My dad passed away Dec.10 of a heart attack we think and i am hurting so much cause i miss him he helped me out alot when i needed money he gave it to me and i miss him so much it hurts, people say it takes time
2007-01-11 02:31:12 · 22 answers · asked by diamond girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm so sorry you lost your Dad. Co-incidentally, my mother died Dec 4... but in 1999. My Dad died in 2002. Yes it will hurt for a while. But try to help yourself out by remembering your Dad and remembering good times you had with him. Focus on how good it was to know him. When you start feeling the loss, concentrate on some pleasant memory of him. It will be hard for a time, but trust me, it gets easier! Best wishes to you.
2007-01-11 02:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, it does take time. I lost my father when I was 17. I actually found him after he had a heart attack and was on the floor.
I had nightmares for years .. It gets better. It does take time though.
I would suggest finding a group to join that you can talk about it. I didn't have that opportunity, but feel it would have helped much quicker then not being able to open up about it.
Call your local Hospice to see if there is a grief talk group. They would be a good place to start.
Good luck and keep your chin up. Remember, he is still with you and will always be in your heart.
2007-01-11 02:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Me Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am very sorry for your loss---my mom died 25 years ago and although the sting of that loss has left----I must say there are times when I really want to see her--even for just 10 minutes----I dont think we ever full get over the loss of someone so close as a parent---we simply try our best to move on and live a life that would be honoring to them. Please allow yourself to grieve the loss of you father and do not let anyone tell you how long this should take.....its going to take a long time----I also found that asking God for comfort helped. Blessings.
2007-01-11 02:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. It does take time. There are some good books out there to help you if you want. One that helped me a lot when the love of my life was killed in a car accident was written by Deanna Edwards. It was called Grieving: The Pain and the Promise.
It's been almost 17 years now - it still hurts sometime - but most of the time it's just a lot of fond memories for a very special person.
2007-01-11 02:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dad is still alive but ı know ı will be hurt so much when he will pass away. just few relatives did passaed away and this hurt goes by the time BUT YOU WİLL MİSS HİM ALWAYS. you know why I write that in big fonts. because because this is the truth and this is so sweet. when ever you will miss him you will feel that he touch your soul. do you want to live without that. missing is a good thing and we miss who we love so much. why everything should go away somethings should stay with us even some sweet pains. be sure you are gonna be with him soon. life is passing so fast so keep remembering him with a smile on your face and dont let the sweet memories to leave you. I dont know what to tell more with my poor english ı wish ı could help dear.
2007-01-11 02:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by zubeyde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am so sorry for the lost.U have to learn to live with the loss Believe me it wont go away completely cos from time to time you'll need his advice or help and he's not there!The best advice i have for you is that when you miss him or feel empty think about the good times with him it helps(i lost my dad when i was young 18yrs ago) i pray your mum is around cos she can give alot of comfort.
2007-01-11 03:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by sdq18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just lost my dad in February of last year. It is toughest at first. You feel as though your heart is broken. It takes getting over the initial shock of it all at first then you have to get past all of the first holidays without him. After the first year I've heard it gets easier. I just keep thinking it could always be worse. My mom don't have her husband, mom, dad, or brother anymore. All she has is her kids and grandkids. You can always think of how others feel in your family to take the pain away. It does get easier with time. When I visit my dad's grave I don't cry anymore because I know he is happy wherever he might be because he isn't in pain anymore.
2007-01-11 02:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by darkchild39702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry to hear that and i have had the same exact thing happen to me about 3-4 years ago the hurt of him not being able to be there for important things will be there but it will slowly and gradually go away after awhile be strong keep your head up and dont worry bout a thing people are always there for you no matter what!!!!
Your Welcome,
*~Snuffy~*
2007-01-11 02:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Snuffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does take time, lost my dad about 12 months ago and the bottom fell out of my world. After a while you do get used to him not being there , the pain lessens and you start to remember the good times with a smile. just keep your chin up and be there for your family.
2007-01-11 02:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Robert S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats exactly right in time your hurt goes away but the memories stay and be happy that he is in a much better place we all die at a time in life so you will be reunited so the pain will go away and you will live the rest of your life with happiness.
2007-01-11 02:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by scottsmith20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋