i know some one that is cheating on his wife. should i tell his wife about it or should i stay out of it let his wife find out herself? any advise.
2007-12-18 03:25:13 · 17 answers · asked by tracy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Me, it would depend on how good of friends we are. If we're not that good of friends I'll stay out of it unless I'm asked!
2007-12-18 03:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Gotta Luv Pure Evil ♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything to anyone no way,no how.The wife probably already suspects this,give her some credit.You don't want to be in the middle of this.If this is a close friend who is doing this just start avoiding him because it's obvious you don't approve.I've seen the messy outcome of such a thing as a another friend said something to the wife & it dragged all the close friends into having to answer the wife's direct questions. I was an inocent bystander,what if any,& how much did I know of the affair & all the friendships fell apart.Leaving many to feel bad for the whole mess & I knew nothing.If you do tell,there will be a domino effect.
2007-12-18 03:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you FOR SURE know?? If you have even the slightest doubt in your mind that he isn't cheating, then stay out of it. Even if you are 100% sure i would still stay out of it. If he is a really good friend of yours, then you have loyalty to him. If your not that great friends with them then it is simply none of your buisness what is going on between the two of them . If she asks you about it or hints that she thinks he is cheating, then say "I have no idea, go talk to your husband"
Telling her will only make problems for you. She will find out on her own eventually.
If you just can't hold it in and your conscious won't let you keep it a secret, have someone else tell her!
2007-12-18 03:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by jessies_song 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends, how close you are to this person or his wife. I have seen this backfire, I would talk to the person who is cheating and see if you can get through. If not, telling her will almost undoubtedly cause nothing but problems for you. It always does even in the best of intentions. It stinks to see this happen and feel that you need to do something, if you are close with these 2 people, see if you can set it up for her to find out or talk with her and ask her to be discreet in how she found out with her husband, make it clear that you just care about her and you are upset by this. Be careful!
2007-12-18 03:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your partner was cheating, wouldn't you want someone to tell you???. Or would you rather not know and go through life unaware and thinking all is well, while meanwhile your better half is banging the daylights out of someone else and coming home with STD's and cooties. Hmnnnn, it maybe is none of your business, but you know, you gotta do what you think you would want somebody else to do for you if you were in the same situation! If you choose to tell her, you can do it anonymously only if you have proof and have seen the infidelity with your own eyes. I actually would want someone to tell me if my partner was cheating. Don't you?.
2007-12-18 03:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by frangipani2124 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'd be wise to steer clear of it. Spouses have a tendency to confront one another.
So...let me tell you exactly what will happen.
You tell Jane. Jane goes home. Jane confronts hubby John. Jane doesn't say "I know you're having an affair". jane says "Tracy says your having an affair". John sweet talks Jane..schmoozes her and amazingly enough, gets her to see it his way.
Now Jane is pissed at you because how could you ever even make such a horrible and slanderous accusation against her loving, faithful and attentive husband?
John in the meantime...is gunning for you. Flat tires on your car. Key scratch the entire length of the right side. Rumors surfacing in work that you're a transvestite.
Get the point there Tracy?
Keep your nose outta it.
2007-12-18 03:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unless you tell EVERY time you are aware of cheating, say nothing. It's wrong to tell just cuz this is a guy you don't like. If you'd inform on your brother or best friend, then tell. If not, stay out of it.
2007-12-18 03:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close you are to this person. Put yourself in her spot. Would you wanta no? Would you belive someone if they told you. I have been cheated on and I was marryed. Does the wife have doubts? Has she talked to you about it? Is the male your freind? Have you talked to him about it? If you would like to talk more I am Michelle or angelic_dream72 in yahoo chat
2007-12-18 03:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront the guy first. Give him the option of confessing to his wife. You don't want to get dragged in the middle of someones marriage. It is a tricky situation.
2007-12-18 03:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by mamabee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say to stay out of it, because you don't want to put yourself in the middle. He will be found out sooner or later.
What if you tell her then she tells her husband about it then says, "Well, so and so said,"
Then she continues to stay with him after all that proof. She will take his side and go against you.
I'm just saying "what if."
Be careful, it could backfire.
2007-12-18 03:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want her for yourself then yeah tell her. J/k, Its really best to stay out of it, unless she is a family member or someone you have known since you were three years old, do not tell her.
2007-12-18 03:30:14 · answer #11 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋