Family & Relationships - 19 December 2007

Whats the opinion of a wedding on this date?

I never really had a problem with them until we recently found out that my husband's cousin has set his wedding date for that day. We have 2 children and when I told my husband he got so annoyed. His feelings are that Halloween is like Santa, you only get a few where the kids are really into it and planning your wedding on that day kind of robs others and their kids of one of those days. He wants to decline, but I am not sure. I can see his side, but I also understand that the bride and groom dont have kids and couldnt possibly understand what taking your kids trick or treating means. But then, I dont want my kids missing out on a fun thing that they look forward to for months, between planning costumes and the thought of all that candy, I wouldnt want to take all that away from them. I am torn, I would love to hear what others think.

2007-12-19 08:56:20 · 12 answers · asked by kateqd30 6 in Weddings

I have been married for three years and my husband and I are going through a divorce. I am going through so many emotions sadness, anger, and guilt. I did everything for my husband and had cheated on me more than once and never really helped me do anything. He had a drinking problem that he still thinks is not a problem. I understand that all these things are more than enough to get divorced on I guess I feel like there was a lot of good to but the bad out weighed the good. I feel so lost and although he begged me not to divorce him and he offered to go to counseling it felt like it was to little to late. I guess what I really want to know is am I making the right decision by not allowing him to work it out or was that his desperate attempt to hold on. I am so confused.

2007-12-19 08:54:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im pretty popular i know all the girls and guys in my school. I just got my glasses and ppl call me harry potter so i guess i kinda look like him but i think i look way better without them

2007-12-19 08:52:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

it's not exactly a contious choice...but i've come to admit that i'm extremly attracted to men that are specifically unkind to me. if i work with a male and we constanly but heads, there is a good chance i've contimplated taking him to the back room and straddling him up against the office desk. nice guys on the other hands...i want to like them...but the attraction isn't there. i know it's unfair...these are the guys that deserve my approval. i'm not sure if this irrational attraction to jerks was generated by some deep rooted issues i had with my crazy brother or first boyfriend who was pretty mean...or if it's as simple as...thats just what floats my boat. i would like to change this preference. are there any girls who WERE this way and changed. PLEASE no insults...i'm not proud of this behavior, i want advise on how to change.

2007-12-19 08:51:46 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and lived together for the last 1.5 years (we bought a house). We also have 3 dogs that we think of as our babies...lol.. We've survived hard times and have become closer from them, but we have never broken up and rarely do we fight. We are a very open couple. We talk about marriage very often, including the type of ring that I want. I told him that I want a CZ ring, but he would like to get me diamonds. He has been picking up many extra shifts lately, but I'm trying not to be presumptious. (he also has a lot of debt that he wants to pay off) We just had our 1st vacation, 3 yr anniversary, and now xmas is coming up. He told me on our 3 year anniversaty that he won't propose on an obvious day because it wouldn't be a suprise....but I keep getting dissapointed each holiday! He keeps getting more lovey. Do you think it will happen soon? Weare very open and I told him I want to be engaged by 4 yrs. He told me we would be engaged soon?

2007-12-19 08:51:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

A promise ring for marriage.. what are your thoughts? I always thought if you are going to buy a ring, and for that reason to promise marriage later in life, then wouldn't you just buy an engagement ring? Or wait until you can buy the engagement ring? Just a thought. What is your opinion?

2007-12-19 08:50:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

why can a guy move on so quickly but girls are stuck miserable and in pain from the break up?

2007-12-19 08:50:10 · 19 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4 in Singles & Dating

we are having my sister in law and her family over they have 3 kids. we always buy their kids something for christmas, and she never buys our kids something. but since they are comeing to our house for christmas and we want to get their kids a gift, how do we ask if they are going to buy our 2 kids a gift . so that way my kids open a gift from them too and not only their kids from us. what do you guys think?

2007-12-19 08:48:35 · 42 answers · asked by CC 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife dislikes my kids, 2 daughters 26 and 27. she wants me only to herself and hates when I see or even talk to them. She has 2 sons 16 & 18 that I treat with respect and love. She talks bad about my kids all the time and it's driving me nuts. I try to tell her its not normal and all she says is She just wants me not my family. I don't like problems, but really need to do something. My girls are both on there own and never ask for anything. Her oldest is a money spending machine, and she thinks nothing of it. I will not throw my family away. What should I do?

2007-12-19 08:47:59 · 13 answers · asked by TNT 5 in Family

No, dont think im going to do this because I just wouldnt, but I went out with the girls last night and it was a topic we discussed. I just wondered what everyone else thinks?

2007-12-19 08:47:45 · 23 answers · asked by lillibut 4 in Singles & Dating

Last year, I was painfully shy with guys. This year, I have heard from two guys that I don't shut up! However, I talk a lot to avoid awkward silences which I am terrified of. How can I find a happy medium between being shy / over-talkative, while making the guy I'm talking to happy, too?

2007-12-19 08:47:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

...wish you had had sex with the person you waited for BEFORE marriage? Any regrets? Any great surprises..?

2007-12-19 08:47:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-19 08:46:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What would you do if you caught your wife having an internet affair. Then it turning into were they exchange phone numbers and addresses. All the while neither are aware that you know what is going on in the secret? You have his name his wifes name, his phone number and adress and he lives 200 miles away.

2007-12-19 08:45:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This is a real situtation, and it's really bothering me. And effecting my relationship with them.
I have two friends (a married couple, with a young child) They got pregnant to give away their biological child to his cousin, who (him and his wife can't get pregnant).
This isn't a case of surrogate, since the baby is genetically theirs, and not his cousins.
Is this slightly a messy way of going about it. Purposely having a genetically yours child and purposely GIVING it away. Even if it's to family???

2007-12-19 08:44:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Hi guys
I just wanted 2know what white guys think of dating black girls.

I'm a black female and fancy this white guy but I dont think or know if he goes 4 black girls. We get on a well and flirt around

I've seen his ex were white they were slim & sexy, one was blonde and other brunette compare 2me. i'm darkskin like ebony colour, curvey (not fat) just 2give an image flat tummy big bust and a bum, sweet smile and i've been told i have sexy yet mysterious eyes long brown hair
please dont think i'm big headed I just want you to know what i'm on about

I havent had the courage to give him hints that I like him in case I feel a fool

being black I feel maybe us black females could be to much of a hassle, turn off, maybe to much junk in the tunk or not what you would go for.

i know there are interracial couples but i've only dated black men so dont know how to get with other men.

no rude comments and please dont take it in a rude way people thanks in advance

2007-12-19 08:43:17 · 13 answers · asked by worried 2 in Singles & Dating

hi looking 4advice, been wif my boyfriend for 5 yrs, but things have gone stale, we arent intimate hardly even kiss, we're not overly stressd out or anything although we've had a fair share of problems, we share a bed but its purely for sleeping has been like that 4ever. if he said i dont feel 'that way' about you i would be a bit relieved i think&i may be able to move on, but i feel like he's my other half of me, i think it would be really strange without him. i sometmes dream of having someone better, someone i can be intimate with, someone who treats me better. i constantly seem to be doing nice things for him yet i cant remember the last time he did something nice for me. but it scares me that if i leave ill have no-one i dont have pals everyone's moved on i dont want to end up alone & he's my only serious relationship so ive nothing to compare it 2 (im 26) i convince myself our relationship is good, he's a decent enough guy hang on2 him, even though its not 100% i couldnt end it.

2007-12-19 08:43:08 · 5 answers · asked by donut 1 in Singles & Dating

There was this guy that I used to hang around with and we got pretty close, and we liked each other but he was sort of a distant type..wouldnt express his feelings properly and wasnt open..so we never talked abt getinn serious..But i REALLY liked him..but he moved out of state and after that we decreased our contact..i felt soo depressed..then i met another guy and I liked him..and as of now I am engaged to him and gona b married next year..I really do like this new guy and I talk everyday to him.. but I still cannot forget the old guy for some reason..all memories come back to me and I just miss him..but he acts as if he dusnt care and dusnt try to realy talk to me much and all like wen we r both Online..but I m sitting here like an idiot feeling depressed over him wen I have a Gem of a guy as a fiance..What shud I do? How can I forget this Guy and get him off MY MIND!! i need to forget him b4 my marriage.. Im going crazy everyday PLease tell me...what can i doo?

2007-12-19 08:42:07 · 11 answers · asked by shachi r 1 in Singles & Dating

ive put operamini on my phone. . . now i can get on any website on it! is it workin?

2007-12-19 08:39:53 · 8 answers · asked by mmmmyeah 3 in Friends

2007-12-19 08:32:44 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've already confronted this person, they did nothing, I didn't handle the situation properly like going to the police, and ended up being sued and filed bankruptcy because I was having a nervous breakdown. I'm now getting healthier and going to counseling, but I still get really upset about it, especially because it still affects me today - bad loan rates, unable to get approved for things when I really need them (like health stuff or car repairs, etc...). All of a sudden I will just burst in tears...what things can I do to cope with this?

2007-12-19 08:32:34 · 3 answers · asked by Ggirl99 2 in Family

Why don't guys ever remember your anniversery?: (

2007-12-19 08:31:37 · 25 answers · asked by Katrina 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

yes was looking through my mans fone. found number under 'ramo' rang it was a girl who lives in same city. she works in central in m&s. she said she didnt know who my man was, never heard of him, hasnt given her number to neone of my mans description. but how has he got her number on his fone. her name is rachel so that explains the name it was under, and he obviously knew her name. she says its nothing to worry about and maybe it was one of her mates making a joke, about wat i dont know? wat does ne one else reckon. i dont want to jump to conclusion but its all a bit strange. i dont want to ask him cuz he will just argue.

2007-12-19 08:30:11 · 4 answers · asked by JESSICA H 1 in Singles & Dating

im in love with one of my best friends. that never works out does it? Ive been sleeping with him for like a year now. and we hang out like friends. but now i notice im getting super attached and he remains the same. what do i do?
oh..p.s. he's waaaay younger than me.

2007-12-19 08:29:40 · 7 answers · asked by k 2 in Singles & Dating

i told my children's father shape up or ship out. he proposed and we set a date. then things happened and he ended up moving out. i bit the bullet an said everything was my fault because the argument was so stupid. when all i had to do was compromise on the wedding date. so to get him to come back i said that i wouldn't mention a wedding period point blank. but then he asked what i wanted for xmas and i said i wanted things to go back to normal like how they were before the argument with our october 18th wedding date. so he got the note and call me on his way to work pissed because i had brought up this siutation again. i'm so sick of this. one minute we're in love and he wants to make this work then the next minute he's not into the whole idea of marriage. i feel like he thinks that there's no point to getting married because we already have two daughters and a house. and we're basically living the married life. i wanna know should i stay or go. i think i deserve more than this.

2007-12-19 08:29:40 · 21 answers · asked by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf of 3 years just told me when he was 18 his mom told him his real father is his grandpa! so his mom slept with her dad and had him! this is so gross to me, what kind of dna problems does that cause? and what about kids? that would be wrong for him to have kids? its just messed up to me...can someone give me more info??

2007-12-19 08:29:33 · 15 answers · asked by lovemyparadise07 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Mu Ex showerd me with love before and after i married him,but divorced me when our son was seven months.Now he is eleven,and he is still trearating us bad

2007-12-19 08:29:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

although I dont understand why my auntie is pregnant.
They have their own room with things that you would normally have in a room (we have provided a bed, a mirror, chair, table, AND THEIR SHEETS) the bed was my mums before my auntie and oncle came.

Now the question is where would the had love time? Did they have it in my mums bed???!!! They have a car would they have it there - but my uncle is really tall while my auntie is quite short???!!!If they did have it in my mums bed DID THEY USE OUR SHEETS THAT WE GAVE THEM?? THEY HAVEN'T PROVIDED THEIR OWN AND THEY HAVE BEEN LIVING IN OUR HOUSE FOR A F ING YEAR?!

Before my uncle and auntie came to our House , my sister and I would lie on their bed and play. That bed was orginally ours and IS STILL ours! I dont want them to have had the love time on that bed.

Yes you may see that I really really really really hate them. If you want me to tell you just tell me when you finish your answer please

2007-12-19 08:28:48 · 4 answers · asked by |*awesome*| 3 in Family

I saw appauled by how many women loved "First Wives Club" because they think they're always better and smarter than men(Not ALL women are smarter than ALL men, BTW!!!).


But, what if there could be a movie like this where the husbands get revenge on their ex-wives and clean them out finacially? I bet you'd hate that even if the ex-wives severly wronged them, right?


All you care about is women-empowerment and want the hero in the movies to be women who kick butt like Lara Croft, right?

2007-12-19 08:28:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-19 08:27:44 · 26 answers · asked by oldbabe 1 in Marriage & Divorce