Im in my in my mid 20's with two little kids. My sister is begining her 30's with an 8yr old and 14yr old. Now that my kids are growing and learning I try to avoid my sisters kids. Is this bad of me? My sister and I lived a few yrs in different state so now that we are living near each other again its great but I dont like the way her kids are. Her younger one says bad words - not cursing but bad for my older kid (4) to say. Just negitive mean words. So I spend time yelling at my kid for repeating. Her son gets introuble but of course they dont stick to it and he doesnt listen. Her 14yr old, she just rude and unpleasant to be around....And yet again my sister knows this but seems to take the easy way out and not pay attention to it...She has tried grounding and talking to her but it does nothing. Id like to hang out with family more but not at the cost of my kids learning bad behavior. Im sure they will pick it up at school also but Ill have to adress that when that happens.
2007-08-27 02:45:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The 14yr old went to band camp and was made to do push ups when late or out of line with the teachers....They tried telling her to do push ups at home like they did with her over the summer...she laughs it off and my sister lets it go!!!!
2007-08-27 02:57:38 · update #1
I understand completely what you are going through. Although it hurts to know that you live close by, but can't stand her kids, you have to face the music. I think the easiest way to NOT hurt anyone's feelings is to allow them to hang out, but once you feel that something is out of line, I would leave. Not seeing your sister and her children can be very painful, so if things keep going the way they are, and your sister notices your not around that much anymore, talk to her and tell her how you feel.
2007-08-27 03:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by alexcarlosash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of sad. It sounds like her kids are now old enough to go to school so try to spend time with your sister when they are gone. It is to bad she is letting this and taking the easy way out. Talk with your sister if you can and maybe give her ideas on how to handle things in love. I know with my son if things start getting out of hand I have him do push ups. It has always seemed to work. As he has gotten older and bigger grounding seems to work. But, I have a pretty good kid so I don't have to do that to much. Different things work with different kids. Time outs, grounding, push-ups,spanking....etc
2007-08-27 02:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by stanberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to deal with the fall out of the cousins hanging out together, then you'll have to cut back on time spent together. You don't have to tell anyone why, just do it gradually and always have a good excuse ready as to why you can't get together.
2007-08-27 03:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, and no its not bad to want to not be around somebody if they aggrivate you, but just dont turn your back on them completley.
2007-08-27 02:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to like someone just because they're family. I don't like my 3 brothers-in-law but I'm cordial to them. One I'd like to just smash him every time I see him, but I keep my mouth shut.
2007-08-27 15:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by AmericanPatriot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not allow my children to be around hers. If she asked me why, I would tell her because I'm their mother and I said so.
2007-08-27 03:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister created the monsters her kids have become today.
do what is best for you and your kids.....
2007-08-27 02:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋