we are having my sister in law and her family over they have 3 kids. we always buy their kids something for christmas, and she never buys our kids something. but since they are comeing to our house for christmas and we want to get their kids a gift, how do we ask if they are going to buy our 2 kids a gift . so that way my kids open a gift from them too and not only their kids from us. what do you guys think?
2007-12-19 08:48:35 · 42 answers · asked by CC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sparkles I believe the best answer for your situation is for you to pick up something for your kidz at the same time you pick up her kidz something. That way there will be no hard feelings on her behalf, and your kidz won't know the difference. May be she just doesn't have the financial means, and in any case you will have been a much better person for your caring, and saying nothing.You already said they never buy your kidz, and I don't see it being that she wouldn't. There's a reason, otherwise I know she would. Put your kidz nme on the gifts from them and say nothing. God will bless you many times. I think you are a very caring person, and look at life from more then one view. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. You have a very Merry Christmas filled with Happiness,Health, Wealth beyond your wildest dreams , and remember to pray for our troops, and light a candle for those who can't be with us!
2007-12-19 09:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by mandm68 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no tactful way of asking that. True, your sister-in-law is not being fair by not getting presents for you children, but that's her problem. The spirit of Christmas is in the giving anyway, right? -And since it's a little late to do anything this Christmas, get a little something for her kids and don't worry about it. Maybe next year ask for some gift ideas for her kids and then casually suggest some gift ideas for your kids.
2007-12-19 08:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Cat's Cradle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and buy a gift for their kids. If they don't do the same, so what. It's about the families coming together to spend the Holidays together. Now if it bothers you that much, call your sister in law and ask her what do her kids wants for Christmas. That may light a fire under her but to go and buy your kids something or it may just go over her head.
2007-12-19 08:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by missie_d_73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to think ahead and buy gifts for your kids to open when your nieces and nephew are opening yours. That way if she doesn't get them anything your kids still have something to open and if she does get them something they just have one more gift from Mom and Dad. It may be that the sister in law can't afford to get them anything. The true meaning of Christmas isn't about presents so try not to focus on that aspect. Merry Christmas!!!
2007-12-19 09:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would buy my children a gift, wrap it put their ( the cousins' name) name on it and stick it under the tree. Then when gifts are passed out I would make sure the sister-in-law is in the room when the gift tag is read off. It will not help this year, but next year I bet she'll buy your kids a gift. And she may think her children's father is responsible for buy your kids the gift, if her and her spouse is divorced. So make sure he hears it also. If she does bring a gift for your kids this year be sure to replace the tag before handing out the gifts, so not to embarrass yourself.
2007-12-19 08:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Laura F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either give them a few gift ideas for my kids and ask what their children would like. Or you could buy their kids gifts and buy your kids gifts too so they will have something to open.
2007-12-19 08:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, I have family like this also, it didn't matter I still always got them something, and usually, I bought small gifts for my kids to open from them just to make everyone happy, now that I don't do christmas, they are upset. But I give my kids money cards and they go and get what they want.
2007-12-19 08:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she ever ask you to buy her kids gifts or did you just decide to do that on your own? If you did than why do you expect that she should have to buy gifts for your kids. Maybe she doesnt have the money to buy the gifts.
2007-12-19 08:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like u have a very selfish sister in law who does not care about her nieces or nephews. Children will be children even if u dont buy for the parents you buy for kids. ME personally i would not buy her kids anything, and let her kids expect something< that way she knows how my kids feel. If u want u could give her a call and let her know what ur kids like to feel out if she buying them something. Maybe they can't afford either....
2007-12-19 08:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by yayohelpme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your kids if they would like to give these kids a gift for Christmas. Its all About the giving not receiving. It would be inappropriate to ask if they are bringing gifts for your children. You could always just opt to not give, but is that what is really in your heart? What is more important to you the act of giving or ensuring that it is reciprocated?
2007-12-19 08:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by Twiggy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋