hi looking 4advice, been wif my boyfriend for 5 yrs, but things have gone stale, we arent intimate hardly even kiss, we're not overly stressd out or anything although we've had a fair share of problems, we share a bed but its purely for sleeping has been like that 4ever. if he said i dont feel 'that way' about you i would be a bit relieved i think&i may be able to move on, but i feel like he's my other half of me, i think it would be really strange without him. i sometmes dream of having someone better, someone i can be intimate with, someone who treats me better. i constantly seem to be doing nice things for him yet i cant remember the last time he did something nice for me. but it scares me that if i leave ill have no-one i dont have pals everyone's moved on i dont want to end up alone & he's my only serious relationship so ive nothing to compare it 2 (im 26) i convince myself our relationship is good, he's a decent enough guy hang on2 him, even though its not 100% i couldnt end it.
2007-12-19 08:43:08 · 5 answers · asked by donut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GET REAL!!! this is not a relationship it's a crutch for you both, for you to fall back on when you feel bad and to convince yourself that this is better than nothing. But it isn't!! You both need to 'move on' or just 'move out' you shouldn't be living together because as long as you are then you haven't got the chance to grow as yourself or find someone else. Please get out of this relationship now - i'm speaking from experience that if you keep thinking this way then you'll end up really bitter in the future......
Believe in yourself and listen, I mean really listen to your inner gut instincts, don't fight it, it's not right...........
2007-12-19 08:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some sexy clothes from somewhere like ann summers and wear them for him.
if that doesnt make him want you then you need to leave as you arent a couple you are friends, using each other coz maybe you are both scared to move on. you should try talking to him about how you feel. dont do it at night time do it during the day, and dont argue with him if you dont agree. let him have his say. that will make you realise one way or the other.
you dont sound like you are in love with him at all. surely you must have friends even if you dont see them much...try ringing them up and talking to them. do you have a job? maybe your workmates could help? why not create a facebook and they will find you. you could be suprised on how many friends you actually have.
to me tho it seem that you have to get out. if the underwear thing doesnt work keep the underwear for when you meet someone new.
2007-12-19 09:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is scary ending a long term relationship, but it sounds like it's not working anymore for either of you. Have you tried talking to him about this? If he won't talk to you and doesn't seem to want to make things better, then it's probably best to move on......
2007-12-19 08:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by rnbwgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have answered yourself when you said that if you leave you would be scared and have no one ,its not healthy for either of you just to stay together for the sake of it,end it move on and get back out into the world and find someone who makes you feel the way you want to feel,lifes to short not too.
2007-12-19 08:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by True hammer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get married you,ll start kissing again
2007-12-19 08:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by begum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋