Family & Relationships - 19 December 2007

2007-12-19 01:33:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if you love your wife but after you two married she said she doesnt to have sex, she isn't a virgin but you are and you are ok with it for some time, but after a while you can help those urges and she doesnt want you to masterbate or look at porn but you love your wife very much and she wont go to therapy or marriage counseling is there a way to kill those desires (no not cutting the penis off) but like pills?

2007-12-19 01:31:15 · 18 answers · asked by Peter P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I kick out my cheating boyfriend in August. Now I found out that he got that 19 year old preagnant in August. This was not the first time that he had done that. We were together since we where 18 and now I'm 28. When I was 24 he had another girl preagnant too which that baby past away when he was 4months old.

I just got a lawyer to speed up my childsupport this month too.

My problem is that my friend is mad at me since he's family had invited me and our kids for X-mas and told him that he's 19 year old girlfriend can go with her family. My friend said that I'm inconsiderate on he's new girlfriends feelings, but to tell you the truth I don't care. I don't care of him, her or their baby. Since we broke up he has not being there for our children who are 6 and 7. Why should I feel anything for them? Why?

2007-12-19 01:30:40 · 10 answers · asked by mextizo22 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-19 01:30:38 · 5 answers · asked by KissMe 1 in Singles & Dating

me and this guy were dating for 5months and i got pregnat to a multi million aire gangster i was young at the time my son developed a illness and was in hospital for thirteen months he has not had nothing to do with me or my son for five years my son is five i saw him three months ago and he approched me he is a very serious man and the words he spoke to me was you have done the hard bit every things gonna be ok i will sort every thing at the end of this year or the begginig of next what do you think

2007-12-19 01:30:14 · 8 answers · asked by Surayah 1 in Singles & Dating

A friends and I went to a “high class” function. (We work together at the same school and we talk all the time.) It was a fund raiser for AIDS research. I was invited by friends of other friends. By the time we got to the dinner, it was six of us seated at the table. The occupations of the people that were seated at the table were a Physical Therapist, Accountant, Chemical Engineer, a 'Tech guy," a high school counselor (me) and a school Cafe. Worker. (The Cafe. Worker came with me.)

(HERE IS THE ISSUE)
The question of occupation and salaries came up. I felt a little uncomfortable because with this bunch anything under six figs seemed to be chump change. So after they ask my friend (The Cafe Worker) what she made, after she told them the looked at each other for a second and then started to laugh. (I will be honest, I was mad as hell). My friend (Café Worker) was noticeably uncomfortable and felt out of place. They then asked what her salary was.

That is when I BLASTED their snooty aizzez. I don't remember everything I said, but it was enough to turn heads at other tables. Many people thought I was rude and mean. After I said what I had to say, no one spoke to me the whole night and the friend that invited me was very embarrassed by my actions.

(TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT)

On the way home my friend (Café Worker) thanked me for taking up for her, but she said that she did not want to go to any other events with me. She felt we really operated in two different worlds. (I was hurt by that b/c we had been friends for five yrs, but that is not the issue at hand.) The person who invited me called my cell phone while I was driving on the way home and cussed me out for embarrassing him and hanging with “low lives.” So I cussed his aizz right back, he wants nothing to do with me after this b/c he said that I ruined is “networks” (????)

(QUESTIONS FOR YOU)

1. Was I wrong for letting them have it at the fundraiser?
2. My friend at school (the café worker) no longer wants anything to do with me b/c she thinks that I have set her up for failure. Even though she is one of my best friends, Was I wrong for inviting her?

P.S. Please provide objective advice. I am a brotha that has lost two good friends by just going to a dinner party.

2007-12-19 01:29:30 · 6 answers · asked by Andre L 1 in Friends

2007-12-19 01:28:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Last weekend, I had to work concessions for 5 and a half hours with four guys I didn't know. During that time, I spent most of my time talking to one of the guys. I probably learned more than I should have. For instance, he's never dated a girl, doesn't go out and get smashed, and has a slight video game addiction that he balances out by reading just as much. We were pretty much side by side the whole night when we weren't helping other people. At the end of the night, when we were going to our cars, he stopped me and asked for a 'new friend hug'.

Um, okay?

2007-12-19 01:27:59 · 15 answers · asked by Nancy 1 in Singles & Dating

Hubby, has ex wife of 16 years. Hubby has current wife for 10 years. Hubby has family who only wants to be around ex wife. Hubby and ex have one child who is 20 years old. Ok, Hubby and family want ex wife to come stay with his sister for a week for christmas. (ex lives 7 hours away). Hubby's family, also wants ex wife there and for wife to stay home. (this is how they have done it on more then one occassion). They claim it is for the 20 year old child. Ex-wife IS coming, feels like she belongs with ex family in law more then wife does. Wife is having a fit over this and is telling hubby that if he goes over to his sister's with his ex wife being there, that he may as well not bother coming home. So who is in the wrong? Hubby or Wife?

2007-12-19 01:24:57 · 20 answers · asked by carmeliasue 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-19 01:24:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have been diagnosed recently with this and want to try to manage it for the sake of my relationship. please ~ serious answers only. i was thinking of getting a chastity device

2007-12-19 01:23:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-19 01:23:07 · 15 answers · asked by Unique 3000 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I try everything to boost her sex drive up. I feel that I'm the problem. I only try about 1 time a month now, I still get turn down. I"m asking for to much? Dont get me wrong I don't force myself on her. I give her respect. Been married for 18 years now. Any help

2007-12-19 01:21:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my dear friend Smantha Jnes [english] slapped me for no reason. I now feel like i have no friends at all. She then lauged at me sticking another metaphorical dagger into my unloved heart... WHY DOES NO-ONE LOVE ME??

2007-12-19 01:20:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

It seems like every time I see a girl that has everything I want and what I want isn't much, she seems to be off limits for one reason or another? It's either you are scared you will ruin it and she will never be your friend again or even though both of you click like you've never clicked with anyone before. That or she's got some guy she's not dating but she's all about and won't have anything to do with you because that guy that really doesn't like her is still around or one of her friends doesn't like you. Most girls I've notice and even in my late 20s now listen to their friends and will only date guys that their friends think are hot. She has some screwed up reason why she doesn't like you or can't be with you. It's always yeah... I'm not going to date you Mr. has a real job and a house, no debt and will treat me like a princess. I'm going to stick with this guy whom I have to explain a black eye to the neighbors every now and again because of.

2007-12-19 01:17:41 · 12 answers · asked by Hilow H 1 in Singles & Dating

Everyhting was good in freshman year. We started to go out in March and continued into the summer. The friends she had then were awesome and they liked me and I liked them. They were so much fun to be around. We saw eachother 3-4 times a week and everyhting was great. Yet once sports started up in the new school year she started to get a new group of friends. Friends much "cooler". I talked to some of them and they knew me but its started to go down hill. Shes ditched her old friends, shes starting to drink with the new ones (and she knows i dont like that), and shes hanging out with her new friends mroe then me now(since they are like SCREW BOYS!). It's christmas break and we haven't even talked about hanging out or anything. She gets mad at me when i talk about this subject to her and now she feels distant and i dont know what to do. She thinks everyhtings okay but to me she doesn't seem the same. Yet she said when she doesn't see me after school it feels like shes missing something.

2007-12-19 01:17:02 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i liked this guy a couple of years ago. nothing happened between us. we sort of moved apart and i've only seen him about four times since then. i've liked other guys since and i was pretty sure that i'd gotten over him, but everytime i see him i get this feeling that i still like him, even though it's been nearly 3 years. i saw him this afternoon (his sister goes to school with my brother) and i haven't been able to stop thinking about him since.

help me...

2007-12-19 01:10:54 · 1 answers · asked by beach_monkey 2 in Singles & Dating

someone school they r picking at me that i am deaf, i want a friends and loving.

2007-12-19 01:09:03 · 11 answers · asked by katia_londy 1 in Friends

I am an accountant. I've been married for 4 years to a wonderful man whom I love and would hate to hurt, but I've had this client for about 3 years, he is gorgeous, elegant, smart, well spoken, single, I mean it's like he has no flaws. Every time he comes to my office I melt, I mean I keep it together so he doesn't notice but this man drives me crazy. He has always been a gentleman to me very professional but for the past year I have noticed that he has shown interest in me. He has sent me numerous gifts, which I didn't think much of at first cause I do get many gifts from many clients, he has sent me lunch or dinner to my office (he owns a few restaurants ) anyhow this morning he came to my office and when I extended my arm to shake his hand, he pulled me toward him and gave me a kiss, a very soft and short yet passionate kiss. It was so unexpected that for the first 3 seconds I gave in but than freaked out and pulled back and asked him to leave. I don't know what to do . . . .

2007-12-19 01:08:25 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mom's constantly putting me down socially.

For example,

I was going to meet a friend for coffee and she remarked, 'He doesn't want to have dinner with you, he doesn't have time for you.' That's beside the point, it's not like we were going to have dinner and he changed his mind.

I was arranging to meet a friend, who's really popular, for dinner and she remarked, 'She doesn't want to meet you, she's got more important things to do with her time. Do you actually think she has the time for you?' Well, turns out she did. When I told her that she simply remarked, 'That's a surprise, she's not going to see you anymore after this.' That wasn't the case.

It's quite puzzling. I actually have an active social life and a large circle of friends. Why is she constantly saying things like that? What's the best way to respond? Simply ignore her remarks? I've tried telling her that it bothers me but it hasn't stopped. In fact, it's happening more frequently.

2007-12-19 01:05:31 · 11 answers · asked by utternutter 2 in Family

Yes, I mean on the internet. I've tried a chatroom but it was like a meat market and I left as quickly as I entered. I think I'm normal in wanting to chat, get to know people and have some laughs. Not looking for a relationship other than friendship as I'm kind of stuck here in a caregiver role and not looking to leave.
So, basically asking for links/sites where there are other normal, lonely (but not desperate) people out there who are closer to my age.
I suppose I have to mention here, to avoid the wrong sites, that I'm not looking for cybersex. Does such a place exist? Am I a dreamer?

2007-12-19 01:01:14 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshine 2 in Friends

My mother's first and last best friend lives in Palm Desert, California, a long way from us. 2,000 miles or more. She would be in her early 90's now.
I have written to her several times, and called, but her phone is now disconnected, the apt. complex says they cannot tell me anything because of privacy laws, yet my letters to her do not come back to me.
I suspect she could be in a nursing home--but we know no people in common for me to call--she has no children-- no one has contacted me either as an emergency contact--in the event she has passed away.

Does anyone know of an agency that I can call to check on her on my behalf 2,000 miles away?

I only know her name and address and approximate year of birth--no social security numbers or any other personal data, however,

Or perhaps, are there any Social Workers on YahooAnswers that are in the Palm Springs or Palm Desert area that could help me find her, or what happened to her?

I appreciate all serious replies.
Thank you.

2007-12-19 00:59:47 · 1 answers · asked by susieque 4 in Friends

2007-12-19 00:59:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it better to have loved and lost, or to have never have loved at all? Why?

2007-12-19 00:54:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my brother is 21yrs old.he is a college student and does very well in his academic work.the only problem is that he is stuck in his room 24/7/365.he had an excuse during exams and said he is studying but now exams are over and he still locks himself up.he doesn't go out with friends or any1!i know this is not normal behaviour for someone his age.i tried talking to him and offered him to come out with me but he refuses.

someone please advise me on what to do????

2007-12-19 00:50:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

If so why? I lost both my parents, my grandmother, and my precious kitty.....

2007-12-19 00:49:22 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family

he says he loves me but nothing will ever happen between us because he loves his kids.

i feel low i love him so much what can i do?

2007-12-19 00:48:16 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is afraid this may hurt our friendship. We are like sisters, I don't know what to do. Any adivse or experience would be helpful.

2007-12-19 00:47:11 · 15 answers · asked by clever girl 4 in Friends

I am looking for something like Red Envelope, but that has more of a variety of toy's.

2007-12-19 00:47:09 · 2 answers · asked by snowyniner 3 in Family

..that insists that you go on [Xmas] vacation (to his parents house), when he went on one [to parents] in summer. When wife said she didn't want to go but not stopping him from going, is 10k in debt, so asks parents for gas money to go (PA to FL) And asks sick (bad cold) wife to wrap presents, and still go. Along with 3 teens, all 3 pets that she was/is willing to stay home with. I'm trying to say this unbiasedly so I won't say more unlessed asked.

2007-12-19 00:46:08 · 8 answers · asked by Valeria 4 in Marriage & Divorce