My sister is older than me. I have always had a hard time speaking my mind. She calls me more than 5 times a day. She yells at me all the time. Not to mention comes over uninvited all the time. Which would not be that bad if she did not have five kids too. Don't get me wrong I love my nieces but with my two and her five that's alot of kids at one time all the time. HELP!!!!!!!!
2007-08-24 18:45:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you have two children of your own, I am sure that you are an adult.
As an adult you have a right to speak up and not allow her in your house if she is not invited.
Get caller ID and ignore her calls.
With five children she should be paying more attention to them, and pestering you less, or on your terms.
Be an adult, speak up for yourself. Good luck.
2007-08-24 19:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are trying really hard to get your kids on a schedule, and that you need her help. Ask her if she could please limit the times she comes over to (example) 3:00 pm - 5:00pm on Monday, Wednesday & Fridays. I know that may seem a little crazy, but a lot of parents get there kids set into a routine, tell you sis you read about it in a magazine & it's suppose to really help with behavioral issues or something. As for the phone calls, opps- I must have been outside with the kids, sorry the phone was dead, or little Jimmy hid the phone in the toy box.
Good luck!
2007-08-25 01:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a doormat!
Establish some healthy boundaries. This is an abusive relationship!
Quit picking up the phone, and instruct your kids not to pick up the phone. Get an answering machine and use it to screen your calls.
When she does get hold of you on the phone, and starts yelling, you tell her to behave and if she doesn't, you hang up. Quit being a doormat!
When she shows up to unload her kids, tell her she cannot because your kids are under quarantine with strep throat (or lice, or another disease... get creative) that she would not want her kids to catch.
Find ways to NOT be available to babysit for her... when she shows up, grab your purse and say you were just headed out.
If she typically catches you at a particular time (say, Saturday mornings) arrange not to be there at that time, or at least appear to be heading out the door. Take your kids to the park or someplace else.
PRESENT HER WITH A BILL for babysitting.
Try every way to get it across to her that she has abused your good nature for the last time. If she gets cheesed-off at you and leaves you alone, so be it!
Quit being a doormat!
2007-08-25 02:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order?
2007-08-25 01:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋