Family & Relationships - 18 December 2007

we had always been very close, then she met this guy, had 3 kids with him, bought a house and struggled. I have given all the money I had in ira's and she feels that this is what a mom is supposed to do. we are not so close, in fact, she sent back her xmas gift from me. i have been dead last to know about each of her pregnancies. i feel like i'm a car, a bank account, and a convenient place to park tush when there is no other place to go. thanksgiving was a tearful day for me, she called, the man i share my life with now told her i was sleeping, never called back, i tried to call her all day and night. no answer.. she has become the kind of person, that if i were not her mom, and i were more her age, i wouldnt even hang out with her. but, what about the 3 little cuties? am i never to so much as have a picture of them? ever? i wish i had had other children! she is my one and only. someone please, i love this girl, but i really dont like the person she has become.

2007-12-18 03:54:47 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-18 03:54:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my best female friend and me are having a debate. she claims the christmas gift i bought my bf is "too sexy" and that I may as well hand him a "cheat for free" card. The gift? I buy him a fleshlight and a two year subscription to Stuff magazine. LOL. I thought it was pretty funny but now her words have me thinkin' i may have did something wrong...she suggested I just buy him a new razor or something like that...what do you guys n' girls think?

2007-12-18 03:52:24 · 5 answers · asked by misscamillabutterfly 3 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend told me last night that if i wanted to have sex with him, i would have to initiate it. i feel really upset about this because i'm an attractive young woman with a good body, and i feel that some of my self esteem in the relationship is based on him being sexually attracted or enticed by me. i don't like feeling like the aggressor all the time, and sometimes when i do come on to him he turns me down. what do i do to entice him to sleep with me? and shaving my P$$$y or wearing sexy underwear does not work, btw. he doesn't notice.

2007-12-18 03:49:46 · 48 answers · asked by J W 2 in Singles & Dating

My Fiance is in the army and is in iraq for 15 to 18 months..... i need something to do to make the time go fast and so that im not just sitting around the house for him to come home......plz help

2007-12-18 03:48:26 · 8 answers · asked by meehaa_2009 2 in Singles & Dating

I talk to my mom everyday, she is my best friend. My husband doesn't really like this, and says it isn't normal, and that he doesn't know of anyone who does this. So we're just trying to find out if it is a "normal" thing or not. Thanks!

2007-12-18 03:47:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

How long is sex supposed to last? I always feel like it should be some marathon bcus i want it to be great. Besides quickies, how long should it last? I can go forever i swear but she cant. should i just let it be and be done when im done, i usually try to go for distance? I can make her orgasm in like 2 minutes with my mouth. its confusing, is it just a race to who can get theirs first? Im try to make her orgasm b4 i do but when she does b4 me she gets weak and makes it harder for me.

2007-12-18 03:44:46 · 13 answers · asked by Ammbless 2 in Singles & Dating

hell and I didn't even know it until my body started breaking down.What did it contribute from?I understand the cycle of abuse,negligence,how depression contributes to wrong doings , ignorance of parents to know to get help.(When your own mother treats you different from the other siblings ,So much bad was done to me)I do not Rub it in and Give my Mother a Guilt trip. I don't recall ever blaming her for the Hell I have lived.Why would she slip me news paper clipping from Ann Landers(Parents should stop blaming selves for kids)I totally disagree with the clipping It hurts me that it was sent to me,.And I think it was unappropriate to give it to me.My situation was abuse Landers is talking about lack of emotional nourishment.
And it hurts me because I lived Hell and I Do Not give her blame.Why Did She Feel The Need To Send This To Me.I have done nothing wrong.I should get credit for handling it as well as I have.Landers states shes sick of childern blaming their parents get over it.

2007-12-18 03:44:04 · 11 answers · asked by glenda w 4 in Family

we dont get along now should I get her something not to nice?

2007-12-18 03:39:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This is a very long story and I will try to make it as short as possible. Please note, this will be longer than 1000 characters allowed, so please be patient as I keep adding details below.

I was a widow at 35. I was married to a man with severe bipolar and he was also an alcoholic, his name was Jamie. Jamie had a huge heart and would do anything for anyone when he was mentally healthy and not drinking. The problem was the mental illness was present a majority of the time and so were the alcohol issues. We were married for 5 year's and had one son who is my late husbands namesake but we call my son James, he's is now 7, was 4 when his dad died. So now let me get to the story, just had to give a little info so this could be followed easily.

I met Jamie at a bar. He was on the dance floor being goofy with some coworkers. I was sitting with my friend Mary Jo watching Jamie dance because it was funny.

2007-12-18 03:39:46 · 12 answers · asked by maryannmccarthy2003 6 in Family

Okay, so long story short..My mother and my boyfriend got into a disagreement. I don't agree with either side, I think they are both wrong, and have told them so. My mom refuses to apologize to my boyfriend, and vice versa. My boyfriend said that he is upset with my mom, and refuses to go to any family event that my mother is going to be at. Also, my mother told me that she does not want me to spend Christmas with my boyfriend and his family. She wants me to spend Christmas Eve with my immediate family, and then Christmas Day spend the entire day(11am-5pm) with her extended family and my grandparents. I told her that I agreed to spend xmas eve and xmas day with them but I was not staying the entire day since my boyfriends family has asked me to come to their house on Xmas Day too. I have bought gifts for my boyfriends family including his 2 yr old nephew who I am extremely close with. They have also bought gifts for me. I feel bad not showing up for their ONE christmas celebration when

2007-12-18 03:39:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We've been married for 5 years, when i stopped taking the pill for several medical reasons he decided not to touch me. It's been both painful and dissapointing. I;ve been advised to go and "dossolve" my marriage at the church, is that possible?

I will appreciate any help on this matter.

Thank you all and Happy Holidays!

2007-12-18 03:38:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Does anyone have any ideas for me?All I can seem to find are the large expensive venues.

2007-12-18 03:37:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

We have been married almost 10 yrs and this is the first time. We have 3 kids. I always said that I would leave but now I don't know. I did hit him back. He doesnt want to talk about it and he is not apologizing what should I do?

2007-12-18 03:37:01 · 31 answers · asked by alicia b 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I was speaking with a woman that I work with about a book that help her and her husband improve there sex life and workout at the same time.

The book is called "Ultimate Sex Diet: The Super Sex Diet That Works by McCloskey.

Has any one read the book?

My wife and I go to the gym, but it would be fun to workout at home.

Keep the smart AZZ comments to your self.

2007-12-18 03:34:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

15 years ago i met and married my husband,after marriage we had four beautiful children.together!i am 35 years old now and on my birthday in august which has been4 months ago i found out my husband fathered another chid 11 years ago.the child now is a lil gurl a year younger then my 12 year old son.
my huand wasn`t the one who told me and still denies it till this day.it was the mother of the child who wrote me an email AND TOLD ME.....and i am sure my husband didn`t know he fathered the child ...he was never told before this.seeing this all went down august 30th ....four months ago........i have tried my hardest to be abe to forgive and forget....but i feel like such a fool.i can actually say i do not love my husband like a husband anymore.a friend maybe,but even as a friend i cannot trust him.i want out of this maiage so badly. not only am i mad he hurt me the way he did. but i am mad he hasn`t been there for this child ,cause this child did not ask to be born.

2007-12-18 03:33:42 · 10 answers · asked by mimi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

How to make my fiancee go crazy over me in bed????? Want to do it for our anniversary!!!

2007-12-18 03:31:32 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I live in Newmarket On. (please only answer if you know the area) I have it noarrowed down to 4 locations for my wedding ( Im getting married July 2009) they are, Sunnybrook estates. The Monor, The Mansion. I want to have my ceromny outside in the garden at dusk and than would like to have the reception under a canopy. Has any one had their wedding or been to a wedding at any of these locations im looking for some opinions. Please explain why and examples of why you feel your choice would work

2007-12-18 03:30:22 · 3 answers · asked by Green_eyes 69 3 in Weddings

2007-12-18 03:26:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok me and hubby have a 4month old son together who we love very much. We recently got into a fight He said something that is just now clicking. That all i do is take care of the baby. I do. So I realized that i really havent been giving him the attention he deserves all of it is on our son. I use to do nice things and make him know that he is my everything.since the baby i haven done none of that but have mood swings. So today i ironed his shirt and made him coffee someting i haven done in forever and i can tell that he liked it. I really need a mans point of view. Has any man been through this How did it make you feel and what can i do to make it right again between us. I can tell that it has affected our relationship. We love our son dearly though its just i haven been attentive at all. and im just now seeing it.

2007-12-18 03:25:41 · 28 answers · asked by JennyP 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i know some one that is cheating on his wife. should i tell his wife about it or should i stay out of it let his wife find out herself? any advise.

2007-12-18 03:25:13 · 17 answers · asked by tracy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

the dating sights are lame where do i go to find a younger woman that good and not expencive in biloxi,ms

2007-12-18 03:23:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend bought a car b4 her and her hubby got married, she doesnt drive, and the car was bought for them to use together but put in her name as he had a bad credit rating.
They since married, and have now seperated. He is refusing to give the car back. Can she legally call the police and have it returned as it is in her name, or will it need to be part of the divorce proceedings as she bought it with the intention of him driving it.
We are in the UK.

Thanks.

2007-12-18 03:22:03 · 16 answers · asked by Raych-S 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We are paying for our wedding ourselves. However, fiance's mom has given us $1,000. to help. My mom has paid for my dress & the ceremony site. She will be paying for a limo for the bridal party & is contributing $500. for the honeymoon.

I know you are supposed to list the parents if they sponser the wedding. Although they have contributed some, total cost will be near $10,000 and we are paying the bulk ourselves.

So, since our parents did help, should their names be on the invitations?

2007-12-18 03:16:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

well my freind i ahving guy problems and he is bgeing a big **** and i dont like the way he is treating her and i think that all he wants is u know what! well what should i do and what she i tell her?

2007-12-18 03:13:22 · 17 answers · asked by ♥`•.¸.•´Shorty.`•.¸.•´ 3 in Singles & Dating

If a man complains to you about his financial and family problem like you have the fault to everything. He tried to depart himself from you by getting what he wants, but then he include you in his work of arts? Like he does nude paintings of you without you modeling for him and he crown the things you and him do. Everytime I want to meet up with him he says that he wants to paint and he is not interested in getting married or having children when you're not even bringing it up worse do i have these stuff in mind.

2007-12-18 03:11:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

iam having this problem with the girl i love
she is really really rich and iam in a not bad money shape but the problem is i cant afford all of our going outs together the thing that makes her really really sad
and she says that am special for her thats why she doesnt wanna feel sorry for me
so plz help what should i do??

2007-12-18 03:08:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

and secure in a relatioship.
So if comfort and security make women get fat and dumpy, what makes them get slim and well put together?

2007-12-18 03:08:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Who out there has had an affair? Either side of it. I just want to hear some experience and the turnouts. Thank you

2007-12-18 03:07:57 · 11 answers · asked by Jamie G 5 in Marriage & Divorce

a second lease on life......makes me feel like a queen? He is in his late thirties... Mature answers only please.

2007-12-18 03:07:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce