2007-01-11 03:46:05 · 35 answers · asked by its_hackett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not always. I guess it depends on how long you've lived with them, how independant you are. Some of us understand the shortcomings of our parents and when we do, we can consciously avoid them ourselves. But there is a lot of influence, that's true.
2007-01-11 03:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Scientifically we have the genes of our parents, thus the tendency to display the same behaviours and therefore ended up the same way as them..
Say, for e.g. my father holds alcohol real well without his face turning red. So can I and my brother! People are amazed by how much I can drink. But then without knowing it, I get used to drinking that much (maybe sometimes to get the wows), and ended up with some trouble, just like my father did..
So when we are young enough (when things are not set in stone yet), we should make conscious efforts to REMEMBER not to fall into the negative traits/behaviours as our parents. It really take a lot of effort to remind ourselves what we do not want to end up like. It is difficult to go against the current (the genes) but it can be done, after which the genes are mutated before they are passed on to your kids. That's how civilisations changed..
But sure our parents have some good traits and it is easy those are displayed in us through the good genes! Be thankful to them ok? Even if you are trying not to end up like your parents.
2007-01-11 20:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by IKnow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is no possible way that people will end up like their parents. One because each life is different from the other and the life experiences will be different also. Life experiences help form the person you are when you get older. Sure you might have similar qualities and interests but that doesn't make you like your parents.
2007-01-12 11:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by cheerio_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. If you want to be different then be different. Only you can decide how you turn out. You may have some qualities of your parents like maybe there attitude or something but even that can be controlled. You just have to be determined. If you really want to do something then you need to tell your self that you can do it and work your best at accomplishing your goals. You are your own person and the way you live your life will determine who you are. The way you carry yourself also can determine that. You just have to have confidence and believe in yourself and you can be whoever you want to be.
2007-01-11 04:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by krystaldarnell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a good question and I think mostly, the answer is YES. They are our primary influence and when we are growing up, their opinions and experiences form our outlook on life. Then as a teenager we try to rebel and not be like them. But as you get older, your relationship changes. You start to think of them as people, not as parents, and see that all that they do and say is formed by what they have experienced ... and that you are starting to experience the same things. Heartache, romance, bringing up kids, holding down a job, paying the bills .... you're all doing the same thing but just a generation apart.
And then what they taught you becomes more reinforced - most of what they did was to protect you and nurture you and help you and that's what you're trying to do with your own kids.
So, yes, you find that you open your mouth and it is your mum's words coming out ... I find that frequently!!!!
2007-01-11 05:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always? No. You control (for the most part) things by the choices you make. If you want to be like your parents, then it will be so. Hopefully, you will take the good qualities from your parents and improve upon them for yourself.
2007-01-11 03:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you've been around them too long then you tend to be like them, the same tendancies, habits etc. That is why it's good to be independent and leave home as soon as possible to have your own identity. There will always be similarities in generations, it can't be helped.
2007-01-11 05:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Foxy Lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope not! I am trying to do better and be a nicer person. My parents did the best they know how but they were ignorant (lack of education). They are gone now but I'm still trying to be a better person.
2007-01-11 03:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people can end up like their parents. to prevent this from happening be as naught as you can be and drink and take drugs... parents always think their perfect so at least your nothing like them,lol
2007-01-11 04:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they were the main influence in our lives during our most formative years, so it not out of the question that we would acquire similar behaviour traits but with our own twist to them!
2007-01-11 05:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by jumpin_jelly_cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋