2007-12-19 08:46:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Box o Rain - You are a tool.
2007-12-19 08:50:04 · update #1
Donna - That is freaking hot. Gives me all kinds of good ideas.
2007-12-19 08:53:29 · update #2
i would if they werent all butt ugly, grungy, and had no jobs. my husband is the only good looking one with a real job out of the whole lot. his friends are stereotypical musicians :)
2007-12-20 01:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah! My wife's single-mom friend lived with us and I have had the hots for her long before she moved in. But that's as far as I can go... imagining or dreaming of doing it with her whenever my wife's at work. To do the unthinkable leads to consequences that you may not be able to handle, full-blown. You'd better keep those thoughts to yourself, lest your spouse find any changes and boots you out for good!
I guess that's pretty normal when, some time in your marriage, you'd wish how it's like to be intimate with someone close to your spouse.
2007-12-19 09:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lazy_Lout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't think of one single friend of my husband's that I have fantasized about being with. They are all nice guys, and some are very good looking. I guess it just seems too far out in left field for me. I have fantasized, but not about any of them!
2007-12-19 11:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love Box of Rain!
I think everyone fantasizes about off-limits people at some point. Quality people don't act on those fantasies.
2007-12-19 08:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sassie 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
What are sexual fantasies?
Fantasies are daydreams. Imaginary visions. Whimsical speculations. Wishful thinking. Everybody fantasises at some level. If you've ever imagined what you'd do if you won the lottery, you've used fantasy.
Fantasy is a fundamental part of human nature. We see active imagination as healthy in children (watch them playing and you'll see them lost in a world of their own) but something adults should grow out of. Most people never do, however. Even if we manage to suppress our imagination during the day, all those unconscious passions emerge while we're sleeping.
Understanding fantasies
There's a huge range of personal taste in sexual fantasy, just as there is in everything else. But many people feel uncomfortable with their own fantasies, fearing they're somehow weird if they're turned on by things that are unacceptable to others.
Sexual fantasies may express an aspect of our unconscious mind. For example, fantasies about being submissive or passive may be linked to a desire to experience high sexual arousal without personal responsibility.
But fantasies are simply somewhere we can act out things we might never do in real life, such as having sex in a public place or with a particular person. And sometimes they turn us on precisely because they're not real.
Fantasising about other people
Some people worry that fantasising about someone other than their partner is an act of betrayal, revealing either a desire to be unfaithful or that they are longer turned on by their partner alone.
In fact, this is very rarely the case. Evidence suggests that those who fantasise the most are in happy, loving, trusting relationships. It's in this kind of context that the mind explores places the body has no intention of visiting.
The benefits of fantasy
Sex generally starts in the brain. So an active imagination can mean you're ready for sex before anything physical has happened. Therefore, desire is heightened and arousal is much quicker.
Some people find an active fantasy life can add novelty to a long-standing sexual relationship. This can be particularly helpful if your partner is not as sexually adventurous as you are.
But conversely, if you find it embarrassing to experiment in bed, fantasy offers an opportunity to give your imagination free rein and to play out roles. It can be used as a practice arena where you can build confidence before embarking on something new.
In psychosexual therapy, fantasy is often used to block out negative thoughts. If you find during sexual encounters your mind wanders to unhelpful images or thoughts, fantasy can help you to refocus on your sexual pleasure.
Learning to fantasise
If you don't find sexual fantasy comes easily, you can learn. Erotica can help; try exploring bookshops for erotic books and art. There's also a wealth of magazines available to suit any taste. And your local video store will stock a range of films, from romantic and slapstick to thrillers and more explicit 18-rated movies.
Find out what turns you on. Then with the help of relaxation techniques, lie back and allow your mind to build your personal favourite.
The most common male fantasies include:
having sex with an existing partner
giving and receiving oral sex
having sex with more than one person
being dominant
being passive and submissive
reliving a previous experience
watching others make love
trying new sexual positions
The most common female fantasies include:
having sex with an existing partner
giving and receiving oral sex
having sex with a new partner
romantic or exotic locations
doing something forbidden
being submissive
reliving a previous experience
being found irresistible
trying new sexual positions
Caution about sharing fantasies
Although some couples find that sharing and acting out their fantasies has increased trust and intimacy, others have not.
Fantasies are extremely personal. There are risks involved in disclosing them, especially to someone you care for. Consider how you'll manage if they don't like your fantasy or if you try acting it out and it just doesn't work.
Sharing fantasies can be liberating, but it's risky. Talk to your partner first about the general theme, then approach with caution.
2007-12-19 08:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
uhh yea some of his Friends are soo hot. i would not think of doing it in reality . i can keep the fanatsies in my head there they are so much better than reality.
2007-12-19 08:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Misty j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Still looking bad.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-19 08:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
ive fantasized and did it
2007-12-19 08:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by tiny dick 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, I like to think I'm his mistress and willing to do what a wife normally wouldn't do.
2007-12-19 08:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
no, but with my friends spouce i have
2007-12-19 08:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋