I feel that my mom is always on my brothers side no matter what. He gets bad grades so my dad yells at him and makes him do chores then my mom argues with my dad and says my older brother should have to do those chores cuz i do nothing but thats not true i have daily chores that i do. I have better grades then my older brother, im nice to my mom and i do everything she says, but yet she seems to always choosse my brother over me. My brother is out ever night, he is 16, has a girlfriend(who lies to me, and my mom and dad) he got a car, didnt even earn it, my brother has no job gets 20 dollars or more a day, gets to do fun stuff all the time, and i hate him for all of that! I hate my mom for choosing him over me and then my dad always gives my brother attention, either yelling or being nice. I dont know what to do. My parents seem to think that i dont need them, which i probaly dont but i would like some credit for the things i do. Please just give me advice! Sorry its so long!
2007-08-26 16:30:43 · 15 answers · asked by cass. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to them. I went through that as well. Dont forget you'll achieve alot more than him in life. So your ahead and your winning with your grades. Your parents need a news flash that you are there as well!
2007-08-26 16:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Living at home is only temporary. Hate is a easy thing to do. It sounds tough. Most of your problems appear to be centered on yourself in your brain.
Try loving your brother. Try loving your parents.
The trick is finding the good things about them.
A negative personality is easily attracted to things that are wrong. Life is not fair and all that stuff.
It is a snare. Your in it. A para-dime shift is in order so that you can see the good things about life.
Credit or no credit. A maturing person may be pleased with themselves for doing the right things.
Besides, why should you get verbal credit for the things you are supposed to be doing right anyway. Its your life. Stay in yours and out of others.
You do not like to be criticized by others. So don't criticize them either.
And its true. Your brother needs lots of help.
In many ways you are low maintenance. Your brother is high maintenance.
Your confidence in yourself may grow later in your life. The things you hate may follow you where ever you go. If you don't like something practice not being angry about it.
Peace can follow. Good luck.
2007-08-26 23:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by tom s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All six answers you got leave you to wait for future. No one recognises that you need a closeness with someone in the family especially with your mom. Unfortunately, in a situation as yours your parents aren't paying attention to you, and the responsibility of drawing attention to it falls back on you. Now, if you ask your mom for a time to tell her that, she might get upset that you are telling her that she is not being a fair mom, to say the least. At the most she might start out with "what do you want." A response that is likely to lead you to think that you are begging for affection. You appear to be burdened with the role of a secondary parent. If all this seem to fit in your experience, then tell your parents that you deserve and demand money first, equal to what your brother gets regardless of age difference. Then ask to reduce your chore load without blaming them for not having your brother do the chores. Do not set yourself up in comparison to your brother. Just stand up and ask for more concrete, tangible things. This will at least open up communication about your needs. This may lead to more meaningful dialogue. If you get turned down unreasonably argue on facts about your sense of responsibility. Never try to get by showing that you are better. You can be knocked down in a snap. This may make parents wake up and look at you. Good luck. You are otherwise on a wonderful track for future.
2007-08-27 00:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually no matter what parents say...there is a favorite child. In this case it seems that your brother is the one...no matter what you do it doesn't seem to please them, but I'm sure they do love you and are very proud of things you do. Maybe they want you to try harder and be better than him...that is why they yell at you...It hard to really know how you feel...but stick it out...it could be worse you know...
2007-08-26 23:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother gets more attention because he needs it, obviously. You don't because like you said, you don't need it. You are more independent and grown up than your brother, which is very lucky for you. When you are grown up and out on your own, you will make it, as far as your brother is concerned he might need a lot more help from your parents.
2007-08-26 23:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about take a break and move in with your grand parents for a while or find a
good freind to move in with a while or
for as long as you feel it neccessary.
2007-08-26 23:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Brian Sanders 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email what you wrote to your parents. Unless they are insane, things will change or at least you'll get an explanation why this is happening.
2007-08-26 23:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by spirit dummy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the movies and watch 'anger management' and 'school for scoundrels'
no point letting ur anger get the better of you - control it and channel your energy into making life better for yourself. keep doing your thing and do not compare yourself with your bro' because you are yourself and you are unique in your own way.
2007-08-26 23:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by datasprite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, some mothers are like that. They have so many problems that they don't deal with anything that isn't a problem i.e. you. A good hearty, hard, rough fu*ck should curb your anger issues. And relieve stress.
2007-08-26 23:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should write a letter to your parents and say everything you just did and leave it on their bed. They'll have to listen then.
2007-08-26 23:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by dizzymom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋