I'm getting a little better with verbal confrontation however I still feel more comfortable saying what I need to in written form. My Mom and I live in different provinces and a couple nights ago we had some words over the phone. There's so much I need to get out that I'm afraid if I try and talk to her over the phone again I will not say everything or she will interupt. I really need her to hear my side.
I have thought about snail mail but I would really like this resolved as soon as possible and a letter could take up to a week for her to receive. Is e-mail okay or should I just suck it up and call her?
2007-08-27 03:10:45 · 10 answers · asked by Ersabette 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My advise is to write the e-mail but don't send it for at least 24 hours. Go back and read what you have written after that time. It may have given you some time to cool off and rethink what you wrote. If it still sounds OK to you after 24 hours then send it. Writing instead of calling will also give her a chance to read it and think about her answer. You might need to ask her to reply by e-mail so that she also has the chance to cool down first before she reacts. Communicating in writing is great if you can respond and not just react.
2007-08-27 03:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by pammer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that a quick line, maybe, "hi mom, can't chat right now, at work, just wanted to say sorry for the crabbiness the other night, TTYL." is an ok start. But not the same as a card.
Snail-mail really is the way to go with these things if you want to write. It just means more when you take the time to go to the store, pick the card, write a note/letter, mail it.....etc. But if it's really got to be done quick "suck it up" may be better.
2007-08-27 03:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think an email may help you to tell her how you are really feeling and may provide her a better way of hearing what you have to say. You should email her stating that you've been needing to say these things to her and then state that your hope is to resolve the problem and once she has some time to think about what you've written, you should have a conversation on the phone.
2007-08-27 03:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by It's just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and e-mail your mom and tell her everything you need to get off your chest.
Just be aware that the written word does not carry the same tone that verbal communication does, so sarcasm, satire, etc. may not get communicated properly.
Say what you mean and don't leave anything open to interpretation. Then, ask her at the end of the letter to please call you after she reads it so the two of you can talk to work things out.
2007-08-27 03:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by ann81969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would e-mail her. If you aren't comfortable with verbal confrontaion then if you are on the phone things may be said that aren't meant and that can cause some serious damage to your relationship.
With an e-mail you can sit there and think about what you want to say and not have to worry about being interrupted. I think that e-mailing someone you have a problem with is the way to go.
That is the route I recently took with a member of my family.
2007-08-27 03:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by mommymystic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can send her a short email but you must follow up with a phone call. Just give her time to read the email and think about ur pending phone call. If she is a reasonable person, she will probably be ready to apologize to you too! Good Luck!!!
2007-08-27 06:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by RIDDLE ME THIS.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 07:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by calandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make a list of the things you wish to say before you make the telephone call, you will be able to make the conversation more meaningful. No matter how many times she interrupts you and tries to stop you from telling your side, you can go back to your list and continue saying the things that you want her to hear.
2007-08-27 03:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her the email. It's better than not offering an apology at all.
2007-08-27 03:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can email her first. something short -- tell her you regret the argument and would like to apologize.. then tell her you intend to call?
that might work... and give you time to think about it. her too...
2007-08-27 03:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋