My girlfriend want me to stop watching porn?

Question

I think she is just being controlling. I do not cheat on her. If she is not in the mood, I don't she a problem with it.

I like a lot of your answers, and I think that watching porn when she is in the same room is kind of insensitive. I will do it when she is out. Thanks.

Answer 1

maybe she doesn't like u watchin them cause she is insucure about it.... those girls have booming bodies and some women don't see why their men need to watch them....

why don't u suggest watching it with her so she can see what its all about, maybe she looking at the porn in a bad way, shes not seeing that once in a blue mood then can help get things going , and if she at least agrees to do that tell her u'll stop watching them when shes around....u never know maybe she;'ll change her tune

Answer 2

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Answer 4

Yes sometimes I look at porn also and that's to say that I'm not finding fault with you. However Porn has caused alot of problems, It's very addictive have you noiced that if you watch a porn movie once it doesn't mean much the 2nd time you watch it, It doesn't matter how much of a collection of porn you have, youm have to find one that you haven't seen befor.
That's a problem with many men Yes I'm a man and so I have to be careful. Many men have lost their jobs for downloading ot looking at porn at work....But you'll say I'd never do that. Well if you get addicted to it you will.

So stop watching it for 3 months no naked pictures either. Then see how you feel about it. Give it 90 days just to see for yourself If you can make it that long then you don't need it. And if you continue to look at porn your woman may let you go. She's in the right on this one' Iam sorry about this but this is a problem

Answer 5

Be up front with her - tell her it's only when she's not in the mood (if you haven't explained that already).

Tell her if she wants to compromise that she has all the power to stop you from watching porn. When either partner is in the mood things happen in your relationship. No need for anything like porn now.

But if she says she's too tired, not in the mood, not interested, or whatever - no problem BUT don't get the daggers out when you take care of it yourself with a little porn.

She what she says.

Answer 6

Maybe it is because you get off on the porn. Maybe you seem to enjoy porn more than her. Maybe she wants you to try getting her in the mood, but instead you would rather play with yourself and watch porn. Everyone likes to watch porn once in a while, but once it becomes a regular thiing, you will find that the unkinkiness of regular commited sex, might not be doing it for you anymore and maybe she is noticing.

Answer 7

You have to look at it from her point of view: she doesn't care so much about the actual watching of the porn, but rather what watching porn says about your relationship and your feelings toward her.

To many women, a man watching porn means he is dissatisfied with his female companion. Perhaps she is not attractive enough, she thinks, or perhaps she is bad in bed. It is psychologically damaging to her, because she thinks that watching porn is an 'escape' for you, that she is not good enough to fully satisfy you.

You could communicate to her that it is perfectly normal, and that watching it has nothing to do with her, in that it is not an indicator of dissatisfaction in any way. Straightforward, honest communication is the best way to deal with the problem.

If this is unsuccessful, you may just have to decide to stop watching porn. Perhaps it will come to that, perhaps not, but it never hurts to try.

Answer 8

First off I don't want to make you feel guilty about watching porn, but the sad truth is that the vast majority of women who appear in porn were at one time abused or raped and this experience is partly how they wound up in porn. So, in essence you are benefitting from their misfortune.
http://www.oneangrygirl.net/antiqoute2.htm and you can find a ton of boring statistics as well. All will reiterate what I just wrote.

That being said, I don't think porn in and of itself is bad. It really depends on what u r watching..rR u watching 2 people have fun making love to each other? Or r u watching a girl get jumped and raped? What exactly did your gf catch u watching?

Also, watching porn can have an effect on your sex life with your gf. Alot of men find sex with their wives or gf to be boring in comparison to the porn they have been exposed to. Porn is not reality. In reality women aren't airbrushed vaginas just waiting for a man's penis. In reality most girls don't want to have 10 guys f****ing them and c*** on their face. Girls don't typically weigh 99 lbs with size D implants and do all these wild things everytime they have sex.

My husband watches porn A LOT and I never cared, but lately I've wondered if it has been causing problems in our marriage. That's not the case for everyone though. So, have a talk with her and see why it bothers her that you watch it. Maybe she is insecure, maybe she feels that the girls in porn are being used, maybe she was abused, maybe she is very religious, maybe she feels like she can't compete, maybe she is trying to control you. In order to find out the reason, you guys have to communicate. But, bottom line: Is watching porn worth causing problems with people you care about?

Answer 9

My questions would be, how often are you watching it? Do you choose the porn over her? There is a difference between watching porn and being addicted to it. Find out what her issue is with the porn. If it bothers her that bad and will cause problems in your relationship, then amybe you should stop.

Answer 10

Yeah if my husband was watching porn I wouldnt mind so its not all women, but men become to watch porn alot and get addicted to it then they go up to their girlfriends or wifes and want to try out what they see in porn movies with their partners, and women are scared of that. And then men become so addicted to it that they become sexually violent, so that's why women are the way they are, it actually makes sense really if you think about it. But I understand that porn is very popular and I dont think she should stop you she should just be reasonable with you about your porn watching. But I hope you dont get addicted to it like most men and I must admit I have a peak sometimes, it's normal lol :)

Hope I helped!