My Mum has always been one of those people whom if she tells herself it isnt happening, then it isnt. Even if you told her, it was your imagination.How do you feel about it now you are grown up? has it affected your life that you where never believed or listened to about abuse when you both knew it was happening??
2007-01-11 02:20:37 · 6 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am certain that has happened to a lot of people growing up.
I think the parent is at fault especially if there was abuse and they
could have done something to stop it.
2007-01-11 02:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone... The best way I handled my situation with my mother, was over coffee. We were talking & without knowing it, I told her that she let me down on several occassions as a child. She started to talk & deny things, but I didn't allow her to. I asked per to please let me have my say. I told her that I didn't blame her, that she must have had her own issues going on that prevented her from protecting me. I went on but didn't go into detail. I don't know if she listened and heard it all... it really didn't matter because I had voiced what I needed to say for many years. When I was finished, I realized I had forgiven her in my own heart and mind. I am now a better person for not harboring ill feelings inside of me. I can talk about it without hurting any longer... My past is now... in the past!
Try to remember this... The person who afflicts pain on others does not carry the pain or memory of the situation... it's the person who receives the blunt of the hurt that will never forget... but can forgive if they confront it!
2007-01-11 10:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has a serious problem as do you. If that is how she is going to react to something some horrible that could have happened to her own child then you need to cut the strings and seek some professional counseling. As an individual who was abused and raped I finally sought therapy and changed my life around. Remember it doesn't make you weak to seek help, it takes a stronger person to ask for it & accept it.
Good luck
2007-01-11 10:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what kind of abuse, and that is a problem of accepting life. Your mum, has an Ideal of what life should be and it wasnt that so she figured she could fool herself. But you arent fooled. Counseling if it was something serious!
2007-01-11 10:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah...My older sister got pregnant with her boyfriend, and now my mom denies that her grandchild is hers. I'm like what the hell?, it's just a kid! just because she had sex with a guy you don't like, doesn't mean you can neglect the baby! He needs love too, y'know? But, hopefully, she'll come to her senses. if your mom is like that, good luck buddy.
2007-01-11 10:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i no how u feel .it made me a better parent i listen to my kids.
2007-01-11 10:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by texas nanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋