It seems like every time I see a girl that has everything I want and what I want isn't much, she seems to be off limits for one reason or another? It's either you are scared you will ruin it and she will never be your friend again or even though both of you click like you've never clicked with anyone before. That or she's got some guy she's not dating but she's all about and won't have anything to do with you because that guy that really doesn't like her is still around or one of her friends doesn't like you. Most girls I've notice and even in my late 20s now listen to their friends and will only date guys that their friends think are hot. She has some screwed up reason why she doesn't like you or can't be with you. It's always yeah... I'm not going to date you Mr. has a real job and a house, no debt and will treat me like a princess. I'm going to stick with this guy whom I have to explain a black eye to the neighbors every now and again because of.
2007-12-19 01:17:41 · 12 answers · asked by Hilow H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girls love jerks, wanna know my trick? Be a jerk to them. You'd be AMAZED how well it works. Be mean for no reason. Girls in this day and age have to be accepted by everyone, so automatically they'll put more time and effort into you if they think you DON'T like them at all. They have to. It's psychotic but they feel a desperate need to have EVERYONE love them!
2007-12-19 01:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is 'off limits' then obviously she is not perfect.
'Mr. late 20's, has a job and house, will treat her like a princess'.........
Here is what I glean from that self-observation:
A good age to consider long term relations; younger than 25 still has some maturing to do. A job and house is an indication of financial responsibility and security; qualities that 'eligible candidates' would desire - if they don't perk up on that then keep looking.
'Treat her like a princess' - there is part of the problem Amigo. Unless you can run your household like a king, and I mean as a strong leader not a tyrant, then getting a princess is going to cost you bigtime. A princess is going to be high maintenance. Do yourself a favor and seek a Queen - a woman who will be by your side and facilitate your role as King.
You sound like you have some good qualities to build on, but are also on the verge of becoming one of the immasculated sheep in the neutered flock of men out there. It is OK to be a Man; don't buy into this modernistic garbage redefining a man with feministic qualities - it is simply is not natural. A good mate will want a man who is a leader of their house. Become that leader and the 'perfect girl' will find *you* instead of you having to seek her out.
2007-12-19 01:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Apprehensive 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sorry you're experiencing this. One reason might be that it's often easier to stay with the boyfriend a girl has now rather than cause the pain of breaking up....even if the girl will end up with something better. Another might be that some relationships are awesome and bring out the best in a girl, making her even more attractive to other guys. Keep looking, you'll find somebody who like you for who you are and is single and looking to date you.
2007-12-19 01:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by 3ng1n33rgurl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a little silly. As far as being "scared" or ruining things, so what? If you really want somebody, sometimes you've got to take some risks.
You're making these sweeping generalizations about women that just aren't true. I never consult my friends about who I should date. Hell, sometimes I go out with people my friends don't think are good matches for me. That's because people may have ideas about what I SHOULD want, but only I know what I really do want.
And I'm a little offended by your characterization of women as shallow and gold-grubbing. Why are you attracted to this type?
2007-12-19 01:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all girls are like that! I've been looking for my prince! Most of the men I've been dating are jerks and I totally drop them! I'm not one of those girls that let men walk all over me! No way! I've been rapped, used and cheated on! No freaking way is that going to happen again. Just be patient. Always have Faith and pray for the best! I've been through hell but I still have hope that there's someone special just waiting for me around the corner. One day we'll bump into each other!
2007-12-19 01:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Sounds like YOU have the black eye. Perhaps as "you don't want much" you're looking in all the wrong places! May I suggest you try "wanting it all!" and begin looking for someone that you respect and that you work on being ALL you can be while you're looking. Pride is overrated but self-pity is unattractive! Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-19 01:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real worth of the other person is realised much more when that other one isn't yours any longer.This is truth of every such relationship.
Also, when you try your best to get someone and you fail to do so ; you feel very hopeless.That's another truth of life.
Accept it as it comes.Life is like that.
2007-12-19 02:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure there is a segment in Murphy's law about this. You will always want what you cannot have, that is human nature. It really is sad that it works that way, but you are right it seems fairly true. I only wish I knew man, good luck to you
2007-12-19 01:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that could make lifestyles worry-free and it specific as hell isnt. consistent with possibility ur no longer looking the excellent form of girls. keep attempting sweety there is somebody obtainable for you. Dont attempt lots and consistent with possibility purely consistent with possibility she'll locate you.
2016-11-04 01:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorta one of those girls of whom you are talking about. the thing is that us females listen to our female friends. i will not date a guy who my friends don't think it would work out. personally, i talk to my friends about it, i talk to the guy about, i think about it and make my own decision.
it always ins't about looks....looks are just an added bonus. looks tend to fade in life.
this is going to sound harsh but no intention of being harsh. grow up and deal with it. life goes on.
2007-12-19 01:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋