Mu Ex showerd me with love before and after i married him,but divorced me when our son was seven months.Now he is eleven,and he is still trearating us bad
2007-12-19 08:29:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't let him win and steal your joy and future with someone new. its okay to be hurt for a while, but its not okay to hold onto it for that long. get into a support group and talk about it, move past this, don't let this man destroy u, and your chance at life because your bitter. bitterness will effect your entire life and any future relationship. u just married the wrong man that's the problem.
2007-12-19 11:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, dispice I am a man I can understand you, hovever this issue is not a male thing or man thing it is a personality and resoposibility thing. Since I dont know any one of you it is hard to tell, but he obvisly do not have any emotions for his son and that is very sad. I am myself divorced and remarried but i never did let the contact go between my 3 kids in the first marrige we have a fine relation today still. So its up to each individual male or female. maybe he was not mature enoufgh to stand up for his repsonsibilities that is very very sad to. I dont know if this child was planned or not either, all I can ask you to do is to not judge every man by your own one, becuase there are many good men out there and hopefully you will find one that also is mature enoufgh to step in as a dad to your son if his biological dad dont want to or show any changes, wishing you all the luck in the world.
Goran
2007-12-19 09:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Goran E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one man so don't think all men are the same because of him. I can understand why you would find it hard to trust someone again but if you don't learn to trust again you will never have another relationship. Don't automatically think a guy is not being truthful just because of a bad past experience.
2007-12-19 08:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i visit respond to this in keeping with me being a guy and considerate. If there is been a case the place a guy's been disloyal to his considerable different, then so be it, all adult males are disloyal and none could be depended on. Uhm, ok! I advise come on, with the inhabitants in the worldwide consisting frequently of girls human beings and adult males are people who can't be depended on, with the cost of couples divorcing world extensive, enormously right here in the U. S., this is the guy's fault? Sorry, get your info immediately! There are some sick and dumb depraved adult males, I agree. even although this is merely honest to additionally contain that there are some sick women human beings too. thank you!
2016-10-02 03:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can fire this one straight back at you from the other side, i find it difficult to trust women, they are so fickle, my ex has now gone off with another man as it was easier than staying with me and the kids, she told me that she still loved me but it was too complicated and she was tired of everything.
I guess what I am saying is don't generalise about men, there are some of us who truely value what the companionship of a woman can bring to our lives, and I need to believe the same of women.
2007-12-19 08:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go of those bad feelings that you have towards him. Yes, he was wrong and yes, he's an a$$ but while you're sitting there mad, hating him, and punishing every other man for what your ex has done, he is living his life. Try to forgive. Forgive him so that your heart can heal and you can have peace of mind and become a stronger person.
2007-12-19 09:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by ZarahzMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if your still having issues trusting people, and if you still are hurt by the way your ex is treating you, more than likely you need a therapist, i have been divorced for a year now, and separated for 3 prior to the divorce, it was a very nasty bitter divorce, not by me , but by my ex, i put myself and my two daughters in therapy, and we are fine and moving forward, happiness comes from within, find it for yourself and your son, he is at an impressionable age, teach him how to be the better person and move on by example.
2007-12-19 08:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the pain that your ex husband has caused you it resulted in you having trust issues. There's nothing wrong with you, this is normal... but if you want to fix it you should seek counseling, find a good therapist that can work with you to help you overcome your trust issues.
2007-12-19 08:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you.. It's just that you were badly hurt and you're afraid to trust someone again and get hurt again. But i believe someday you will overcome that fears. why not start making friends with guys first.. eventually, it will come out naturally. you will just suddenly feel that there's a chance for you to trust again. It is so good to love and be loved.. But trust is tha main key for that wonderful feeling.. So give yourself some time and im sure one day, you will able to trust someone again with all your heart.. Dont be afraid. God is there for you..
2007-12-19 08:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Rhonna T. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very long time to hold onto those feelings. I'd suggest some personal counseling. It is not normal to feel that way for more than a year or two.
2007-12-19 08:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋