Family & Relationships - 18 December 2007

I have a GF of 2 years. Long story short, we had to keep our relationship secret, when her parents found out they threw me out and we broke up. We got back together after she turned 18 and we've been secretly together again since then. But I can't live that secret any longer. I want to love openly, have people see me happy and in love. I can't stay with my GF because I am not ready to come out - I don't think I am gay and being with her is more like a teenage love that I now have come to realize is not what I want...
I need to break up with her... How?

2007-12-18 03:05:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been dating my boyfriend since I was 14, now I am 18. Recently thanks to a family issue he has been living with me in my house. (Not that I agree'd, but I don't want to say no) I have never been sexually active, and have told him this, and he seemed ok with it. Well, because of the lack of beds, and father and my trust in him, he's been sleeping beside me in my bed. Well, this morning I woke up, but didn't want to get up, so I lay there (fully clothed mind you). I hear him wake up, and think he's trying to pull off the covers from himself without waking me, when I feel his hand on my rear. I was ok with it, until it started to go deeper, and that's when I kicked my foot as if waking up. He let go, but moments later tried AGAIN> When I kicked again, he got out of bed. I'm scared that he's done this before while I've slept, or gone to "different area's", but I don't want to embaress him or get him angry by asking. HELP!

2007-12-18 03:04:57 · 17 answers · asked by chris_redfield267 3 in Singles & Dating

If child support is supposed to be 25% of the payer's income, help me figure out the right amount in this little fictional scenario here:

Gross annual income is 70,000
Allow about 15% for taxes (down to 59500 annually, 4960 per month)
Health, dental and life insurance, 401k, etc. comes to 250/month (making the net income 4710 per month)

Now, if 25% is supposed to go to child support, would that be 25% of 4960 (monthly child support 1240) or 25% of 4710 (monthly child support approx 1175)?

I know, it's confusing... I've done several drafts of this question to try to make it as understandable for you as possible, and so that I can understand your answers. LOL

Basically, is the amount figured up using income before benefits are taken out, or after?

2007-12-18 03:00:16 · 13 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-18 02:59:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

In anyone's experience... Can a man who actually GETS help stop being a controlling, drinking, abusive man? Mine is coming home from Prison soon, and has promised he's changed. I think the odds are against change in this situation, and I KNOW I can't change him. I've had it, and am TOO OLD to put up with his BS anymore, however, we've been together six years, and he's behaving so earnestly, I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt. Any thoughts? Has anyone out there actually been with a man who DID change his butthead ways and become a decent human being after taking classes and spending six months in prison for his actions, etc? I'm seriously wondering if I should bother anymore.

2007-12-18 02:59:06 · 22 answers · asked by Babygurl32 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what you do if you were gettin ready to move, and you have enough ppl round to help and they dont, and they r trying to make u pack their stuff to, what would you do and how would you feel, because that is what is happenin in my life right now!

2007-12-18 02:58:09 · 8 answers · asked by Marina 1 in Family

Please help, I am in desperate need! for my family and my sake.
I have a 9 year old sister who really drives my whole family insane, she is putting my mum and dad under so much pressure, she is a manipulative and very demanding girl, I will list some of the annoying and distracting things she does

1. She always hits me when i'm in the car, scratches me, makes loud noises, parents tell her too stop, she said she has stopped, though she just continues to do it again and she gets away with it.

2. When I am in charge and have too take her too places. she will never listen to me or my mum, she says too me "Your not the boss of me" and I have too drag her out and yell at her in PUBLIC places, which is such an embarrassment. For example once I was at the beach with her and it took me 3 hours too get her out, I pretty much was stressed out and almost cried in annoyance.

3. Also when I want to watch my programme on TV and I always watch it every week, She yells to mum then she get it. HELP!

2007-12-18 02:57:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am in my 20's, and newly married. The thing is, I recently found out I am pregnant with my 1st baby- and I don't know how to break the news to my dad. My mom already knows, and she is happy for us. However, my dad is always a little apprehensive about new things, and especially about things that make him realize I'm not a little girl anymore. I want to break the news gently, but I also am not going to apologize for being happy about my pregnancy. How should I tell him?

2007-12-18 02:55:09 · 12 answers · asked by ~*Felicity's Mommy*~ 3 in Family

I think she is just being controlling. I do not cheat on her. If she is not in the mood, I don't she a problem with it.

2007-12-18 02:54:25 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This is a very long and confusing story.
It started a couple months ago when I found out that two of my best friends (lets call them guy1 and guy2) liked me. I had no attraction to either of them. Guy1 was calm, and accepted the situation. Guy2 however was extremely persistant is trying to get me to like him. It got annoying after awhile. Then, as if things weren’t bad enough, my other friend (girl1) told us that she liked guy1. Guy1 had a minor crush on her a tthis point, but still had a bigger crush on me.Then, Girl1 randomly kissed guy1. She told me that I should to, so he could see that he nliked me more. So, I did, and then I started liking guy1, and now we are going out. Girl1 has completely gotten over it. She's fine, I can tell. But guy2 obviously still likes me. He's always trying to get closer to me. It's not just that, he's completely heartbroken. Try as we might, he just won't talk to us about it! Not only that but I can't shake this uneasy feeling...

2007-12-18 02:53:49 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

She is the best girl I can ever get.
I am 27years old. I earn only $14/hour.

How will I be able to support her. Take an appartment. Keep her happy. Give her all she wants.

Do you think, with $ 14, its enough for two people .
She says she does not want to work. I said, fine.. do as you feel happy.

Serious reply only
What do I do.

Tom

2007-12-18 02:53:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend is planning on getting me an engagement ring from Walmart! I have seen it and its really pretty to me! Has anyone bought a ring from them and are the diamonds real?

2007-12-18 02:52:38 · 23 answers · asked by sweetone_08 1 in Marriage & Divorce

**he works in california, and he told me they still havent approved the days he requested to come to las vegas to get married

**He told me that why didnt i just go to california and get married with him over there, when he knows that my family would never accept that.

**He told me that he really wants to be happy with me, but that something isnt "right", he said that nothing is going right, and i guess he sees that as a warning sign...

**in the other hand, he told me all he wants to do is marry me and be happy with me

i dont know, please help me, yesterday he was a little upset with his mom because of an argument they had, so maybe thats why he was like this, or is he clearly trying to get off the wedding.... thank you so much.

2007-12-18 02:51:45 · 5 answers · asked by i cant think of a nickname 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If you werent ready to break up with your significant other, and you were still pining away and living in misery of being without them, which scenario would suck more?

If they completely disappeared from your life and you no longer knew a thing about them?

-or-

If you knew absolutely everything about their life but you are unable to do anything about it

I feel like if you knew nothing about them anymore, it would be easier to get over them; but if I knew everything about them, I would feel completely frustrated because Im watching everything I love live on without me...

For you: Which scenario sucks more?

2007-12-18 02:49:07 · 19 answers · asked by Mary 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Can guys be sensitive like women?your experience ladies?Do you like sensitive guys?and why?is that a good trait?what do you do if they are and they are not?which one do you prefer a sensitive ones or not?What is a sensitive guys meant to you?

2007-12-18 02:47:52 · 11 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I never get time alone and we havent had any intimate time in over a month. I was wondering where we could have some time and be left alone.

2007-12-18 02:46:15 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am having a fairly small wedding I was only planning on 3 attendants
the MOH I had in place had to be fired for bad behavior.
but she has an alliance with another bridesmaid girl Let's Call her "J" I had picked

I don't know what her position is on being in the wedding anymore she hasn't made any contact when I have tried to call her to ask about the paticulars

one of the girls in place is my finacees sister.
the other girl is a high school friend
now I just found out my cousin can come to my wedding and I would love for her to be my MOH. I haven't asked her yet.
if i do then I would have 4 girls
I need 3 i don't want to offend or hurt anyone by asking them to step aside so my cousin can particapate.

what can I do without hurting feelings
the two people who I would consider stepping aside would be my finacees sister or the other bridesmaid. "J"

what and how can I do it.

2007-12-18 02:45:18 · 12 answers · asked by la de da 3 in Weddings

IS IT SO HARD TO ASK ?

2007-12-18 02:45:01 · 2 answers · asked by martinsdiamond_tm 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-18 02:44:18 · 22 answers · asked by Curtis c 1 in Singles & Dating

When you truly love someone, with all that you have and are and then some,,,, when is it enough?? When do you stop trying?

2007-12-18 02:43:46 · 12 answers · asked by laughing spirit 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i just do not know what to do -i am being bullied by my uncle and mother -emotionally bullied- in my house ; they telling everybody in my neighbourhood that i am s and and ick and its not true and they nick pick at everything - they are 68 and 69 years respectively - i feel so emabarrased as house is like an open book to everybody - i do not know who to speak to as i do not know who to trust as they may punish me more - i do not feel at ease around them since i do not know how they will lash out at me. i have looked 4 reasons why but i cant think , they also say that i am gay too behind my back too.

I hate them both , i really do -sometimes i have thought about ending my life since i do not know how to cope.

if i say anything to my uncle , my mother always makes it into a big drama , like for instance slamming the doors which i find annoying - she says to him to keep on slamming the doors if he wants - its like he has something over her.

please advise.

2007-12-18 02:43:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

what are the pitfalls? My friend says shes going to marry a Turk because she says theyre different from english men?

2007-12-18 02:43:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I were married last December and we lived alone until February when my husband lost his job due to circumstances beyond his control which was really a shock to us. Thankfully I had a few thousand in savings and we were able to eat and pay all of our bills, but a month and a half later we moved to Houston to stay with his Mother until we could get back on our feet. We were so grateful (and honestly still are!), but the novelty has worn off and we are in a major dilemma. His mom and dad are going through a divorce and my husband now plays the role of her husband/son and my husband at the same time. She still treats him like he is 12. Also, her 3 daughters come to visit periodically and when they leave they eat all of my husband and my food and don't clean up after themselves. I got along with my mother in law so well before, and we are wondering if we should go into cc debt to move out or just continue to silently endure the miserable living conditions. What do you think?

2007-12-18 02:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by LadySairah 2 in Family

I've been in a sweet relationship for past one year. My friend is really a very nice guy. In April he went to the other city for work. Since then, though he called,but quite occasionally, most of the time I did.( I know he is quite busy and lazy too.) His text msgs were also reduced in number. But still whenevr we talked I find him in the same love as he was earlier. I dont know why he doesnt text or call me much now, which he used to do earlier. Few days back, I texted him that there's no need to call me because he doesn't have time for me. Since then he is not replying my messages and not even picking his phone. He texted me last week that he loves me and askd me not to leave him. I know he loves me a lot and I also love him. Dont know what to do. Is he upset because of me? or Is he taking it as an opportunity to ditch me? This is my first love and I cant live without him. Should I get myself busy and not think about him? or Give him some time ? Will he talk to me ever?

2007-12-18 02:41:40 · 2 answers · asked by Qurious Lawyer 1 in Singles & Dating

I am having feelings for a friend that is helping me through my time of need. I am so confused, is this normal or am i being an a**hole. My fiancee can never be replaced and I don't understand why I feel this way.

2007-12-18 02:38:53 · 13 answers · asked by Heath R 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

When you've been together for three.
We don't live together, she's a virgin. And I love being in my own space, I'm young and just not ready. She's the opposite.

2007-12-18 02:38:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I need some good ideas on how I can show my fiance this Christmas how much I truly love him. I want it to blow his mind. We do little things for each other every day, so something small wouldn't be sufficient. I just need some ideas on how I could express to him my appreciation for him and how much I care. Be outrageous as you like! Nothing sexual though. Thanks in advance!

2007-12-18 02:38:05 · 9 answers · asked by yourmother 2 in Weddings

ok so i wanna go have some fun when my cousen says iknow this guy im like who ,its an ex fling of hers so im like ok so the plan was to mess around but i wasnt sure if i was going to or not?but he came and picked me up and i asked her are u ok with this i dont want to have bad blood in the family..she goes no go ahead im like are you sure she says yes go.so i did and we did well had sex and i came back and she wants to know every detail...but i come back and shes like i cant believe u did it im like omg i know and then shes upset. i was upset because shes not mad at me she said but i dont know what to do.shes not mad at me but i dont know whats wrong and i really like this guy but after i went home he called my cousin and told her i was better at it then she was and ive only done it with to guys hes my 3 that doesnt make me a whore but i need advice i dont know what to do..he wants to go out and he asked me if i wanted a b/f ... i do want him hes so amazing but my cousin what do ido?

2007-12-18 02:36:48 · 3 answers · asked by Bambi L 1 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I moved in together about 3 months ago. We've been together over 2 years. He's played World of Warcraft throughout the relationship, and I didn't know how much it would affect me until I lived with him.

Everyday has become a struggle, whether it comes to a small argument or something bigger. I ask him to set aside time for me and he gets so consumed, he tells me he'll make it up to me. He never does. I'm tired of fighting this constant battle and getting nowhere. I'm getting to the point where my heart is breaking and I'm crying more often than I should be. When I thought nothing could break us apart, I've recently had to think how I can have the strength to go on like this.

I love him, and I don't want this to break us apart. I know he has good intentions that are masked by his gaming addiction. How much gaming is too much? What can I do to address the problem with him so we can mend our relationship??

2007-12-18 02:36:37 · 16 answers · asked by Dolly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what do you find most attractive in a girl?

2007-12-18 02:36:32 · 9 answers · asked by BrionyGrace 1 in Singles & Dating