he says he loves me but nothing will ever happen between us because he loves his kids.
i feel low i love him so much what can i do?
2007-12-19 00:48:16 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are not together or out like that he refuses to do anything
but i i know his wife is seeing my brother and i dare not say anything
2007-12-19 00:54:33 · update #1
Well, are you willing to play second fiddle your entire life? Think with your head; not your heart - let him go so you can find that someone who can give his entire self to you and not only part of it.
2007-12-19 01:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What made you develop feelings for a married man in the first place? He shouldn't have encouraged you, knowing that he already has a wife and kids. Honestly, I don't think he's worth loving because he isn't being fair to his own wife.
Try putting yourself in his wife's place. How would you feel if you found out that your husband, most probably the man that you love the most in your life, is in love with somebody else? There are so many better men out there who are still single. Try to forget about this guy. You'll only hurt yourself, his wife and kids.
2007-12-19 00:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by CandyCandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know for certain that his wife is seeing your brother then tell the poor sod. He has a right to know the truth. If he was ever to find out from someone else and then found out you knew all along then he would never forgive you. If you truly love him them tell him out of respect not because you think it will get you what you want.
His kids will be better off with 2 separate happy parents than 2 parents together who are making each other miserable.
2007-12-19 12:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Magz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not what you want to hear but i would ( if you ) leave this man alone and find someone for yourself because there is a whole big world of guys out there for you who are perhaps not married and/or better looking.. plus there is the added fact that you will be destroying a family by splitting up mum and dad and the kids will grow up in a mess.... do you want to live with the guilt that this brings ???? If it is going to happen to that family and this guy strays with someone else and a whole big family mess happens then you if you walk away now will be free of guilt and wont blame yourself ( or end up on Jeremy kyle or something lol )
2007-12-19 00:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Father Jacks Drinking pal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what you are saying is that he is a liar, his wife is a liar and you are a liar. Which part of this mess sounds like a good idea?
Cheaters cheat because either they do not respect their partner or because they are running away from marital issues. Neither this guy nor his wife respect each other. But you want to waste your time on this guy? He will cheat on you too. His wife will cheat on your brother too.
I would talk to my brother if I were you and the two of you should dump the married cheaters. Both of you need to find single people that respect you both.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-19 00:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that.
He is enjoying the attention of someone outside his marriage, but is not going to leave his wife. He is loving feeling the excitement of someone new, but....if it were not you, it would be someone else. There is nothing special about you in this man's eyes other than you are willing to love him and accept his terms of treating you like a second class citizen.
I know this sounds harsh, but get a life of your own. Move on. This is going no where. I don't care how sweet he is to you or how much he says he loves you. He loves the IDEA of you.
2007-12-19 01:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by xxxxxxxxx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You know there is nothing more powerful and intense feeling such as being a father and also, creating those kids with a woman. Nothing can beat that. If suppose he ever does leave his wife for you, his kids will always come first.
darling its very hard for me to say this, but try to move on. You dont deserve to get hurt.
Good luck.
2007-12-19 01:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by ashez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't leave his wife for you - you'll always be his bit on the side. You're effectively taking the place of a hooker. Stop stroking his ego and go and find yourself a man who will love you wholeheartedly. I know how hard this is to do, but you need to go cold turkey. Why the hell should he have his cake and eat it too while you get nothing but the crumbs? Married men know how to manipulate single women to get them to give them what they want. Society will blame you if his wife finds out about the affair - so walk away now, into a better life, with your dignity intact.
2007-12-19 00:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up and find a man to love who can love you back. Don't ruin someone else's marriage and the lives of those children because you have low self esteem.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-19 00:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Someone needs to take a picture of his wife with your brother and send it from another state. Then you're not the bearer of bad news. He needs to know the situation.
2007-12-19 03:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by celfone71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get someone who does not belong to someone else. Oh...and just because his wife is a stupid horrible cheat..does not give you the right to ask her husband.. ( HER HUSBAND ) to cheat and be lying creepy scum too just because YOU say so.
Gee! Get someone else. If you truly "love" him you would never ask him to be a scumbag and cheat his wife. If he did ..and YOU got him.. then the two of you deserve each other. And the two of you would never be able to trust each other..because the two of you would be.. cheats.
2007-12-19 01:06:16 · answer #11 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋