When a 17 yr old turns 18 and wants to move out how much control do the parents have over what they take?

Question

the parents want the kid to live at home until they graduate from high school. But the kid is very unhappy at home. She has a place to live (with her boyfriend, that she will marry after graduation).

Answer 1

I think the first answer didn't understand what you were asking. Sorry, you have no "right" to take anything out of your parents home unless you bought it and can prove it.

With that said, your parents should "give" you as much as you need or as much as they can. Since you are asking I am guessing the relationship with the parents is strained.

Good Luck

Answer 2

I guess the parents have little control legally, but if they brought up a good kid, they will always have some good influence on him/her teen. The Teen who has brought up in a loving home will listen and take note and respect Mom and Dad's advice and counseling, like where will you live, how will you handle your finances and go to school, will you quit school, will you earn enough to pay rent and groceries.. If the teen will not listen and insists that he/she does not wish to discuss it further, then the parents should let him/her go, but assure him/her that he can always come back home if he/she should wish to return at any time of their absence, but if he/she should come back home, then he/she will be treated as an adult and will have to pay his/her way, financially or by work around the house.
When the decision has been made, the parents then should honor the Teen's decision and give him/her their blessing and even help him/her set up his/her new living quarters. Only if their son/daughter wishes, then Mom and Dad should be there all the way for their their kids, even if they do not like the decision taken. They should smile even if it hurts. In this way the teen will not feel that his parents disapprove and this will not cause him/her to further distance himself/herself from Mom or Dad... The last thing parents want at this stage is a teen that pulls away from them in every way and they lose touch with him/her. In this crazy world Mom/Dad want to keep in touch no matter what without being pushy. Mom and Dad should be involved with their Teen helping him/her set up his/her new home.. We are not all made the same, some of us like to leave the nest when we marry, others never want to leave, and then there others it seems, that as soon as they can walk they want to run away from home, but no bad reflection on their parents > it is just the way they are.
My insight... hope it helps.. Good Luck

Answer 3

In most states, when you turn 18, you are considered an adult, so you could move out and your parents would legally have no say, but I am sure that on the personal, they will and probably have had quite a bit to say.

If you do decide to move out, I hope you have some things planned and worked out to make your move out and on your own a good one. I hope that you would also have a good relationship with your parents, because you never know when you may need their help as you start off on your own.

Answer 4

well you are the parent and they should respect you enough to understand what you want and dont want them to have. however its not a perfect world and that doesnt always work. my parents told me when i moved out (3 years ago) i could take anything in my room, and ask about everything else and they would decide. i did however, get plates, glasses, pots pans, tupperware, etc. as housewarming gifts from other relatives. so basically as a parent you want to make sure they have what they need to survive, but you dont wanna rid yourself at the same time. understand too that at 18 years old most kids dont have any money, and if they do, its what, maybe $3000?? dont make them blow their savings away just to live on their own.

Answer 5

Parents can legally claim anything acquired by a minor under their care, as they are the adults responsible for the minor, even if the minor acquired the item(s) with their own money.

If not 18 yet, the minor if at least 16 can declare emancipation, and from that point on, the parents are absolved and responsibility--and also relinquish any claim to anything acquired by the minor after emancipation is declared.

Varies by state, but that's the general gist of it.

Answer 6

Your competeing with your eighteen year old child over possesions? Are you trying to find out what you can keep legally, or what you could keep to insure the kid will never talk to you again? If you don't want the kid to come by or call, your asking the right kinds of questions. Rough situation for the kid.

Answer 7

I don't think it should be a question of how much control parents have over what they take, rather how much can I give them to insure they have what they need. Give them what they need to start their life as an adult, we all know how hard it is starting out on our own. Our children are grown and we still give them what they need when they can't supply their own need, and they never ask for a thing. Parents just know!

Answer 8

I would think quite a bit of control. You're probably safe taking whatever's in your room and, of course, anything you've purchased with your own money. If you're looking to walk out with the family TV and couch, I'd say thats a no... Hopefully your parents aren't so controlling that they prevent you from taking what is obviously yours when you move out!

Answer 9

Theparents have complete control. Everything in the house belongs to the parents. The 18 year old may be entitled to personal items such as clothing, toothbrush, makeup, etc. But as far as furniture and things like that, they have to have the parents permission to take.

Answer 10

it depends on who bought the items if your parents bought them then you have no rights to them. But Your 18 which makes you Grown right get your own Sh*t. I don't know why all of you Teenagers think that once you turn 18 things gets easier for you it does not work that way turning 18 does not make you grown it's experience that makes you grown and how you use what you have upstairs.