to you, you talked to them; you have nothing to apologize for.
All that being said, if you want to reach out to her and mend the fences...kudos to you for being the bigger person. I would simply send her a card that says you miss her or are worried about her because she seems extraordinarily sensitive (My Thoughts Exactly by Hallmark should have something to this effect). Let her know you are there for her, whenever she wants to talk. Then wait to hear from her. If you don't, in a week or two, send another one.
In the meantime, don't take it personally, I think she has more going on than she is talking to you about.
2007-08-27 03:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by nimat33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs to grow up! You need to accept the fact that you can't change the way she thinks and get off her roller coaster....This does not mean that you don't love her,but if you want peace in your life....do not let her manipulate you and make you feel guilty,because this could go on for years! Some people with her personality never grow up,so make your own decisions guilt free!
2007-08-27 03:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her cool her heels!
Don't beg her.
She will come around again when she cools off.
Continue on with daily routines.
My sister acts the same way, until I got tired of being the one to always apologize first. I just told myself that if she wants to talk, she knows my number; I don't need to be chasing her. She calls me every now and then.
It is better when I give her space. There isn't a lot of drama.
The way I see it, if she gets mad, she'll have to get over it.
There will be plenty of things we will not agree on, but that is just how it goes.
2007-08-27 03:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend what you're dealing with. I fantastically lots had to enhance my sister from the time she replace into in 8th grade till she graduated excessive college. Yeah, the only time she replace into dazzling to me replace into while she needed a experience to Wendy's or needed to be picked up from prepare consultation. All you're able to do is experience the wave. as much as you opt for to get on her for ignoring you males, you in simple terms could take care of it. My sister started out reducing me some slack remarkable around the time she grew to become 17. She fantastically much 20 now, and gave me a birthday card final 12 months thanking me for being their for her in excessive college, even although she replace right into a brat. it gets extra beneficial, carry in there!
2016-12-31 06:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by tanton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just go to her and ask her why she's being so sensitive towards you and explain you're not the real culprit here. Do something together with her to regain confidence and get back on a regualr talking basis, even if it's small chit-chat over coffee.
2007-08-27 03:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't force her to apologize, sounds like she's a bit selfish, if she is willing to listen you could try talking to her and let her know she had no reason to go off on you especially in public. if she's not interested in listening to you then try emailing her or writing to her, if she doesn't respond then all you can do is ignore her and get on with your life.
2007-08-27 03:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister obviously feels others are "out to get her" and is a little paraniod.
you can't change that... just let her figure it out... she is causing problems for herself.
you can only change one person, and that is you.
i sure hope things work out. take care.
2007-08-27 03:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the peace and quiet from her while you can.
2007-08-27 03:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋