She doesnt seem to respect me or let me lead my own life without critixicizing me. I understand that she is my mother, but I am 23 years old aferall.....
2007-01-11 03:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by Shanti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you expressed your feelings toward your mother about this? I mean, in a calm, logical, non threatening way to her. Does she realize that you feel this way, and that it appears to be effecting your relationship? I would suggest that you sit down with her, at a mutually convienient opportunity, and let her know your feelings. If after having done so, she still continues to treat you this way, you may consider interrupting your relationship with her for a while until such a time when your mother will consider your feelings and change her interactions with you.
Let your mother have an opportunity to change. If not, maybe it is time to leave the nest for awhile. Best of luck,
2007-01-11 05:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I could have posted this question. I find that in this and all situation the only thing I can change is me. You can not make your mother respect you or change her attitude. My mother tells me to flour cakes pans when I make a cake. I have benn making cake since I was 4 with my mom and about 12 by myself. So I laugh and make a joke because she is trying to be helpful. This is just a small example of the many many varied conflicts. I know this is extremely annoying and belittling. Talk to your mom. Tell her that you appreciate the help but that it is not needed. That unless you are about to make a huge mistake in your life she needs to let you find out for yourself. Talk to her in an adult manner she will be more inclined to treat you this way.
And if you still live at home move soon. It will lessen the strain on the relationship and, when things get bad you can always go to your house.
2007-01-11 11:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by icthyus05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your mother is very controlling,you need to have a talk with her and tell her you are a grown women and not a little girl and you have your own mind.respect is earned and hopefully your mother will realize that and give you the respect that you need.if you don't have this talk with her she is just going to think nothing of it and do what she knows best and that is to control you and the question you should ask your self also if i'm 23 yrs old now how will it be when i'm 33,43,53,or more?.good luck.!
2007-01-11 13:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to Taco Bell. Tacos make everyone happy.
2007-01-11 11:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by The Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my moms the same way, tell her that your a mature adult and that you dont need her guidance in everything you do. tell her that its time for you to just experience life for yourself and make your own mistakes.
2007-01-11 11:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Destiny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to change her. Accept her for what she does for you.
If you can't deal with it, maybe move away for a while?
2007-01-11 11:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her or move and do your own thing
2007-01-11 11:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by jrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋