ok, the details are that my husband and I loaned my dad some money about 2 months ago, he has gotten paid 4 times since we loaned the money to him. I have asked for it a couple of times but then just left it alone. I emailed my father the other day to vent a few things out that I have realized about him and I just wanted him to know I know all the B.S. he has done and still does to me and that as an adult I can see it..Mostly just venting my problems. He is now saying he wishes he never had kids and that now that I'm an adult I dont need him for anything, which isn't what I was telling him. Now he wants nothing to do with me or my husband (which works with him), threaten that my husband needs to watch out at work because he doesn't know how it will work out him working with my husband.
I have never had a relationship with my father until I was 11. He is gay ( I dont approve) and he has lied t me since i can remember. But I need to know what to do from here? Let it go or fight?
2007-01-11 04:47:46 · 4 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it's obvious,your daddy needs you,he misses you,when he says words like "you dont need me anymore",he feels hurt,dont fight with your father,he raised up to be the fine person you are today.
Make him feel needed,dont shut him out of your life because he's gay,what if the tables were turned?I'm sure he'd love you no matter what.
Forget about the money,he put a roof over your head as a kid,remember that.
Take care of your dad no matter what.
Good luck! :)
2007-01-11 04:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have vented. You've learned you can't loan him money. You know he is a liar. The stuff he is saying about you not needing him sounds to me like he is manipulative as well. Do you want him in your life or not? You have cleared the air on your end. So now you have to decide if you want to have a relationship with him and what type of relationship you want with him.
His being gay is none of your business. He is gay. You are straight. Do gay people go around saying they wish their parents weren't straight?????
2007-01-11 13:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by fab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You vented, now let it go.
His being gay is really none of your business. It's doesn't effect you in anyway.
Let the husband handle any problems at work and just try and ignore dad.
Consider the money you gave him as a loan, as his next and forever birthday gifts.
2007-01-11 13:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toxic is Toxic.
Purge.
2007-01-11 12:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋