Family - January 2007

ok, the details are that my husband and I loaned my dad some money about 2 months ago, he has gotten paid 4 times since we loaned the money to him. I have asked for it a couple of times but then just left it alone. I emailed my father the other day to vent a few things out that I have realized about him and I just wanted him to know I know all the B.S. he has done and still does to me and that as an adult I can see it..Mostly just venting my problems. He is now saying he wishes he never had kids and that now that I'm an adult I dont need him for anything, which isn't what I was telling him. Now he wants nothing to do with me or my husband (which works with him), threaten that my husband needs to watch out at work because he doesn't know how it will work out him working with my husband.
I have never had a relationship with my father until I was 11. He is gay ( I dont approve) and he has lied t me since i can remember. But I need to know what to do from here? Let it go or fight?

2007-01-11 04:47:46 · 4 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5

Tuesday night we had to call the police because he was messed up and I told him to get help or leave. He was going to leave messed up and take his 3 kids that we have with him. The mother left months ago to live her carefree life. The kids were screaming and begging for us not to let him take them with him. I had to give up so he wouldn't take them. Yesterday he overdosed and we gave all the info to the police/medics. They called at 06:30 this am saying they were releasing him. Childrens serv has been involved since day 1. He now has threatned me and my b/f because his drugs are out of my house and he is not allowed back to see the kids till we go to court. I love my bro but he is going to end up killing himself or one of the kids. I don't want to see him go to jail but I have to protect the kids. Addicts will do anything-I know firsthand and I fear the worst. I'm scared he is goin to show up/4 the kids and his drugs which we don't hve anymore. Need some kind word/adv-plz!!

2007-01-11 04:45:30 · 14 answers · asked by TJ 2

She's not ready to quite but I'm ready for her to quit.

2007-01-11 04:44:34 · 9 answers · asked by adam11173 2

2007-01-11 04:35:28 · 36 answers · asked by mp4e 1

she is taking disadvantage of my husband s health iwant my husband back to me she is staying at mira road and wannts to come by aouto from my husbands money and even if i hate her she comes at home also what should i do to make her to go from our life

2007-01-11 04:31:17 · 26 answers · asked by mit 1

2007-01-11 04:27:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

There are so many cases out there of teenagers murdering and commiting horrible, horrible crimes. Their story is that because of their disturbed enviroment when growing up all they knew is violence. To what point can our enviroment shape us to the point when we can no longer jugde right from wrong?

2007-01-11 04:14:14 · 9 answers · asked by Licha 1

please answer my question quikly

2007-01-11 04:12:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-11 04:00:55 · 15 answers · asked by Cat 1

my 16 yr old grandson says he is a mosha is that a bad thing or am i just being over protective because of what i have herd.

2007-01-11 03:56:59 · 14 answers · asked by keith b 3

Why is it like a double standard, meaning if a father runs away from his family he is just ordered child support, yet if a mother does this it may come down to her having to go to jail, the children being taken away, or her name plastered in the papers???? I really want serious input only.

2007-01-11 03:51:55 · 6 answers · asked by Ms. Q 5

Sometimes our kids make us mad. When tehy are being punished, should we tell them we love them anyway and the thing will be over if he/she decides to change behavior?

2007-01-11 03:48:43 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-11 03:46:05 · 35 answers · asked by its_hackett 1

To respect and love their wives/partners/girlfriends only when all of the men folk available i.e father and grandfathers all cheated on their spouses and in some cases left their spouses to support themselves and their kids

2007-01-11 03:35:57 · 16 answers · asked by JUSEve 2

My father was married to my mother for 10 years and left my mother for his current wife. He was never there for me after he married this new woman because she wanted him to have no contact with his "past". She gets mad when i call my father even today. Now her and my father have three children together and their oldest is about to graduate and my father is going to pay for this child to go to college. I had to get pill grants and live off of roman noodles and work a minimium wage job to get through college. His other daughter is going to get her college paid for her. Am i overreacting or is this unfair treatment? She has had "our" father her whole life i had to do with out because of her mother not wanting me in my fathers life.

2007-01-11 03:34:38 · 15 answers · asked by mystic_rage879 2

My step-daughter is 13. Her father and I have little control over her. She lives with her mother and does whatever she wants. How do we act as good parents when it's out of our hands. There is no communication with her mother. Do we just treat her like a visitor when she comes over, or do we try to enforce our values? Will that just push her away and maker her not want to come over? We feel completely powerless.

2007-01-11 03:20:31 · 15 answers · asked by Missy G 1

Would you go on vacation w/o your spouse/kids? The trip consist of yourself, your sibling & your mom/dad? Is this ok ?

2007-01-11 03:20:27 · 8 answers · asked by $&$& 2

She doesnt seem to respect me or let me lead my own life without critixicizing me. I understand that she is my mother, but I am 23 years old aferall.....

2007-01-11 03:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by Shanti 1

My dad told me that my mom was smoking years ago, way before they were married. my mom smoked alot and my dad told her to stop smoking or he will not marry her, i didn't believe my dad because its impossible for my mom to smoke of such a good heart. I stayed in my moms apartment in japan (my mom works there) and I saw cigarettes in the fridge, still I didn't believe my dad cauz it might be from someone else like moms best friend. but last night my uncles, my mom and dad were talking & one of my uncles is smoking and I cant believe my eyes, my mom took one of the cigarettes & lighted it. I was angry at her that time. our family musn't smoke because thats our family deal. and she broke it, I must calm myself but I can't. what should I do to stop being angry at her? I'm not comfy on talking to her. I just want to know how to calm myself in my anger

2007-01-11 03:08:47 · 2 answers · asked by Remon 3

2007-01-11 03:02:31 · 23 answers · asked by Soulseeker 1

My future Mother-in-Law seems to be an expert at the verbal abuse sneak attack, always sliding cutting remarks against her own daughter into almost every situation. The following is a perfect example. We are at Olive Garden when my fiancee orders a pasta dish, my MIL then leans over and loudly tells the waiter my fiancee will actually have a salad instead as she has been eating "much" lately. I sit there in shock as my MIL has no right to "correct" my fiancee in such an embarassing manner! Then the MIL goes on telling my fiancee when to sit and when to go to the bathroom and how to use her fork during dinner.
Later my fiancee tells me she just puts up with it knowing that her mother must have a control issue and that she tries to appease her to keep the peace.

How do you eternily apease a crazy abusive controling woman when all you want to do is drop kick her out of a window?

2007-01-11 02:57:51 · 6 answers · asked by Wes 1

The relationship is over and the mother would like to move back to her hometown, in another time zone. Can she do this legally?

2007-01-11 02:51:53 · 10 answers · asked by woulda,coulda,shoulda 3

My father died in a head on wreck on his way to my house in october. I can't seem to get it through my head that he is gone. I didn't cry at the funeral in fact my OCD kicked in and i was at the church 4 hrs before the funeral was to start making sure everything was ok and greet family and friends hold their hands and make sure they were ok. So i haven't dealt with this, i don't cry about it and it makes me feel bad. How do i get it over with? How do i finally greave?

2007-01-11 02:42:11 · 20 answers · asked by acresse1 1

after geting termed for argueing with my fiance over pety cash,my dad took me in. i was looking for work in LI ny and couldn't so I went to the city nothin there went to jersey stayed with my fiance's mom&grandmother she couldn't keep me there to long so I went back to my dad cause i had no choice. The second I got there he said "no heat no money no food...you want food get a job and eat your own food."

2007-01-11 02:32:04 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1

My dad passed away Dec.10 of a heart attack we think and i am hurting so much cause i miss him he helped me out alot when i needed money he gave it to me and i miss him so much it hurts, people say it takes time

2007-01-11 02:31:12 · 22 answers · asked by diamond girl 1

My Mum has always been one of those people whom if she tells herself it isnt happening, then it isnt. Even if you told her, it was your imagination.How do you feel about it now you are grown up? has it affected your life that you where never believed or listened to about abuse when you both knew it was happening??

2007-01-11 02:20:37 · 6 answers · asked by Abigail 3

Question inspired by an answer I just read in which someone called a family member an out-and-out loser...

2007-01-11 02:14:49 · 9 answers · asked by starryeyed 6

2007-01-11 02:13:42 · 17 answers · asked by shreyas 2

I've tried everything with her...and I've given her a million speeches about how worried I am about her, and how dangerous it is to be doing what she's doing...but nothing helps. She is a musical person, so I'm thinking if I can find the right song, and get her to listen to it..it may say something that I have not been able to think of..and possibly get her to open up to me, and let me try to help her. She's been an addict, to pretty much any drug she can get her hands on (mostly alcohol) for almost 10 years...and I can't stand by and watch her kill herself anymore. This is my last resort...please help.

2007-01-11 02:09:56 · 8 answers · asked by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5

My husband wants me to disown my family that doesn't want to accept us. I agree with him to a point, but don't think it's fair to our son that he be treated as if he didn't matter in this. They don't want to come to my house for any event... not even my son's b-day parties each yr. Yet, they can travel out of state on a whim to do their hobbies...Is that right? Fair??

2007-01-11 02:09:12 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3