I saw my mom smoke, how can I calm my anger to her?

Question

My dad told me that my mom was smoking years ago, way before they were married. my mom smoked alot and my dad told her to stop smoking or he will not marry her, i didn't believe my dad because its impossible for my mom to smoke of such a good heart. I stayed in my moms apartment in japan (my mom works there) and I saw cigarettes in the fridge, still I didn't believe my dad cauz it might be from someone else like moms best friend. but last night my uncles, my mom and dad were talking & one of my uncles is smoking and I cant believe my eyes, my mom took one of the cigarettes & lighted it. I was angry at her that time. our family musn't smoke because thats our family deal. and she broke it, I must calm myself but I can't. what should I do to stop being angry at her? I'm not comfy on talking to her. I just want to know how to calm myself in my anger

Answer 1

i don't know that your going to be able to calm down. to you seeing this was a slap in the face.and it hurts. does your mom know that you seen her? if not i think i would confront her about it. tell her how it made you feel to see her do this. tell her that she has really disappointed you. if you cant talk to her and let her know how you feel, then that will be your own disappointment to your self. talk to her, who knows maybe when she finds out that you seen her and how you feel, she will stop.

Answer 2

A family theripist is a good solution or you need to just sit down aand talk with her this is a serious situation I tried this before but it never worked so I wish good luck to you.