My husband wants me to disown my family that doesn't want to accept us. I agree with him to a point, but don't think it's fair to our son that he be treated as if he didn't matter in this. They don't want to come to my house for any event... not even my son's b-day parties each yr. Yet, they can travel out of state on a whim to do their hobbies...Is that right? Fair??
2007-01-11 02:09:12 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They don't want me because I don't give to them. I'm there to offer support, advice, love my nephews, love them, but I don't provide them with the material things. They make it plain to me that they aren't going to support me in more ways than one. I don't think I should always subject myself to being hurt by them. I just wanted to be loved. I want them to accept me for who I am and my child.. one that they said was a mistake!!
2007-01-11 02:37:50 · update #1
A family is made up of it's members, who are both natural born members as well as those who enter a family through marriage. There is a special bond amongst the natural members but it must also be extended to the spouses of the other family members. Unless it is so, the binding force of the family gets diluted and the family disintegrates. However, it's up to each and every member of the family to take special care and make an effort to keep this bond together / functional.
I think you have tried enough but your immediate family is not concerned. Under the circumstances the pain it has generated is perfectly understandable, but there is only so much one can do, which I believe you have already done... leave the rest on God. Don't severe your relationship but don't travel that extra mile to restore it for it may push them back still farther.
Blood is thicker than water... they will come back to you sooner or later on their own. Good luck.
2007-01-11 02:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I say that you shouldn't disown them even though they probably deserve it just because your son needs to interact with them. You should still keep in touch with your family just don't let them tell you how you should carry on your relationship with your husband. You are married and have a child that should be your primary concern.
2007-01-11 10:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by vruiz16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give a lot of information on why they don't accept you, so it's hard to say. I don't think you give up on family unless they do something really horrible and damaging to you. I'm sorry they treat their grandson so badly. They'll be sorry some day. I just hope they wake up before it's too late.
2007-01-11 10:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't disown your family. It's their loss. They'll be so sorry they weren't a part of your son's life. I would contiinue to invite them and leave the door open and hopefully, one day, they'll wake up. I wouldn't go out of my way, but just don't shut them out. It's their choice. Sad, but true. We can't force people to be who we want them to be.
2007-01-11 10:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are ignorant!! But I'm willing to bet they have a reason for their feelings. If you want answers from us out here ya gotta give us more info! One more thing, if your folks won't come to you to see their grandson, maybe you have to go to them!!
2007-01-11 10:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wont they accept you? You need to have a heart to heart with your parents and find out whats wrong.....keep trying.
2007-01-11 10:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋