My parents are political asylees - the came to the United States when I was ten - I'm a US citizen... Seven years after we have been in the US I went back to see my family back home in the middle east (I was 17)... well... lets just say that I was not what they expected and they were not what I expected...
I was more of a guest - a temporary inconvenience that they had to deal with till I left (I was hurt when I heard this - I overheard them talking) - but now... another 3 years later I don't feel that they are my family anymore...
It has been 10 years... is it right of me to just let them go and forget about them?
2007-08-27 03:07:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel sad for you - in a way though, just because people are family doesn't always mean we have a bond with them. I have better relationships with some of my friends then some members of my family. There's a lot of scenarios you can use to make yourself feel better, but think of it this way, it's been 10 years without them, you're doing ok, you may live the rest of your life without them and you'll be just fine.
Side note - if you have good/great friends, there's your surrogate family right there.
2007-08-27 03:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lori E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very sad that you have been through this. Family is very important and should be a priority. That being said, it doesn't appear to me that you are the one that turned their back. It sounds like they began the cycle when they didn't treat you as family, when you went to see them. For you to not think of them as family now is simply natural. You don't know them after 10 years, and they have made no effort to remedy that situation. Sad as it is, I say get on with your life. I'm sure you have people in your life here in the US that consider you a valuable member of their family. Spend your time and energy on them, not on those who can't be bothered with you.
2007-08-27 10:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by nimat33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think its good for you to stay away. They a re still family but you dont always have to have them around. I have a prob with my mother and cant seem to fix . Im deciding to leave my house and live my own life so thats something that you should keep doing. if they are being unfair and they treat you wrongly than yea your doing nothing wrong. and if one day they accuse you for it. you tell them what they did and why youve been so apart for soo long
2007-08-27 10:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they haven't made the effort to get to know you after 10 years, let them go.
2007-08-27 10:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear you've been treated this way. I think it's time to let them go. It only sounds like they are causing you pain, and not bringing anything good into your life. Keep your head up.
2007-08-27 10:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-08-27 11:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by LT Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes maybe that's the best.
move forward with your life and do things which fill your life and make you happiest.
take care.
2007-08-27 10:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋