reconcile with the fact that you feel guilty. I don't know why I feel so guilty a person within my immediate family a friend of the family has just died however this person and I did not connect..why I don't know she made hard for me to connect with her..now that she has died I feel guilty and like everyone is thinking I'm happy at this tradegy, I'm not happy I don't wish bad on even my enemies. I know what it is like to lose a parent in life, it's the worst feeling.
2007-08-25 04:15:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why should you feel guilty that you did not like her in life? She isn't a saint all of a sudden just cause she passed on.
The way I look at it, it's not up to you or I to judge how one lives their lives is it? Whatever sins she needs to atone for that is up to her and her maker.
There are plenty of people, near and far, who choose to make their lives and those of others miserable, for whatever reasons, and its best we just stay far away from them and not let them affect our lives.
I know it's awkward to act as if you had any REAL compassion for this woman at her funeral (that is how I would feel--so I understand why you are feeling guilty for feeling nothing right?) I think I would feel sad that it had to be that way and that's it. I would use this as a time for reflection on how short life is and vow to do better in your life with your friends and your immediate family you know? Funerals have a way of drawing us to the present and to fleetingness of life. It's the circle of life which keeps us aware of our own mortality.
2007-08-25 08:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use it at a life lesson. life is short and you are going to meet people you don't connect with all the time, that dosn't mean you have to dislike them. Just be aware and tolerant of their differences and get along as best you can, then when they are no longer around you won't feel so guilty.
2007-08-25 11:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by just me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is nothing you can do. And don't feel guilty. There will always be people in our lives that are unfriendly towards us, and we don't like. And eventually, that person will die. That may be sad, but you just need to reconcile your feelings, and move on.
2007-08-25 11:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by vtothef 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because you think you should have liked her but didn`t.
You didn`t hate her, you just didn`t do anything for her. You didn`t go out of your way to make her like you or even talk to her
Now you think people think you are happy about her death.
When people lose someone they consider dear to them, they act weird. Blaming you for being happy is one way to help through
this ordeal.
It is ok, do not take it personal. Not everyone likes everyone. I am sure there are people you love that other people do not. Just do not let it affect your relationship
with those who really did go out of their way
to show their love and friendship.
Give them time and later on talk to them
about your feelings, ie. "I am not sure she liked me.............".
This way they will hear your side and not just see your actions.
2007-08-25 11:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont lose any sleep over someone that you had no feelings for, its over.
2007-08-25 11:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋