i'm my mother's lonely child, i'm 22, my father is pretty much busy all the time and not prepared to accept her crap in the remaining time of his day. So basically, all of his problems with her is directed on me EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE.I don't have anger management problems, in fact i rarely get angry. But she wants me to spend ALL OF MY TIME WITH HER when i'm not working. I'm tired of this any advice
2007-08-24 18:31:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My brother had a similar problem when my mom came to live with him. He just met his friends somewhere after work, and came home later to spend time with her before bedtime.
2007-08-24 19:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 22.
You can move out anytime you want.
Is there a friend you can share an apartment with?
Your parents would have to deal with each other if you are not there to serve as a buffer.
If you don't want to move out, the more passive approach is to stay gone and occupied as much as possible. The trick here is to do your household chores and have legitimate reasons to be gone so you don't catch flak.
If you are going to college, do as much of your studies in the library or a friend's house.
If you only work and come home, consider taking some night classes to enrich your knowledge base and make yourself more valuable in the workplace.
Find a social group to hang out with.
Get creative.
2007-08-24 18:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to assume you are still living at home. If so have you considered moving out? You could get a roommate to make ends meet with expenses. It would be great experience for you by allowing you to experience some independance and your mom would realize you are on your own. If moving out is not feasible I suggest you set some boundaries, perhaps set a time to watch a movie, a show on TV and than after that go your own way, read a book, see a friend, work. I believe you can make things better by setting some rules.
2007-08-24 18:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by TX2AR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is very lonely and is seeking attention. Try to be a little more patient with her. I think what she needs is a hobby; something to occupy her time. Maybe an activity that she enjoys doing or maybe some time with her friends or other relatives. Your mother probably just wants more time with you since you are working. Try to explain to her that you do want some time to yourself also and that you dont really feel like she's being fair with what she's asking of you. Talk to her and work something out.
2007-08-24 18:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by dazednconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...i get kinda mad at my parents a lot too...but i'm a teen so it may be different...
Take a step back and look at the big picture though...
Your mom is one of the most important people in your life (or i hope she is) and you should spend time with her...
At the same time though, tell her that sometimes you need a small break. Tell her however you like...maybe you could let her hang with some of her friends too...
Listen to the teen if you want...but this is just my opinion...
Peace
2007-08-24 18:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should tell her directly if she truly is annoying you.
But trust me, you should respect your mother and really spend as much time as you have with her. Because when something happens to her, you may regret it. In fact, I'm more scared of the death of my close family members than my actual death.
At least she's not abusive to you.... Not that she really could be since you're 22.
2007-08-24 18:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Montag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about hobbies. Get her into social groups so she won't be too lonely. If you choose not to spend a day with her, tell her you have other plans and that you'll call her tomorrow. She won't like it but she has no choice but to accept it.
2007-08-24 18:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be calm!
Patience can conquer this world!
No matter what be cool! have a still mind!
And It's YOUR OWN mother..so there's little to worry about!
Think about HER as well...she might be feeling lonely and ignored with the busy shedules in life!
Afterall life is all about caring and sharing! In the end that is all that matters really in Life!
Find a soln yourself you are your OWN Guru!
2007-08-24 18:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by kiranraj.bangalore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your mother, your mother can do and say stuff to you that only she can do and say. anyone else tells you that stuff and there might be an automatic fight.
be respectful.
when she is gone you will wish she was here every day.
my mother is gone and everyday i wish she were still here.
take her to dinner ,or the park or museum, or the race track.
she will appreciate it and stop complaining.
my brothers and myself took our mother to dinner and she was very happy. for a few day she was really cool, until she got back to normal.
change of pace is whats needed. dinner will be fine.
2007-08-24 18:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 04:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by gandarilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋